The Pornicator Scale  

xxxtallorderxxx 46M
161 posts
7/21/2006 6:27 am

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8/16/2006 9:19 am

The Pornicator Scale


Hi Bloggers,

Here's where i hold my hand up high and say yes; i've looked at and watched porn, that's nothing you say, or good on you for saying so i thought i was the only one watchin that "lol".

Anyway, I've begun to find the strangest thing happen while on AdultFriendFinder, and it involves watching a male and female have sex on webcam. Now hold your breath for a moment before you start thinking several things, let me explain a bit more in detail, ok now exhale and breathe normally...

When I've watched porn in the past whether it be just be women on their own, or two people having consentual sex, i've never known or spoken to those individuals. I then draw my own conclusions as to what the people are like in the pictures/movie and pour in part of my own fantasy of what i'd be doing if i was there instead and with those persons/people etc.

Now here's my little dilemna i have right now; I'm still turned on by women on their own either playing or posing, but watching others have sex (male/female) has been more of a turn off than a turn on, especially when i've got to know the female more in IMC chat for a short while.

I do find this most curious, maybe it's a jelousy thing, maybe it's the fact I'm finding respect for the person more and giving her privacy, or maybe the fantasy element isnt kicking in like i mention in my first paragraph. I certainly know something changes in me.

Now here's my two questions for you all, which is pretty deep but needs to be asked, because i'm curious.

Q1

When you watch porn involving two persons having consentual sex, do you look at them as objects of creativity and fantasy, or something else ??

Q2

You've spoken to a MoS or MsS and have gotten on well, then you see them having consentual sex with a MoS or MsS, what happens to your attitude of looking at them creatively or in a fantasy way as in comparison to those in question one ??, does it change at all !

Thank you bloggers for your kind responses in advance, always great to hear from you.

Hugs

xxxtallorderxxx

tastycouple55 69M/69F

7/21/2006 7:39 am

I dont care for regular porn, it is too programmed. Amatuer porn seems more real.More creative and artistic.

Webcam sex-have only found a few really hot couples like gator and his wife.
Now I have never met them but they have so much fun pleasing others while pleasing themselves.

I have not seen anyone I know having sex with a woman on cam. I have met one that was jacking off.

I guess it wouldnt bring a feeling of jealousy anymore than if you were with them and do swapping.

If a woman is conversing back and forth with you like she really wants to meet you but hasnt taken the time yet and then I seen her on webcam with some guy, I guess I would feel a little dissappointed.

If its just chat, and I was a man, a woman here, or even if I was in your shoes and it was a man, I think I would find it a turn on to see how he performs with a woman.

I like watchng men jack off but would rather see a couple together.


xxxtallorderxxx replies on 7/22/2006 5:42 am:
yea if i'm goona watch i'd prefer to see couple too, although at times seeing a woman please herself on her own can be just as enjoyable. Thanks for your input and ideas, at times i wonder if they are just acting rather than doing it because it just seems programmed...

xxxtallorderxxx

sunshinekzn 58F

7/21/2006 5:54 pm

I have not watched the cams yet, so unable to comment. Some of the porn movies the acting is so bad you end up laughting more than anything!


xxxtallorderxxx replies on 7/22/2006 5:46 am:
sometimes i wonder if it's all they're doing is acting, and not actually having sex but play acting.

RubyRedPetal 44F

7/21/2006 11:35 pm

When i watch porn, which isnt often, i always get distracted.....i start to wonder 'is she really enjoying that?'.....'how did she get into this industry?', 'Oh bad hair cut!', nice lip gloss!', 'does it hurt to get ur arsehole bleached?'...... Honestly i do!

I could never concentrate on those maths questions at school, the ones where 7 men paint 12 sheds in 4 days so how long does it take 2 men to do 76! I always wondered, what colour, what type of shed?....Ooo they could mean beach huts and the they cud be all stripey...cool...And i could never Shake the feelin that they were people and therefore variable and changeable and how fast they work all depends on lots of things...Yeah i failed maths! lol

I find it a lot easier if i know the people involved..then i kinda dont get distracted by my brain! I must be missing the fanatsy element! lol And sexual arousal is more than just a visual thing. Im sure it is important for you but maybe its not the dominant factor.

I have never used my cam at all on the site. But my question to you is born out of your comment about respect....do you have, in your mind, the concept of good women and bad women, and is it sexual behaviour that determines where they are placed?


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xxxtallorderxxx replies on 7/22/2006 5:37 am:
You wrote : But my question to you is born out of your comment about respect....do you have, in your mind, the concept of good women and bad women, and is it sexual behaviour that determines where they are placed?

I dont see any women as immediately bad, just as no woman should see a guy as immediately bad, so i do have a healthy respect for people.

I think with porn my attitude does change a little as that person is out to have sexual pleasure herself and in turn give others pleasure in being watched, and my mindset is not looking at them as bad people, but more objects of play more than anything else.

I do realise this is not a completely healthy attitude towards sex, and one of the main reasons i'm on this site is to change the way I think and get to know people, and I think that's why i've wrote this post. I've got to know some people well via chat and once i see them doing stuff I get the cliche' of how am i to look at this woman again.

I think i've just spent too much time being single and never had the true love and understanding from a woman that i originally felt I had.

xxxtallorderxxx

RubyRedPetal 44F

7/22/2006 12:45 pm

'once i see them doing stuff I get the cliche' of how am i to look at this woman again.'

Good luck babes, i hope it goes well for u. Maybe u just shud just avoid the cams and stick to skin on skin?


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xxxtallorderxxx replies on 7/22/2006 1:00 pm:
yea maybe, hugs

_Foxee_ 49F  
359 posts
8/15/2006 7:19 pm

ohh very good question but i feel compelled to try and respond to this

1) 2 people having sex fantasy or creativity?
i suppose the correct answer there would be....depends on what they are doing are they role playing? or do they even have a story line? or just fucking? and if its on cam then i suppose it doesnt really do anything for me but if its in a film then porn (oh here goes in for a penny out for a pound)......is well I use it shall i say as an enhancement for my own non-existent sex-life ie: for masturbation purposes only but if i had a partner i would put it on for background music lol not that i would need it i can assure you

2)now youve got to know MoS/MsS ?

ahhhhhh well ermm that depends i suppose on how well you got to know them although it does sound to me that your hopes were slightly dashed on this person (am i right? ) and now your not seeing this person in the light you did before ! but hey im only guessing , regardless of that i think you need to think about what you want out of these cam sessions in the first place,is it for a turn on or curiosity? or even worse.......like me thats the closest you'll ever get to real life sex lmao



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