Now onto the good stuff. We are a happily married couple who have been entertaining the idea of bringing some spice to our sex life in the way of another person(s) for YEARS over pillow talk. We *very* recently decided to dive in head first, and now hear we are. We went on a few 'dates', went to a sex club (but didn’t do anything) then had our first experience a few weeks ago with a couple we met on here. Unfortunately, soon after we hooked up with them we realized that people in the lifestyle can also be some of the fakest people out there. Based on this first experience we set down some ground 'rules' of things that we liked and didn't like, but please don't take these as criteria. After all, rules are meant to be broken, right?! First, please notice that I said 'happily' married. And we mean it. This decision is in NO way something to replace something that is missing from our sex life. We are simply here to enhance what we already got going on. If you are searching for a replacement in your marriage, please move along. We definitely are NOT the couple for you. We have been married almost ten years, and have a little one. We can host but it would have to be on the weekends or evenings only. We can go out, and love doing so, but some notice would be needed. We really are the local bar type of couple. We enjoy BBQ'ing, hanging out and spa nights with some good music and great wine.
She is outgoing, smart, witty and fun. She will know everyone in the bar by the end of the night, but can equally make a man feel like she only has eyes for him. She is a smartass, and can sometimes allow her words to come out unfiltered. She has been told that she can make a man’s body do things it normally wouldn’t do, and that she is -really- good at what she does. She aims to please. She is 5'7, but LOVES her heels, has got a great rack and a bubble butt. She is shaved where needed and groomed where needed. She is Italian, but looks like a white girl. She is first attracted to men, but is looking forward to experiencing a woman in every sense of the word. She was extremely turned on by hearing her hubby pleasure another woman.
He is her opposite. He is calm, a people watcher and an excellent listener. He will give you his undivided attention and will truly make you feel like the only woman in the room. He has a very big..... heart..... wink wink..... among other things, and will melt you with his crystal blue eyes. He will amaze a woman in bed because he will actually listen to your cues and respond as needed. He's good at what he does and will not disappoint. He is well groomed and smells good. He is an excellent kisser, and if you let him, his wandering hands will turn you on in ways you never thought possible. He is STRICTLY STRAIGHT, but understands that there may be some bumping and touching. He is turned on by watching her with another man.
We LOVE kissing. When we first started this, kissing was STRICTLY OFF LIMITS. But it's one of those rules that quickly changed for us when we realized the benefit it has for us. We are confessed 'lip sluts'. Kissing is the pre-cursor to everything for us. We are financially secure and don’t mind going out for drinks, dinner or a show, but we are not here to pave the way for someone else or another couple.
NO SINGLE/GAY/BI MEN.
My Ideal Person First and foremost, we are looking for a single girl, or couple.
NO SINGLE/GAY/BI MEN.
We are into white guys/ gals, or at least looking white. Not racist, just our type. We will not just jump into bed with anyone (unless you are Channing Tatum or Carrie Underwood). We WILL have to meet up on a date before we do anything, maybe drinks or dinner, and at this date, we MUST click. Be it from your witty sense of humor, coy smile, sweet lower lip biting that she does when she’s nervous, whatever, we must get along, be attracted and "click". She likes older guys, in their mid 30's to mid 40's, but again, it's a thing that isn't set in stone. She likes bigger guys, in every sense of the word. She is a sucker for blue or green eyes, and a good kisser. She loves an outgoing guy that can handle her smart-ass nature, and challenge her intellectually. She LOVES kinky texting. Honestly, if you can turn her on through texting, you've won 9/10ths of the battle. She loves wit, and confidence (and understands that sometimes it comes off as cockiness ) and loves a guy that can take charge.
He likes younger girls, so mid 20's to mid 30's, and is a sucker for blondes (but again, wifey is a brunette, so....) and loves a good conversation. He is turned on by a great kisser. A passionate woman. A girl who knows how to respond to him in bed through soft moaning or screaming his name.
If you contact us on here, you will most likely be messaging him, but if we exchange phone numbers, chances are you’ll be texting her. If you want to get to know him, either call him, or meet up with us.
Honestly, we are looking for a normal couple, who wants another couple to add to their sex life. We don’t expect perfection, but cleanliness is a must. Personality goes a LONG way with us. Impress her through texts/ on the phone and you’re almost there. Our first experience started with some witty texts, then a meet up at a local bar, some freaking amazing kissing, then our lifestyle cherries being popped. Play your cards right and we could do that with you. We don’t like flakes (though we understand that plans can change) and HATE liars. Just be honest. And when we meet, we just all have to click. We want a long-term thing, though, with one or two other women/ couples. We are not looking to beat any records. And no, we do not want to hook up tonight, then go on a date tomorrow. We want a friends with benefits kind of thing.
And hey, you never know if you’re our type, unless you ask. Hit us up, and let’s see where this could all go.
What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Her: pretty much everything, Him: same
What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Physical attraction, Sexual appetite, Mutual attraction, likability.
Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.
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Straight / Bi-curious
|Looking For: Women or Couples (man/woman)|
|Swinger Type:||Sex with others|
|Have Children:||Yes. We live together.|
|Want Children:||Happy with what we have|
|Birthdate:||October 16, 1983||August 19, 1984|
|Relocate?:||Prefer not to say||Prefer not to say|
|Height:||>6 ft 4 in / >195 cm||5 ft 7 in|
|Smoking:||I'm a non-smoker||I'm a non-smoker|
|Drinking:||I'm a light/social drinker||I'm a light/social drinker|
|Drugs:||I don't use drugs||I don't use drugs|
|Education:||Some college||Some grad school|
|Religion:||Prefer not to say||Prefer not to say|
|Bra Size:||N/A||36 / 80 DD (E, if no DD)|
|Glasses or Contacts:||None||Either|