I Grieve With You  

yagottalikit 49F
824 posts
9/14/2005 11:16 pm

Last Read:
4/20/2007 11:01 pm

I Grieve With You


BELOVED WIFE
Natalie Merchant / Indian Love Bride ©1995
you were the love
for certain of my life
you were simply my beloved wife
I don't know for certain
how I'll live my life
now alone without my beloved wife
my beloved wife

I can't believe
I've lost the very best of me

you were the love
for certain of my life
you were simply my beloved wife
I don't know for certain
how I'll live my life
now alone without my beloved wife
my beloved wife

I can't believe
I've lost the very best of me

you were the love
for certain of my life
for fifty years simply me beloved wife

with another love I'll never lie again
it's you I can't deny
it's you I can't defy
a depth so deep into my grief
without my beloved soul
I renounce my life
as my right
now alone without my beloved wife
my beloved wife
my beloved wife

my love is gone she suffered long
in hours of pain

my love is gone
now my suffering begins

my love is gone
would it be wrong if I should
surrender all the joy in my life
go with her tonight?

my love is gone she suffered long
in hours of pain

my love is gone
would it be wrong if I should
just turn my face away from the light
go with her tonight?


Natalie wrote this song about her grandparents.
Shortly after her grandmother passed away, her grandfather died from a "broken heart".

In general, when someone learns that I became a widow at the age of 30, they seem more affected ny the age I was than the loss itself. This is a natural reaction. And understandable.

When I hear this song, I feel that I've been blessed by losing my "beloved" at an early age. He's now been gone longer than we were married. I was still young enough to "move on". To work, raise my children, enjoy friendships (old and new), to date. Even to fall in love, again. TO LIVE!

I cannot imagine the emptiness that remains when the life you have cultivated, the love you have nurtured for 50 years, comes to a screeching halt.

I cry. Not for me. For those who have lost their lifelong partner.....

I grieve with you.

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it


rm_4nik8_4u 61M
2501 posts
9/15/2005 5:00 am

What's difficult is when you see it unfolding before your eyes. I truly understand. My parents have been married 53yrs and my mother is in poor health. My father tends to her every need. She is his life. He will be devestated when she passes. I'm with you on this.


yagottalikit 49F
583 posts
9/15/2005 9:27 am

nik, big hugs and tender kisses to you. Not only for your mother's health, but for your father's well-being (and yours).
My daughter actually asked me, just yesterday, if I would have rather have known daddy was gonna die beforehand (lengthy illness, for instance), rather than suddenly. Tough choice. She said she'd choose the latter because there's no suffering...and she knows he heard her "good-bye". I had to agree.

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it


yagottalikit 49F
583 posts
9/15/2005 9:29 am

hmmmm....seems "rather" is my word for the day.........or maybe "have".....

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it


BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

9/15/2005 12:02 pm

I love Natalie Merchant, 10,000 Maniacs and her solo stuff. Saw her at the Telluride Bluegrass Festival a few years ago. She sang this song, but I never knew what it meant. Till now. Thanks.


Sizzle364
(Juan S)
52M
2642 posts
9/15/2005 1:53 pm

Today is not a good day for me to think of anything sad... my parents are not in the best of health...I am already devastated and they are still alive... I don't even want to think of one of them passing, the other will surely go soon after...


yagottalikit 49F
583 posts
9/16/2005 9:46 am

BF69, you are quite welcome....I have a plethora of useless information tucked in this tiny little brain....anything else you wanna know? (giggle)

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it


yagottalikit 49F
583 posts
9/16/2005 9:54 am

Sizzlin darling....I am truly sorry about your parents. I hate to think I would cause anyone pain by touching on this subject matter. Unfortunately, it's a very real part of our lives and I guess it helps me to put it all out there.....selfish of me I suppose.
I can only offer myself if you ever need a sounding board
.....and this GREAT BIG E-HUG!!!!!!
(imagine me trying to bear hug you!!! that's gotta be worth a laugh)

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it


Sizzle364
(Juan S)
52M
2642 posts
9/17/2005 3:21 pm

mmm...you bear hugging me would be the start of something else entirely...
I'm fine, I just had a bad day yesterday...


yagottalikit 49F
583 posts
9/18/2005 12:30 pm

Sizzlin love, hope you are better than "fine"!!! (Big bear hug anyway...)

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it


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