Some things are best left in the dark  

your69plaything 57F
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6/2/2006 12:37 pm

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6/2/2006 12:39 pm

Some things are best left in the dark

Last night BestThingsRFree2 asked in his comments why I would want to share my wife. He was polite, even delicate and understanding about it, he was just curious. And its a good question.

Why would a guy want to watch his wife with another man or woman? Sure I've got all those altruistic answers I could offer. "I want to to enjoy every aspect of her sexuality." "No one person can give you everything, she should be able to experience everything she can." "I trust her and want her to do whatever she wants...."

Those are all great answers, but if I'm going to be honest with both you and me, they're bullshit. BestThingsRFree2 is right in his implication that most people who want the most for their partners don't want them having sex with other people.

So there are those darker options, too. You know, the ones that have to do with control, domination and humiliation. Let's not look at those too closely -- they make me a little uncomfortable. We've played with S&M and master/slave games and we've both enjoyed them. She gets into the spanking and physical parts; I enjoy being the Master. So maybe this is just another variation on that theme. I don't know. Don't think I wanna know, either.

Then there are those reasons concerning vicarious sex and reliving youthful exploration. Personally, I don't have a lot of desire to have sex with other women - at least not consciously. But I do miss the "chase and capture" from when I was single. Maybe that's it. Maybe I want to relive those experiences through my wife's exploits. May I get to have "some on the side" through her.

But you want to know what I really think? I think it comes down to three things. 1) Almost every man has fantasies about watching two women making love. I'm no different. And since my wife is very bi-curious, its not a great leap of logic that I should want to watch her and another woman. 2) At some level I want other men to desire (and enjoy) what I have. If another guy fucks my wife, its pretty damned clear he wanted her ... but when its all over she goes home with me. I win. 3) Think of the intense emotional rush of watching your beloved partner with another person. Even if your not the jealous type, think of the mixture of erotic excitement and pride amplified by the underlying treat that she's going to like it too much. That she just might not go home with you when its over. Of course, I wouldn't want to take that risk in an unstable relationship, but even if you know she'll still be yours tomorrow, the overwhelming eustress of it.

Well, that's my answer anyway. and I'm sticking with it.


SirMounts 102M

6/21/2006 3:43 am

Welcome to blogging, your69plaything.


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