Ladies What is your preference  

zadebr3 52M
59 posts
7/7/2006 11:16 am

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Ladies What is your preference

When I send an email to a lady that I am interested in talking to and meeting, I always attach three photo's and my profile. I also invite her to my network. I do these even if they do not ask for many reason's, one out of common courtesy and also to help us both relax and finally. But I also do it to save time and energy for the both of us. I some time do not write alot in my emails, but give some information or show my interest that is not in my profile. None of my photo's are of me naked. I think there is time for that after we get to know each other.
Ladies, do you like it when the man send's you these things even if you do not ask.
Men I would like to hear from you too.
Thanks to all how have contributed to this post. I am amazed at how well and how many have contributed to it. Thank you all very much and it is greatly appreciated.
ladies yes do send profile and photo's as an attachment without asking
Ladies no it is not needed
Ladies only for those who ask for them
Men Yes I do send an attachment with an email
Men No I do not send
Men I only send the attachment to those who ask for them in their profile

2375 posts
7/7/2006 11:34 am

As you said, it isn't necessary, but it's nice. I voted yes!

amosnurse 47F

7/7/2006 11:35 am

I agree, it saves alot of time and another email you would be sending later- you know the next question she's going to ask is, "do you have a pic?". Men do it and women do it. We might as well be honest about it.

whathusband 44F

7/7/2006 12:49 pm

Personally, I prefer a photo, not necessarily the profile. And to be quite honest, it's the g-rated photos that catch my attention more than the others.

1586 posts
7/7/2006 1:29 pm

Sending the profile with the initial email is always a good idea.

I like seeing pictures - but only of the guy above the waist.

Dick pics are an instant turn-off to me, but there are probably some folks out there that like them.

buddhamike 106M
7006 posts
7/7/2006 1:52 pm

I almost always send front and back head shots and a copy of my profile. I assume it will help with the decision to reply or not. This stuff is all out there for anyone to see, so I figure why not send it and make things as simple as possible.

duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
7/7/2006 1:57 pm

I don't mind when they send face photos, but I do mind when they send cock shots. I realize this is a sex site, but all you have to do is click to see a cock on this site. A dick won't attract me, but a mind will. Althought, honestly, no one on this site could get my attention for more than just friends. I am happily involved with a man I met on this wonderful site. We are in love.

He was a standard member and didn't have a photo attached to his profile. We emailed for awhile. Finally, he sent me a photo. We met, we fell in love, the rest is history.


MaggiesWishes 60F

7/7/2006 2:26 pm

The more information you send, the better. Network invites are an "iffy" thing.
Speaking about other interests besides SEX is a good thing? Damn, if your human, I know you can do sex ... what else can you do?
Makes me think you guys are putting in applications for only sex or lessons ... it might be a 2nd thing on the list, but geeze ... there is life outside of the bedroom.
AND really, what you did with the last woman doesn't qualify you with the next. Each of us ladies are different about our sensual desires.
Funny how ... when you ask a man the same questions, he gets all "weirded" out...

warm wishes 2ya

cuteNEway 41F

7/7/2006 2:26 pm

I agree with OhBaby about the network. Most of the people there are people I already have established a friendship with. Regarding the body of the letter PLEASE take the time to write a personal note. It doesn't have to be long but it should be interesting. We know form letters a mile away! As for pics:

Face pics
Pics from vacations
Pics with your pets

Cock pics (unless requested)
Pics of you entangled with another woman (we DON'T want to see that)
Pics of or with car (very cheesy)

Hope that helps!

tee hee

VCF1962 105F

7/7/2006 2:44 pm

Personally, I prefer an e mail with photo's and an intelligent response. If I like what I read and see, then I will send YOU an invite to view MY photo's in my network.

If you have no extra photo's to offer and just send an invite, I generally decline the invite.

I've also had invites that just say "Hi" and nothing more - that also rates a decline.

Mistress Innuendo
Taking what you say and turning it into something naughty !!

simo01013 35M
1 post
7/7/2006 3:09 pm

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rm_gabrown1968 48F

7/7/2006 6:20 pm

I prefer e-mails with pictures, but as far as the network goes I agree i would'nt let anyone in my network unless i knew of them for a while throught a lot of communication.

