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Original Article

Is This a Setup?
by Dr. Z and Dr. Downs

Relationships may be more complicated than ever, but the eternal truth is, sex is – and should be – good. In order to help you get the most out of your sex life, you need advice from experts on both sides of the bed: Martin Downs, M.P.H., and Victoria Zdrok, Penthouse Pet and Ph.D. A reader asks: My girlfriend of six months has a really hot BFF, and my girlfriend has told me on several occasions that she wouldn't mind if I wanted to hook up with her friend. My inner voice tells me she wouldn't mind in theory, but if I really did go ahead and fuck her friend she'd probably

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cballerj32 32 M
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I agree. Sex should be good.

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Sound advice; I'd hint at the 3way myself and let the
gf set it up.

affON 62 M
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victoria_zdrokVictoria, Martin: Thanks yours
again!

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Very well said!

26597485 30 M
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good nice:X[bling
514187]

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I'd be careful.

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she may be setting you up, women are tricky that way. or she
may havea fantasy about you fucking her friend. next time
she says it tell her you would be glad too, but she has sto
be there with you even if her and bff are not gonna play with
each other. if she is settin you up you will be able to see
the anger in her face when you start kissin ect the bff and
stop befor it goes too far. likewise you will bee able to
see the passion sparking if it really turns her on and can
fuck the bff and her too

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If she's saying you can fuck her bff when you two have
been together for only 6 months, it sounds like A) she's
setting you up and B) she has self esteem issues. You can
fuck her, but only if you're willing to put up with the
fighting that comes later. Of course, a threesome might
be the safest and most fun option, so if you can make it happen,
go for it.

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dude go ahead, even if she pissed will be off, its her fault.

oag1957a 67 M
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its a test if you want to stay together its no if your not go for it and see what happens

Garlandj9 44 M
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I find the games that are played like this are a big waste
of time. I'm unsure if it is me but I seem to attract those
that want to start trouble. I guess this is the problem with
being honest. In this case if the situation was not only
proposed but orchestrated by the girlfriend then there
is no reason not to have fun. Of course if there were telltale
signs before of her playing with your head before, stay
away from such a thing.

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It soonds to good to be true, if you want to put this to the
test ask your girl if she cool wiith a threeway, if yes then
your probably alright and have fun If she says no then it
sounds like a trap, and if she leaves it up to you saying she
doesn't care then it's trap as well. So 1/3 chance
it's a not a trap not good oddss Id say.

_JKH_ 69 M
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Could be !

Rocky55408 48 M
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The whole thing sounds bogus. First off, if she says you
can get with her friend, that doesn't mean you have
permission to just up and do her friend whenever you feel
like it. It means she THINKS she wouldn't mind. The
simplest way to handle any situation where you think she's
offering something she really can't follow through
on (or as a trap) is to say if she wanted you to do it, you think
you could but that it would be up to her to set it all up.

omar26_69 38 M
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Muy bueno como siempre espero léer mas articulos pronto

joystar101 26 M
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hummmmm! its very good

joystar101 26 M
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i belive sex is good.. but mach is not good

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get all three of you together and see where it goes but don't
make the first move.

massiveguy 46 M
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nice article, but we should be careffull with the forbiden
fruit her bff

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It could be a setup, but it may not be. If you had doubts, talk
with your significant other and look at the pros and cons
of everything.

PaulT452 38 M
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Admiral Ackbar is needed.

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I agree. Sex should be good.

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I think you should have a three some as to just fucking the
bff.

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I wish it was sex. But it is just a test

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I agree en your article

omar26692 39 M
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muy buen articulo espero y sigan poniendo mas

saec001 42 M
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Go ahead she started the idea. To be safe get the three of
you together and add some drinks. Look what happens

letscruse 52 M
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she might of already fucked your friends and wants to even
up the field check her out and go ahead and fuck her friend

huck2099 53 M
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Really sounds like a test to me.

