Before you flirt, email, etc., please be sure what WE want is compatible with what YOU want. Otherwise, flirting is pointless. It's frustrating getting flirts from people who don't read our profile, or flirt and don't follow through. We are PolySimi on another, classier site: K, and at the who. We are NOT SWINGERS!! We are POLYAMOROUS. That means sex with love. We ARE looking for emotional connection UP TO and INCLUDING LOVE. Yes, this is a "sex" site. Are you aware that sex is a form of love? Why choose one form only, when there's so much joy in adding the others? Release your fear, give in to love.... We do not have casual sex or one night stands. If we set up a second date it's because we know we want an ongoing relationship with you. Hubby is NOT alpha, he's a lover. If you're a Pillow Princess who's interests begin and end with taking your clothes off, lying down somewhere, closing your eyes then being serviced by a male appendage, you'll be disappointed. If you want to look into his eyes and connect with him, touch and kiss him like you're actually interested in the per behind the flesh, then you will get along famously, and the sex will be fabulous. He likes curvy women. He loves women, age is irrelevant, attitude and connection are paramount. Wife is picky about male appearance. If you might remind her of her of a "dad", she won't be interested. We have our age range open further than we might seem appropriate, but there are older males out there she finds attractive. If she's not attracted, don't take it perally. It's not you, it's her. We cannot post Face Pics in our open profile because discretion is critical for us. Apparently that's becoming less and less important for many, but not for us. We are real. Are you? If you're interested in us, be assured, we will [I]gladly[/I] send you our face pics! If these things don't work for you, then we are NOT for you. And for Pete's sake people, PROOFREAD your profile! Seriously, you may think it doesn't matter, but spelling errors and sentence fragments aren't cool, they make you look lazy and not really caring about how you're perceived. You think that makes people want to have sex with you? Think again.... We now continue with our regularly scheduled program.... She is [B][SIZE 2][COLOR blue]bisexual[/COLOR][/SIZE][/B], he is [SIZE 2][B][COLOR blue]straight[/COLOR][/B][/SIZE]. We are a drama-free couple married 21 years in Oct. '14 (finally legal! lol), and still completely in love. We're of the mindset that love, especially physical love, enhances existing solid relationships where there is no hiding and everyone happily shares. If we've viewed your profile more than once it's very likely we find you interesting, but being "zero pressure" peralities, we often only send a flirt unless we get indications from you that you're interested also. We get that it's hard to put yourself out there, but we don't bite, so please send us mail if you like what you read. Despite our length of time on this site we are not "pros" here, do not intend to be, and are still looking for the few select couples and/or single women who are a fit for us. We aren't "exploring" for the purpose of pushing our boundaries. We're looking for grounded, pleasant people with whom we can have not only intimate, sexual sharing, but can be great friends and hopefully even share love. We don't (and won't) consider ourselves "swingers". We reject any connection to the anonymous sense the word "swinger" conveys and have deliberately kept the word "lifestyle" absent from our description. Please be honest with yourselves. If developing an emotional connection to someone outside your primary relationship is something you'd be uncomfortable about for you or your spouse, then we aren't for you. We don't require it, but we don't avoid becoming emotionally attached to our lovers, and do love it when they feel that way about us. Emotionally connected sex is far better than the alternative. Are we trying to steal spouses? NO!! We are polyamorous (little "p", which means it's who we are, not a label to make us look cool), which means "many loves". We are NOT NSA! We require intimacy with playmates, not merely genital satiation. We love foreplay, kissing, taking time in bed and not being rushed to either get into, or out of one. We need you to enjoy kissing and being kissed. Then kissing some more. Connected sex is a goodness, disconnected sex is pointless, we don't grok it. We both speak "kiss" fluently, please kiss us! We don't play on the first date, aside from maybe some casual(ish) touching, or maybe some chemistry-induced kissing. Once we click, from the second date on, if the flow takes us there, we are a full swap, full sex (she doesn't enjoy anal, and sorry bro, you won't be the one to "fix" it) couple. For us, Soft Swap is foreplay on the way to everything else we enjoy. Variations are natural and welcome, but we go into this with you expecting to swap eventually. We aren't voyeurs, for voyeurism's sake. If it happens incidentally, ok, but it's not something we have as a goal. That being said, [U][COLOR chocolate]we strongly prefer separate room play[/COLOR][/U], because the off-beat rhythms of a crowded bed make concentration on a partner difficult, and it's easier to form connections separately than in a group setting. Once we have real relationships developing, four-on-a-bed, three, whatever, becomes more appealing and fun. Just be secure enough in your relationship to accept that two-at-a-time is just as valid as any other combination. If you're too insecure to play in a separate room, you might want to re-think this "swinging" thingy.... If we match, we are also open to hall passes and enjoy them very much with couples committed to a foursome with us. So for your benefit consider; we are very low mileage, clean both hygienically and pathologically (occasional cold sores only), very easy to be with and demonstrably selective. While we are low mileage as far as playmates goes, we've spent an amazing amount of time chatting, screening, and even meeting potential matches. The lower mileage you are, the more likely we're a fit, but we completely welcome those of you with substantial experience. We are learning as we go here, and wisdom from experience is a good thing. We aren't hardbodies, but we aren't out of control either (think: [I]almost[/I] HWP ;) ), and we are good lovers very much into giving and receiving oral pleasures, with our great joys residing in pleasing our partners. If you think only hardbodies can be good lovers, why not try experimenting with us to see if your hypothesis is valid? ;) If your profile has you listed as a couple and you say something like "I'm looking for....", git along little dogie, git along.... and on that note, lot's of women (more every day) in a profile listed as a single female tell everyone they are married. If you don't know how to fill out profile basics, how do you expect people to take you seriously? Seriously.