QTbye2 65M/53F
6 posts
7/7/2006 6:29 pm

A picture is worth a thousand words? Honestly I want to see the thousand words ... WHY ? to satisfy my Head desires because your pic is a still capture (hopefully yours not a stand in) and your pic knows what to do but your head knows how to do it and why. Just a quick note that guys bless your imagination but sometimes leave it at home in your undeveloped film.

mrmrspeternorth 56M/54F
9 posts
7/7/2006 8:28 pm

Nothing wrong with sending pics as long as the ONLY pic you send isn't a below the waste nekkid shot. Women don't in fact, REALLY care initially what you look like naked. And if you send a 'hey are you interested' message make sure it says something more than 'will you give me head.' Just Mrs. North's Not-so-humble opinion!

thialusting 51F

7/7/2006 10:34 pm

Your # one said it for me ...'out of common courtesy!

zadebr3 replies on 7/9/2006 4:41 pm:
Thank you for your time and efforts.

danofegypt 54M

7/8/2006 5:55 am

I have not been on long but notice those who only want something to suck or stick something in to could care less that a head and brain come with it. Those types I don't care for, mainly because it indicates they are TOO active and TOO needy and TOO risky. At least a few messages back and forth can indicate some interest beyond an hour or so. But then it depends on what you are looking for as well.

rm_parnald 44M
4 posts
7/8/2006 7:07 am

I usually just send a short letter with a pic and profile attachment.

rm_COBBWGoddess 57F

7/8/2006 9:59 am

The photos are great, especially if they have face and full body shots. It does save an extra email.

As for the profile, if I like the pics and the email I will go and check the profile myself so it's not necessary to send it.

The invite is not necessary, I don't invite alot of people. I will invite after I've gotten to know you or you may change your mind about me later. So I'd wait on that too.

zadebr3 replies on 7/9/2006 4:40 pm:
Thank you for your time and effort

oceannablue00 47F

7/8/2006 10:22 am

Pictures are great.. I usually check out the profile if the email caught my attention. But the network, well thats just for people I feel I have a someone relationship with. I am very deep, so I usually get to know my network friends very well before I add them. I love pics of men doing something they enjoy (and no its not only sex)it gives me a feel for them. I don't like to see their dick before I know their thoughts. I like to know that the man knows how to use his dick before I see it if that makes sense. Good luck and remember "say no to dick shots" unless I ask for

zadebr3 replies on 7/9/2006 4:39 pm:
Your suggestions are greatly appreciated.

zadebr3 52M
57 posts
7/8/2006 11:34 am

A couple of things I forgot to add to my poll. 1). None of my photo's are of me nude, I think when you are first getting to know someone that it is not the right time. 2). I send a the profile for I believe I put a lot of time in it and my email states a few things in it that the profile does not and to hi and that I am interested in learning more of the receipant and possible seeing where it goes. But I have some limited success this way and that is why I posted the question. I have met 6 people from this site but nothing has developed and am interested in tweeking somethings to improve myself and my profile. I do want to thank each and everyone who has contributed to this. for it means alot to mean.
Thank you all; zadebr3

lovestokiss_1963 53F

7/8/2006 5:21 pm

I do agree that a photo does save on extra emails.....but I would prefer to see a picture of his face. A picture of his body would be okay with me also.... as long as he is fully clothed. I know I sound like a prude but that is just my preference.

zadebr3 replies on 7/9/2006 4:38 pm:
thank you

drkwaterz 36F

7/8/2006 7:56 pm

The profile and pic are definites, it saves time and energy on both parties.Just make sure u send a face pic, women can see a dick anywhere on this site plus it saves them the time of asking for one. Now invites showed only be sent after you've made a connection with someone not before.

zadebr3 replies on 7/8/2006 10:15 pm:
Thanks for your recommandations and your views are greatly appreciated.

MILF69695 53F

7/8/2006 9:13 pm

I think men should send pictures of their body, espcially when they want Nudy pic of you.

immu15 40M
1 post
7/8/2006 10:34 pm


dartmyth90 45M

7/9/2006 12:51 pm

I think i live in the wrong area cause never get replias back and people that do email me leave me scratching my head cause i cant make head or tails of what they are talking about like brains to as well as looks

rm_775bored 46M
6 posts
7/10/2006 1:43 pm


IviesBidesJuste 55M
3658 posts
7/10/2006 2:31 pm

I usually always send at least one pic, even if the same pic is posted on my profile. Seems standard members can't enlarge pics, even if I paid for them to be able to view them.

