Weighing up the competition  

wombat_ 49M
128 posts
11/22/2005 12:43 pm

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Weighing up the competition

Well given the stats in my previous post there are 18 of us males chasing the same woman! And assuming this woman is exploring her bi side and given of course this woman is really a woman (thats another story for another time) then thats tough competition.

So I thought I would start by scanning a range of male profiles just to see their approach. I am starting to get more encouraged the more I read. I also scanned a number of female profiles to compare approaches to having that all attracting profile that wiill win the mind of an AdultFriendFinder babe.

Well from a males point of view fella's...I am not surprised by the level of frustration that seems to entangle many blogs/posts. I actually tried to write a profile that was a reflection on me. Most male profiles are either full of arrogance ("I'll best your best lay ever", "come and enjoy the difference", "how about a quick fling") or shorter than the cooking instructions on a can of baked beans. Get serious. I may be completely wrong but such profiles to me wouldn't turn me on were I female. Come on guys....make an effort.

I also noticed that many females went to the effort of filling out the surveys and all the extra details yet most men ignored them thinking a two line profile and a dick photo would be enough to get noticed and laid.

Ladies...does this work? Have I completely missed the boat thinking such approaches are a little cliche'd and somewhat daft? Help ladies...should the fella's be making more of an effort?

Actually....send the tips direct to me at wombat-at-emailguff.com and give me an unfair advantage. LOL.

Apart from the detail of the profile I started considering the issue of the photos. Just about every male pic included a dick shot. Yeh...some of them made me feel most inadequate. hehehe. I scanned the ladie's profiles across the globe and so many more were much more pleasant and seductive photos. I have to question many professional looking model shots that somehow seem to raise questions of their validity. But then there's the wide range of pussy images. Soem were arrousing but many were not exactly enticing pics and a few even scared me thinking "Ive gone and licked that". eewww.

So I conclude that blokes wrote profiles and included images like they were chatting to their mates in a pub and had no desire to attrract a quality mind or a quality person on AdultFriendFinder. When we are with our mates we focus on the chicks and talk about what we would or have done and use small words and short sentences. I suspect there is little consideration to actually trying to appeal to the emotional side of a lady or appealing to the mind before going straight for the erect dick pic and trying to find somewhere to plug it.

PLEASE ladies....let me know the inside gossip on what the secret is? What's been that magic incrediant to meeting up with a man from AdultFriendFinder?


papyrina 51F
21133 posts
11/22/2005 1:38 pm

for me a decent profile it doesn't have to be a long one but just the truth,the questions i enjoy because even if there not filled in truthfully you can usually see a person humor in some of the answers,
Dick pics do nothing for me i can understand someone not putting face pics but a nice tasteful pic is good,there is no magic button i don't think just be your self

I'm a

i'm here to stay

wombat_ 49M

11/22/2005 6:26 pm

I received a couple of emails direct and this one is worth posting. I'll hide their name because I havent asked them for permission but the comments are so appropriate:

> I reckon there are more pussy pics than dick pics.
> and to be honest, as a bi female, the dick pics are by
> far less offensive than the gross hairy chubby pussies
> ive seen on many profiles. Hide the face if you want but dont
> make us sick with gross looking pussie pics.

From a 27 year old female member in London.

rm_frannipants 64F

11/27/2005 1:15 am

I prefer a recent pic (an honest up to date one). Pics of your apparatus are deceiving.....its what you do with that that matters and the amount of time you spend on your partner and vice versa. As soon as I see a guy ask for someone more than half their age and some perfect elle type body wink or message me...I immediatly reply back that they must have sent me this wink or message by mistake....
I have met 9 men since August and well none have been honest with me at all....especially there pics.....I have put an honest fully clothed pic on my profile and always pre warn them of my stature....short and very large (rubensque) but try to fuck someone who cock is complete hidden by his over large rubensque frame. One guy was trying to fuck my clit and thought he was inside me.....didnt have the heart to tell him, as he was such a lovely man and such a sweet kisser..It is so nice to not have some guy think its sexy or a turn on have him play tonsil hockey down my throat. Mind you I do love sex...but its nice to have something else in common other than a love of intimacy. One day there will be someone out there for me....It may not happen till I am in the nursing home and he has nowhere to run or hide.. Like papyrina I appreciate someone who has a sense of humour; as life is to short to be so serious and negative.

rm_MustangD6644 51M
1031 posts
12/10/2005 12:43 am

Well folks if you want an honest blog then visit mine, I dont hold back and I dont pull punches. What you see is what you get PERIOD.

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