fuck buddy vs friends with benefits  

witty1960 56F
373 posts
3/17/2006 12:44 pm

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fuck buddy vs friends with benefits

I am continually amazed while talking to AdultFriendFinder members about what they are looking for. I guess it shouldn't be suprising that we all have different definitions of what kinky is, or what a fuck buddy or friend with benefits are.

While most of us are not looking for love here, and shouldn't be since the majority seem to be married, there is a big difference between our idea of what the various labels are. So I'll give you my definitions and see if I've come close to the majority of AdultFriendFinder members.

Love: A mental condition characterized by blindness and ignorance. Usually doesn't last without constant work.

Lust: A mental condition characterized by hormone production and sexual aggressiveness. Also usually doesn't last without constant work.

Fuck buddy: Having a sexual relationship without the desire to know anything personal about the person or persons involved. Not exactly a one night stand, but nonetheless anonymous. Characterized by married people, and those without social abilities or curiosity.

Friend with benefits: Having a sexual relationship with someone you are intersted in as a person. These participants are curious about the people they are sexual with and are looking, not always for love, but for a connection to another living human being. Characterized by people with a desire to understand and know the people they're involved with.

Lovers: Having a sexual relationship with someone who you care about. Can be combined with a love relationship or a friend with benefits relationship. Characterized by people to whom anonymous sex is too cold and calculating.

I have been very clear in both my profile and in conversations with possible partners that I'm looking for more than a fuck buddy. I have been asked to meet someone on the road and fuck them in their vehicles. Suprisingly when I asked if they met many women who would agree to that, they were honest to say no, but offended that I would suggest that they are looking for a free hooker. Not many women are into ending up a skull in the forest. While we are all here looking for sexual relationships of all kinds, men need to remember that as women, most of us are still looking for respect, to be treated as a human being, and get fucked too. I know, I know, we're asking for way tooo much. lol

Please remember these are just my definitions and are general for a purpose. And please remember that all my posts, while honest, are geared toward the witty side and not meant to offend. God why do I care??? Most of you I will never talk to let alone meet. Why should I care if I offend?? Because I was brought up to be a caring person, go figure.

rickyluvsfunn 50M
18 posts
3/17/2006 1:07 pm

ahh...a nice, caring lady on AdultFriendFinder....was beginning to think they didnt exsist. Actually your definitions seem to be pretty right on with what I was thinking...which is good because I thought I was way off the mark.

be good...and if you cant be good...take pictures

happy st pattys day

Kaliedascope61 41M
4084 posts
3/17/2006 1:09 pm

Good Post, I liked your definations, all though they don't really match my own.

stainlesssteel13 61M

3/17/2006 1:17 pm

I don't know if a "Fuck buddy" even exists. I have met a couple of woman for the purpose of just fucking (not one night stands either). It seems inevitable, at least for me, that a some type of friendship will develop.

rm_shrew_33 59M

3/17/2006 1:35 pm

Nice to see other members views on these definitions. I would generally agree with you on all. I am delighted that you have respect for yourself and been a caring person is a very attractive part of your personnality.

Good blog Witty.

saddletrampsk 54F

3/17/2006 2:36 pm

great post..great definations..

8 posts
3/17/2006 5:27 pm

Great post I also believe most here only want to talk or look. Perhaps a definition for BS'rs and peeps might also be in order. All should say what they mean and mean what they say. And listen to what their told. As for the vehicle fuck those can be fun but thats one to look forward to not start at coffee 1st at least know each other a little prior. Good luck you are quite WITTY.

HBowt2 58F

3/18/2006 2:42 am

excellent post witty....maybe we should get AdultFriendFinder to put these up as definitions for new memebers....might keep some in better order ...lol

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