The problem I run into is members that don't have a photo posted or won't send one even after you've asked or known them from several emails. If they say they won't send a pic, but will meet you anyway, just says to me that I will be in for a suprise and there must be something hideous about them.

curious2try4fu2 46M/45F
2 posts
7/11/2006 7:22 am

I think it's great. I always want to put a face with someone who is interested in me.

curious_one803 33F

7/11/2006 11:02 am

I like the profile and pics

sexykitty4daddy 48F

7/11/2006 5:07 pm

I belive its good to give to get =) its a plus and no woman can say eww at pics of nakie men LOL plus if there hot its its all worth the while i say send on men send send Kat

tartankisses7769 39F

7/12/2006 4:57 am

if you are interested in meeting someone for more than just "fun" it is a great idea, it vreaks the ice and you know straight away if there is a chance you will "click" or not


Angelkisses4U73 44F
3 posts
7/12/2006 11:09 am

It doesn't matter to me!!! Sometimes being forward can have its benefits!! Unlike you...I'm kinda it breaks the ice for me!!!

zadebr3 replies on 7/12/2006 12:59 pm:
Thank you for your response. It is nice that everyone is contributing to help me.

rm_seeks1cuck 59F
1 post
7/12/2006 3:43 pm

Facial pics as well as full body ones are nice.

hr66 55M

7/13/2006 5:07 am

so you might as well check the pic while your voting on the answers

cherrylips1987 29F
2 posts
7/13/2006 9:35 am

i think that its really nice when guys do that although they dont have to cause no one asked but it also saves time

zadebr3 replies on 7/15/2006 9:45 pm:
thanks for your reply and happy hunting

rm_slc67 49F
15 posts
7/13/2006 6:55 pm

A couple of comments. Attaching the profile and photo is fine. Not so sure about 4 or 5 pics of your privates, though. Also, I'd like it more if the men on this site actually took the time to answer the extra questions. That can tell you a lot about a person and most men don't do it. I do not want an invite to your network before we've even exchanged one e-mail. I'd prefer you wait to do that until we know a little more about each other.


7/15/2006 12:25 am

I usually just send 1-2 pics with a network invite and a brief note.If it's a lady that I think is exceptionally attractive but know we're too far apart or have little chance of meeting I send her a wink and let it go at that.The pics I send are normal. If they want more, they can join my network, or mention it to me. Had good responses overall so far.

Bronzehalo 2007

sweetsmile58 60M/58F

7/15/2006 8:40 am

We met on here! I was attracted to a photo on his profile and we started e-mailing back and forth, met, had such a great connection and as they say the rest is history. By the way the photo I was attracted to was his face! Cock shots are great for later on but truthfully we would like to know a little about you first, make the profile/email interesting and some great shots of your face, body or interests. It can lead to a great relationship, even love, happened to us! Good luck!

rm_lvhr269 48M/60F

7/15/2006 9:01 am

have to agree with maggieswishes there is more to life outside the bedroom. In fact when I first meet someone the bedroom is the last thing on my mind. I have to get to no the person on a more deeper level than just hi how ya doing now lets go jump in bed.How can anyman please4 a women if he doesnt get to konw her first. It jsut baffles me.

rm_1davvero 40M
5 posts
7/15/2006 4:20 pm


rm_1davvero 40M
5 posts
7/15/2006 4:23 pm

blogs or have met


7/15/2006 7:47 pm

hard to judge a person without the real thing in front of you.

gimmechocolate 60F
6 posts
7/15/2006 9:34 pm

Yes, I prefer that they send me everything they can so I can make a more informed decision about whether or not to proceed. I always look at a guy's profile before responding, and if his profile is blocked....he doesn't really want to meet me. By looking at his entire page, I can get a much better idea as to whether or not I am interested and if there are things that definitely turn me off. Example: A man may email me, but if I see married or Smoker, then I am out of here. We don't need to waste each other's time after that.

rm_lovely069 47F
1 post
7/16/2006 1:28 pm

I agree, as long as the pics send are nude ones.

MrMandingosxBig1 44M

7/18/2006 11:14 am

Good question it is cool to see a post that is helpful to make a contact . so far your poll shows that most women want photos, and attachments . It is useful to have imformation like this for members to be successful on the site. and real poll statics are better than a guess all day! Personally I feel the same way give them all they will ask for later and let them dicide right away to save time and keep from wasting future efforts.

zadebr3 replies on 7/19/2006 6:09 pm:
Thank you for your wonderful statement and time.

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