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Its a trap! Beware

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It is definitely a test that you don't want any part
of if you want to stay with your girlfriend.

swmiguy48 54 M
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Been there, done that. Wouldn't do again.

mexicok2 41 M
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gracias por los consejos ...bueno

rm_kl28263 32 M
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hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

rm_girmi68 47 M
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INTERESSANTE

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i sayu go for it hunnie why not enjoy your self

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fuck her good?*B)

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eat pussy(Y)

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i believe sex is good and enjoy it whenever u can

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Don't make the first move. Anyway I'm more interested
to know the lady with leopard spot bra ;)

Twist787 41 M
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You both seem pretty confident that the friend wants you.



Anyway, either your girlfriend doesn't place a high
value on loyalty or she's setting you up. Either way
she's not a great long term prospect. You should probably
dump her. After the threesome, I mean

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Try starting with your girlfriend and someone not so close
to her. If that turns out good then invite her friend.

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I agree with Dr. Downs, Talk to her and the friend at the same
time. If she is for real, thats when it will come out. Worked
for me.

mexicok2 41 M
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comunication is the key ...

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Its always a setup! Lol, so watch out! ;)

DTHosen 55 M
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Nice post. Sex is love and love is sex

xxxhardyy 37 M
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go for it dude ,

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go for it man, do her, she's problably better anyway.

Asimovcp 62 C
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Very well said.

shswsh 61 C
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Depends on the individual.

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set up or not but go for it buddy :). i don't think you
will have any guilt after this so everything is ok.

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The attitude toward oral sex represents a dramatic and
sudden shift in thinking since 1991, when a similar survey
found that nearly twice as many young adults (about 40 percent)
would classify oral-genital contact as sex.

thacarter 26 M
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I would love to have that dilemma

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looks like a set up

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extremely nice article

diver600 43 C
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muy bueno ...

ddnasty21 34 M
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Approach this carefully and definitely have the sit down
with all three of yall.

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go for the threeway, best option fo sho

grumbles28 43 M
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Sounds pretty sketchy.

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yeah, the three way's the way to go!

cockhot4u 46 M
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ja till fri 6

cockhot4u 46 M
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ja till fri 6

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Tell her "Ok babe, Friday nite after work at 6:00 if
I'm late go ahead n start without me" If you walk
in at 6:30 n' they're hard at it... CHA.. ching,
and if it's a no show you're still safe.

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【我不想让你孤单忧伤】 词曲; 白冰
制作;白冰 后期处理;白冰 没你会寂寞
孤独陪着我 只能默默期盼着 你幸福和快乐
既然没有爱 何必在等待 伤了自己谁疼你
就当他不存在 花儿就要开 春天已到来
早已等着这一天 我把你搂在怀 我心在呼唤
呼唤你的爱 如果再次遇上你 永远不会分开
我不想让你孤单忧伤 我愿意守在 守在你的身旁
就算是暴雨和疯狂 我不想让你孤单忧伤
我宁愿承受 你所有的悲伤 只要你快乐着每一天
我宁愿承受 你所有的悲伤 只要你快乐着每
一天。

rusty69267 62 M
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Great advice, would play it softly and see what happens

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Interesting situation to be in!

sneakygolf 70 M
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Yes, a three sum.

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It is definitely a stimulating topic for your girlfriend.Do
you know your girlfriend well enough to know how she will
react?

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Why not go for the 3-way, if it works out you may be having
a lot of them in the future.

050119672 48 M
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Good article

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this sounds like a little bit of insecurity, and a little
bit of cuosity.It"s like i tell my wife.If i'm
gonna do anything, i wont do it unless she's present.So
i've been their, and the way that was resolved is..By
telling my girlfriend that if she don't mind me fucking
her friend.She would have to show me what she wanted me to
do.And that way she can't get mad or pissed off, and
dump you.

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do not do it,

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This could be a setup but there is also the possibility that
she has someone else that she would like to have sex with
or already has.Her permission to fuck her friend might
be her way of evening the score so to speek.

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i agree to that its nice.

