Keep It Real  

yagottalikit 49F
824 posts
9/20/2005 8:50 pm

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Keep It Real

So, here I am....trying to "keep it real".
How can one spend 24 hrs a day approx. 4 to 5 days a week with someone and not expect some semblance of a "relationship" to develop? I'm doing the best I can to keep my feelings in check....but, shit....I AM HUMAN! Just trying to keep it real......and no strings-like, and drama free....with no freakin baggage. Sheesh....casual sex is just as difficult as "dating", from where I stand!

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

1 post
9/20/2005 9:56 pm

Are u really a squirter? Have come across 2 in my travels & within the same year. Can u squirt like, over a foot?

rm_4nik8_4u 61M
2501 posts
9/21/2005 5:27 am

It's never easy, is it. That level of involvement is more than a no strings type relationship whether the other person realizes it or not. You don't have say I love you but the reality of the relationship should be acknowledged. And if you feel like the other side of this doesn't feel the same way then maybe you should back off. Maybe then he will realize how he feels. Can I see your tatoos?

yagottalikit 49F
583 posts
9/21/2005 7:35 am

Greedy - uhhhh......yes and uhhhhhh......never actually measured....

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

yagottalikit 49F
583 posts
9/21/2005 7:37 am

4nik8ME ~ you always know what to say. C'mere and let me show you my tat's......

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

yagottalikit 49F
583 posts
9/21/2005 7:50 am

I guess I should's not necessarily the other party not feeling the same....I'm not even sure I can or want to acknowledge a relationship

You're definition of casual sex is correct, TomE....that was probably a poor choice of words on my part. Just goes to show that defining these things is a big pain in the ass!

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

rm_cravings3x 41M

9/21/2005 11:24 am

Anytime you're looking for casual sex, no strings attached, and lots of likin, let me know. I love to lik and I would love to lik yours!

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/21/2005 12:34 pm

guess my earlier post didn't stick... Sounds like you're well on your way to something fantastic...

Nubiandream004 55M

9/21/2005 1:00 pm

Ummm...that would be "THANKS."

tamethytension 54M
2320 posts
9/21/2005 11:05 pm

No strings = no guilt NOT no emotional attachment. With the understanding that it is not forever and exclusively, express exactly what you are feeling. So long as he comfortable with that knowledge, he may just be willing to express exactly what he is feeling. I have felt a sincere love with most of my affairs. A feeling I hold for most of my companions long after we have parted as lovers yet remaining friends. I genuinely care for them and ask after their health and well-being. That this is so is because I was able to make plain my sincere feeling of love within the context of an acknowledged casual affair. The words "I love you" should not be forbidden, simply understood to mean not necesarily forever and exclusively. Of course, in time stronger bonds may be forged such that level of committment may be re-visited. But provided you assure the guy that the "rules of engagement" have not changed, then I think an open expression of feelings is more likely forthcoming.

good luck


yagottalikit 49F
583 posts
9/22/2005 3:22 pm

hmmmm.....Sizzlin'....I dunno...

MYNubiandream! Where have you been????? and.....ummmm....You're welcome??????

Very well put, are so very wise!!!!! Thank you!

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

rm_hinkawaza 52M
371 posts
9/22/2005 7:38 pm

My thanks also, triple T!

redmartinigirl 43F

9/22/2005 11:56 pm

I so totally agree with you! It is really difficult to keep it real! and TTT, you are a RARE man! thank you for sharing. gives us hope that there are men like you out there

beewulf9 38M

9/23/2005 2:09 pm

Sometimes these types of relationships are difficult... and have more to do with admiting things to yourself rather than with the person you are with. Very complicated and revealing.

I hope your dreams are continualy worked towards each day Yagottalkit. My best wishes.

shychurchmouse 49F
239 posts
9/28/2005 6:32 am

If you figure it out let me know PLEASE.

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