Profiles & Definitions  

zenyen 65M
121 posts
4/5/2005 10:48 am

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Profiles & Definitions


How do you define the choices under "looking for" in profiles? There are basically three categories as I see it: Who you're looking for, what you want to do with them, and what the relationship is.

The first is pretty straightforward - men women, couples, etc. The second is fairly straightforward, too - oral sex, anal sex, exhibitionism/voyeurism, etc. But the third is a little vague. The choices are: 1-on-1 sex/group sex, discreet sex, serious relationship.

I see the 1-on-1 sex/group sex as a relationship primarily based on sex, which could be a one-time thing or a continuing relationship such as fuck buddies or friends with benefits. But it's fundamentally about sex, not romance and/or living together.

A discreet relationship, as I understand it, is one that is not to be made public, that's to be kept secret. This may be a relationship based on more than sex and may involve romance, such as an affair.

Finally, a serious relationship would also be a deeper relationship than just sex, and implies to me a public relationship and possibly living together or marriage.

I frequently see profiles that say they are looking for 1-on-1 sex, discreet relationship, but when I read further it sounds like they are looking for a serious relationship.

How do you define these relationships?

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
4/5/2005 3:20 pm

I think you have defined them pretty well. Grey areas will always exist with these choices, so I do not take them as rigid in all cases.


zenyen 65M

4/5/2005 7:31 pm

I agree that there is some overlap and not everything fits conveniently in one of those. I assume that most people involved in group sex, also need to keep that discreet. I guess what I'm getting at is that a lot of women check 1-on-1 sex and/or discreet relationship but, when you read further about who they are and what they're looking for and their ideal person, it sounds like they are really looking for a serious relationship. Possibly a discreet relationship, but definitely not 1-on-1 sex. I sometimes wonder how many equate discreet with conventional. Have you gotten that impression or is it just me?


keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
4/6/2005 6:47 pm

I have definately gotten that impression.


zenyen 65M

4/7/2005 2:46 pm

Thanks, Nancy. I don't think most do, but there's a certain percentage I have to wonder about.


zenyen 65M

4/21/2005 5:57 am

I like your ideas about actual experience with swinging and various activities. I think the relationship thing for one needs some expansion, but even if we just had some definitions for people to go by. Body type is another vague area, but the solution is simple: height is in feet and inches, so weight in lbs.


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