BDSM demystified  

your_gypsy 51F
128 posts
10/20/2005 3:05 pm

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BDSM demystified

some of you know i'm a newbie in the lifestyle but until recently was trying to figure out my "nitch." i understand it completely and am still intrigued and have a lot to learn. one thing i have noticed is a lot of folks who have one foot in and one foot out and i think that's perfectly okay but it looks a little juvenile to me. like, the whole point is to push your limits and face your fears. at least it seems that way to me.

my own reason for embracing this is the intensity and devotion shared by two (or more)people involved. that is truly up my alley. it makes me very happy when a man is so into me he thinks about me all the time and wants to be so involved. i'm an independent person but in the background i know he is there and that i can count on him to be there when i need him.

once in a while i read an account of an s&m fantasy or reality that makes perfect sense to me yet other people would deem as "sick." i just know it. i read one the other day, about a man who had a submissive partner and treated her like a horse that needed to be trained. the description of such training and his description of her and his connection left me marveling.

when i can be myself with a man who is also himself, when we can be totally ourselves and not have to worry about how freaky the other thinks we are, but are in fact willing to push our own boundaries at times (at least on the sub's part), we grow more. sometimes i will find a point where i am just confused, and i need someone to talk to. there is always someone more experienced who is happy to help me come to terms with whatever i'm stuck on.

i know some of "those people" seem a little scary. it kind of reminds me of the 80s during the (real) punk scene. i can remember going to a record store on melrose (vinyl fetish!) and looking at these guys and girls with piercings everywhere and hair styled with elmer's glue and taking a deep breath before i went up to ask them to sell me tickets to the butthole surfers or jesus and mary chain at the santa monica civic. they surprised me -- they were some of the most forthcoming and warm people i had ever met. they looked me right in the eye and were very helpful. i crossed a stereotype back then and from there i felt more comfortable around people who looked a little different than i or had different preferences than i. i made up my mind not to be scared to ask questions if i didn't understand something but was drawn to it, was interested in it.

much how i'm doing now... i want to continue to learn all i can and meet more people of like mind, as well as "mainstream" folks, because we are ALL good...

in another entry, i want to write more specifically about my preferences and beliefs. just a warning to the reader...


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10/21/2005 2:49 am

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jim5131 55M
1296 posts
10/21/2005 11:20 pm

absolutely...Austin is full of people like that and they're real people..I get along with the punkers and bikers as much as anyone else..my kids think I'm cool because I was a little wild before I was married (and I hope they don't feel the need to outdo me)..

...but the bunny spanking the booty is a little disturbing. Like the Flying Monkeys of Oz....

I can envision the dialogue:

"Where did you hide the eggs?!"

"I'll never tell" SPANK! "Owwwww..I'll never tell.." SPANK!

"Where did you hide the eggs?!" SPANK!

"Owwww....stop Bunny!" SPANK!

okay...creepy.


your_gypsy 51F

10/24/2005 7:06 am

i agree jim, but i didn't want to put a "run of the mill" s&m picture up there. you know me.. i'm different. i stand out. (cheesy grin)

one doesn't have to dress up in any kind of outfit to spank me. one just has to have "IT." and those who have it know exactly what i'm talking about.


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