My Ideal Person No Single Men!

Be prepared to have a video chat in different chat venue than here, because we will only do video on our iPhones and do not do video here. We need to have a "conference" call with the four (or three) of us before we commit to meet. A video chat for the four of us to have some face time (we aren't going to do video sex, sorry) before a first date is preferable also, but we live in a small house with a 12 year old who has exceptionally good auditory skills, so both voice and video require some planning as well.

Couples: You are very happily married. Every relationship has its own dynamic and drama, but if managing your drama, or adapting to changes in plans or expectations with us that are a normal part of life isn't your forte, we may not be the couple for you. You are seeking Friends at least as much as you're seeking Benefits. We are NOT NSA! We don't play on short notice, and if we play we expect to see you again. Bi-comfortable+ wives are welcome, but if you're straight that's not at all a deal breaker, the wife, in the end, wants the X/Y combo plate. Hubby is straight, not at all curious, but not homophobic either.

Single Women: We cannot emphasize this strongly enough: Drama FREE!! Been there, done that, had our fill. No married women playing behind their husband's back. If hubby knows, then we can discuss your situation and see from there. Age is irrelevant. Maturity is ALL. That being said, younger women, you need to bring your A-game from a communication and general maturity standpoint, your perky tits and tight pussy won't be enough for us. However, we assure you that we are MORE than worth it. We are currently VERY open to finding a poly unicorn, not just a fuck toy.

Men: Cock size isn't terribly important. This wife is average in her tolerances, so very small may not be enough (but she is open to discussion), and extra length hurts more than it pleases, so don't expect your 19" cock to be a selling point. Thickness is her main sensory desire, so in general, thicker is better.

Women: Breast size isn't important. A natural appearance is far, far sexier than any non-medically-indicated augmentation, but we honestly keep an open mind. Breasts respond to gravity and time, and that's perfectly ok.

Oh, did we mention we need you to email us? Thanks!

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
B-52's, Police, Clash, Orchestral Maneouvres in
the Dark

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
Anywhere

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Ability to be discreet, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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