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I agree with many, set up the three-way or forget it

jimxnjx2 32 M
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If you love your gf and are woeeied about her leaving you,
then you SHOULD be happy just being with her. If she doesnt
satisfy you and you have desires to be with some one else...
then you're obviously not THAT into your gf so it wont
matter if she dumps you... Either hit it or foreget it!!!

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If you are happy with your gf then don't. She may be testing
you. Wanting to see whether you're loyal or not. If
you're still keen, ensure that you really have a heart
to heart talk with her first.

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It is a trap.

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if it is a setup, then fuck her. If not... fuck yes (for you)

la_canalla 43 F
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I agree. Sex should be good.

dakemas 46 M
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Sin duda, el sexo es muuuuy bueno

NFJ34 34 M
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I only WISH my girlfriend had a hot friend to even consider
this with. lol

jttk05 42 M
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it honestly depends on the context of the relationship
as a whole, if you and your chic aren't completely open
to each other, then yeah it could be an instant setup, but
at the same point, if you know how your chic thinks and she
knows how you think, it could be a point in the relationship
where ya'll might start to occasionally experiment
with 3somes and more. just my thoughts.

buffmike80 43 M
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I would be careful!

need430 61 M
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Tell her only if you want a threeway, and see where it goes.

discman90 23 M
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Be careful

shswsh 61 C
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Sounds like a setup.

camus0219 39 M
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que linda imagen y que padre articulo

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nice article

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I like it.

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id go for the 3way, you already have permission and that
is half of the battle.

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beware, it could be a trap.

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good article though

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If you want to keep her say your in only if she is involved
in a three way and be careful to show her more attention and
look at her when you blow your nut.

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Looks like a set-up to me!

rm_mazzddd 47 M
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sex must be good

rm_xxxfeel 29 M
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always better be alone... >:)

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Ah a very suttle test that should not be taken lightly. DONT
DO IT!! IT'S A TRAP!!

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Treading on thin ice brother ... hahaha .... I'd have
the GF participate so there are no repercussions later.
Good Luck B)

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Thanks for the comments.

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I DEFINITELY agree to tread with caution. Even if she legitimately
means it at the beginning, there's no way that resentment
wouldn't build.

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The whole thing is, is she testing the waters of your faithfulness
or some boundaries that she wants t opush through and explore
later on like an open relationship or three-ways.

Cherbr721 65 C
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My lady told me that and we ended up in a three way. I say go
for it and roll with the flow.

horntoad61 53 M
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if it swims like a duck and quacks like a duck, it sure sounds
like a set-up to me.

wanted815 31 M
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best go on man :D

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i think it is a setup...

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I'd definitely be suspicious!

69octantis 52 M
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The trap is loaded - what's she thinking?

SithFooser 41 M
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its a setup or not haha

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It sounds like a set-up/test. I would ask her why she doesn't
mind or what she likes about the idea. Does she want a 3-way?
Is she looking to do her bff's boyfriend? I would tell
her you're only interested in her, but if she has a real
fantasy about you fucking her bff or a 3some with her bff,
you're open to discussing further with both of them.

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It sounds like a set-up/test. I would ask her why she doesn't
mind or what she likes about the idea. Does she want a 3-way?
Is she looking to do her bff's boyfriend? I would tell
her you're only interested in her, but if she has a real
fantasy about you fucking her bff or a 3some with her bff,
you're open to discussing further with both of them.

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It sounds like a set-up/test. I would ask her why she doesn't
mind or what she likes about the idea. Does she want a 3-way?
Is she looking to do her bff's boyfriend? I would tell
her you're only interested in her, but if she has a real
fantasy about you fucking her bff or a 3some with her bff,
you're open to discussing further with both of them.

uncut4348 66 M
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You are flipping crazy if you fuck her friend

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I agree, but before you do the 3some you should tell that
she is the most import person. and that no one will take her
place....

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i think this requires some delicate communication :)

rm_xRosen 30 F
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no entiendo

rm_xRosen 30 F
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no entiendo

rm_xRosen 30 F
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no entiendo

rm_xRosen 30 F
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no entiendo

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very good article.

