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zenyen 65M
121 posts
4/17/2005 8:33 pm

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Your preferences

What are your preferences? My profile almost never gets a view unless I contact someone. Is it because of my age (54)? What age ranges do you put in your cupid preferences and your search info? How much older and younger a person would you be willing to meet? I personally set the range pretty wide - 15-20 younger and older. I don't want to automatically eliminate someone just based on that number. Some 50 year olds (or 60 or 70) are pretty damned old and some are pretty young. Hell, some people in their mid 40's are old.

zenyen 65M

4/19/2005 10:44 am

I look at a lot of profiles where we're not a 100% match only because of age. And I'm talking about people in their late 40's and even early 50's! I'm too old for a couple who are 51 and 53? If I just met these people somewhere else, they'd think I was younger than them. When I visited my wife in the hospital recently, the aide asked her if I was her son! And my wife doesn't look older than her age. Sometimes people think I'm my daughter's brother. It's no wonder people are tempted to lie about their age. I think when it asks for an age preference, people just put a number in there without really giving it much thought. A lot of those people will agree to meet me if I contact them. Like you, I think people are more than a number - age, dick/bra size, height, weight.

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
4/20/2005 6:19 pm

I have seen that too in many female profiles who list their age as 40's to 50's. They will come back to us when they tire of little boys.
And if they don't, the hell with em anyway.

zenyen 65M

4/20/2005 8:09 pm

Yeah, the hell with 'em! Just seems strange to me they wouldn't meet someone just a couple years older. Would you meet a woman or couple who was 51 or 52?

sportyfun56 106M

4/21/2005 8:05 am

This is an embellished version of a comment I made on a similar subject in a Discussion Thread.


You make very good points here. Sex is Sex I suppose and we
each have those things that we prefer or avoid when we are
pursuing sex. Or a relationship.
AdultFriendFinder, in an effort to accomodate each "speciality"
has asked us to identify and label ourselves accordingly. This,
presumably, to allow others to "find" us easier. And then the result is that we also tend to "pigeon hole" each other into rather specific and confining
categories. Such as age, etc.
hmmmm what is my percieved image of what a 20, or 30, or 50 year old person should be/look like?
And boiling us all down to a few generic descriptions is an unfortunate reality that will certainly insure that we miss some otherwise acceptable persons along the way. Sad but true. That's why more communication (corporately and individually) is
essential in sifting through all of that.
I agree that this is very unfortunate and personally try not to impose those restrictions on anyone I come across. Unless they specifically state them in a profile, blog, discussion, etc.

Like you, I am regularly perceived as younger in person than my age. But like you, I am sure that my "posted" age here eliminates me from many otherwise successful contacts.

Like Sexyfit says, it is really the person inside that is attractive or not after given a chance to shine through.


zenyen 65M

4/21/2005 12:50 pm

Well put, Sporty. If people keep discussing it, maybe some people will re-examine things, but I'm not laying down good money on it yet.

mi_mwpm 51M

4/24/2005 8:08 pm

My current playmate actually lowered her age in order to meet my cupid settings (she intitiated contact)... after we'd been conversing a couple days, and I already had a photo to go with the profile, she jumped it back up. Kind of a shock that the 44 yr old suddenly became 49, but since I was interested in what I saw/heard before the change I didn't even make a comment about it until we felt comfortable with each other. After our first time together I bumped the upper end of my limit up to 50.

Barbiebunny69 43F

4/29/2005 3:58 am

I think 50 is the new 40.. however on this site..if i was 50 id say 49 just because of the stupid perception. Some of the best lovers ive had were over 45. The true sex afficianados will seek u out.


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