funclassydom 53 / M
"Capture the mind the rest will follow.."
San Diego, California, United States
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funclassydom 53/M
San Diego, California
Your girlfriend invites you to a dinner party. You both walk up to the bar where there are several single men and women chatting about dating, romance and sensuality. You begin to listen to a lively discussion between a man and woman where the gent is expressing his view that most women he has encountered are only interested in men for monetary gain. The woman is commenting that the men she has been meeting lack the depth, adventure, eroticism and the fun that she is looking for.
You notice there is a gent who has not spoken and has a quiet confidence about him and he just raised his eyebrow over the last comment. His smile is warm, sexy, and genuine but yet his demeanor drips of confidence, rather than cocky, and sensuality. The conversation continues and almost everyone is expressing their displeasure in dating, sensuality. Finding a good partner is like finding a good parking spot. The good ones appear taken and the rest appear handicapped. You ask the gent with the smile what he thinks but you are surprised by his answer.
He looks directly in your eyes and with the utmost conviction states, "Men have forgotten how to be men. They have forgotten that it is a man’s job to protect and provide. To protect a woman’s emotions and feelings and provide an environment where she feels safe and can be 100% all woman. Women have forgotten how to be women and how to treat their men.” The group falls silent. Another gent, under his breath, mumbles “provide and protect? What does that have to do with good sex?”
You ask the confident gent, "Well then what do you really believe?" You think to yourself, this should be good but you did not expect to be saying “Oh my.” He leans forward, looks right inside you and says that he believes that dating should be fun, that life is not a dress rehearsal, and we were not promised a round trip ticket. That baggage is for the bellman and laughter is life’s panacea. He believes in the small of a women’s back, the scent of the shirt she wore yesterday, that doors should be opened, and that a man walks on the outside. That the spice vanilla should be kept in the kitchen and the spices in the kitchen be brought into the bedroom. That on fourth and one you should go for it, and that Lee Harvey Oswald did not act alone. That if you are with the right person even taking out the trash is fun and if you are not having fun, you are doing something wrong. That chocolate goes with champagne not with Valentine’s Day, and lingerie is the gift of choice on the 14th of February and any day ending in “Y.” He then glances at the man making fun of his protect and provide comment for a few seconds then gets even closer to you, turns toward you and looks in your eyes and asks, “If I do not provide an atmosphere for you to feel protected, how I would expect you to want to ask me to pull that skirt up and bend you over? If I, as the man, do not make you feel protected and comfortable and provide that safe place in your head for your most erotic desires, why would I think you would want to be all woman?” Men have forgotten how to be men and how to treat women and women have forgotten how to treat their man. Your girlfriend whispers in your ear “Oh my, he can pull up my skirt right now.”
After catching your breath you ask, “ Is that all?” The group is silent wondering how he will answer your question. He looks directly at you and states that if you want the fun and adventure of crossing an ocean, you must be willing to lose sight of the shore. He states that the four cornerstones of eroticism and sensuality are communication, respect, trust and desire. That integrity starts with an “I” and there is no “I” in team, and that desire is the wild card and the cornerstones require maintenance. That respect and trust are never demanded, rather earned. That a kiss is not a kiss unless it lasts between 30 seconds and 3 days, that the Christmas list should be determined by both naughty and nice, the presents should be opened on Christmas day not Christmas Eve, and that hand cuffs and blindfolds make interesting gifts. At this point your girlfriend again whispers in your ear, “Oh my…”
The woman behind your girlfriend asks why he chose those 4 corner stones and the other gent (that was complaining earlier) asks what makes him so different. The confident gent explains that anyone can have sex and perform sex but the cornerstones make sex go from good to better, from hot to steamy, from fun to I want to do that again and again with that person. The answer, he explains, is “Capture the mind and the rest will follow.” If I can get inside your head, if I can capture your imagination your mind and your erotic thoughts, then I have the opportunity to take the experience from hot to sizzle, from fun to I want more. The only way to really capture the mind and to get inside your head is to at some level, establish the four cornerstones. He looks directly into you and asks in this short conversation has helped to establish some level of trust, makes you realize I can communicate, that there is an element of Mutual respect, and the wild card is desire. How much do you desire to let your hair down and let your most erotic desires be fulfilled. He then looks at the gent who asked what makes him different and states that I really enjoy capturing the others mind.
You now nudge ever so slightly a little more in front of your friend as if to say I was talking to him first when the women to your left states “What if there are times I don’t want to be respected, I want to be taken, I want to be used, I want my ass slapped and my hair pulled. I want to be taken and told what to do?” You did not expect his response when he tells you, “let’s kick it up a level or three. It is not the act, rather the mind. If you have desires and I get in your head, I can make your wants and desires so intense that I capture your mind. That is when we go from want and desire , to I want that again and again. if I get in your head, as in the context of a D/S relationship, and I have not earned your respect and vice versa, it would be impossible to capture your mind to the point you cannot wait to have your ass slapped or hair pulled held tightly. If I can capture your mind and respect is established, you will trust me to do things you only imagined in your private fantasies. Without capturing the mind, it is just sex. Ordinary sex, ordinary relationships, ordinary and boring. He looks at you and states, “I am not ordinary and I know you are not boring, so why would you want ordinary sex or an ordinary relationship?”
Capture the mind the rest will follow.
He hears you whisper, “Oh My”, he leans into you and puts his mouth next to your ear so only you can hear. He asks if you looking for that erotic needle in the haystack… You nod your head in agreement. He continues to whisper that to find that needle, it should be fun and would take effort.
If you care to move some hay and start looking for that needle…I look forward to hearing from you.

  • 53 / male
  • San Diego, California, United States
Sexual Orientation:
Straight / Prefer not to say
Looking For:  Women
Birthdate: July 25, 1963
Marital Status: Single
Body Type: Athletic
Race: Caucasian
Speaks: English
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