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defiently a set up. if your gf hasnt ever talked about it
to both you and her bff then stay away

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defiently a set up. if your gf hasnt ever talked about it
to both you and her bff then stay away

Doc77303 54 M
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My wife did this to me when we were dating. I thought if was
a 'test' as well and politely refused the offer....kind
of wished I hadn't now :D

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If it sounds to good to be true its got to be a setup defiently

rm_aldoct2 50 M
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very good, this is sex =D%

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Honey trap?


Poison chalice?


Beware...

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Hmm, this is a hard one to decipher given the information.
Many think she is only testing you, and she may be. After
6 months, though, if you have both been open with each other,
she might just be trying to feel you out and ease you both
to another level. I know that, for myself, even though I
was very open with my previous husband, bringing in my BFF
was the only way he could think about starting to be open,
and knowing it just wasn't another cock that I was desiring.
The key to all of this is communication. You should never
hide who you are, what you want, or your own personal desires
or fantasies. That is how resentment and infidelity takes
hold. Even then, there is no assurance that an insecure
person will not take it the wrong way. But, ultimately,
what you want in a relationship is security on both sides,
but still have the freedom to be who you are. We all compromise
in ways, but it is always best to find your equal, that person
that has the same wants, goals, desires, and confidence
that can always make both of you happy and satisfied in all
areas...

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Just be careful bro. Looks fishy

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Be careful bro. Looks fishy

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c'est un piege, faire tres attention

rusty69267 62 M
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good advice. play her out and see if she really wants it

SINSERIOUS 48 C
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Tread very carefully. You never know what lurks in the mind
of a woman! Even if she thinks she is OK with it she could find
out you being with her best friend is a bit too close for comfort...or
it could be one damn good time. Mrs Sin

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id proced with caution

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debe ser genial tener unas amigas lesbianas que juegen
a los trios con uno jejeje

WeAndYou23 35 C
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I'd be careful.

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Ha Ha it's a big old dirty honey trap, DONT GO THERE!

SimiGye 74 M
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Me thinks your sweetie is testing you. I think it would be
ok if the three of you sat and talked about it. Even if you
did have her permission after talking, things might still
unravel later on with her. I have never encountered a woman
who felt like that...

Kurama92 28 M
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I fucked two of my girls best friends and she was the one who
brought it up. She seemed quite happy afterwards

istokhodus 43 M
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i think your gf wants to check on your loyalty. but u dont
worry and be loyal to her by accepting whatever she says....have
sex with your gf until she goes to sleep and then take on her
frind

jimmya8199 39 M
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Tread carefully. I would be it was a test.

MLCOGuy 40 M
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been said more than once...let her set it up

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true, well spoken

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true, well spoken

rm_muld00n 38 M
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Do both... :)

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woohoo, have some fun

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Men need to learn to manipulate women better to get what
they want. Should have made her think it was her idea.

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heyy gr8 article keep them coming:)

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doesnt matter so long as it s don properly

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i agree sometimes having set up sex is better compared to
none

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Always trust your instinct. If you suspect a set-up, don't
do it!

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great article thanks for the reading you are so right

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great article thanks for the reading you are so right

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great article thanks for the reading you are so right

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Good information in here

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Good information in here

potw 34 M
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Great question! Id have to agree with Downs, ask the questions,
either its a go or just a ploy.

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great article mate!

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sounds great man

enprimate3 47 M
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Sounds like a test to me

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It definitely sounds like a setup on her part. Be careful
about how to proceed.

satx99 47 M
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good one, a setup

hhraypo27 50 M
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Don't do it - haven't you ever seen Chasing Amy...?
lol

yasiel1 32 M
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relationships = complicated , drama... NSA = just sex, fun, good time!!

hardfun7 30 M
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lol she is setting you up good

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definately a setup, dont fall for it.

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definately a setup, dont fall for it, just saying.

sainmtx 47 M
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good article

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good story

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what is the worst that can happen? lol

Kram_025 37 M
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Good advice.... Its very risky....

rm_r_cw23 38 M
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too risky if try

rcw_0101 47 M
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yes, it is good

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well tell me about its it's crazy !