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Where Is The Honor?
Where Is The Honor?
"I, (Bride/Groom), take you (Groom/Bride), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part."
Does anybody see an escape clause in those vows? Do they say anything about "if you don't want sex anymore, I have the right to sleep around"? Do they mention "if you're too sick to have sex, I still have 'needs' "?
Already, I can hear the same old tiresome chorus from people, telling me that I don't know their situation, I "don't understand", or I have no right to judge. This is, after all, the age of moral relativity.
This isn't really a question of me judging anyone. Nor am I talking about religion. Rather, being dishonorable carries its own penalty within the soul.
It's really quite simple: either you are a person of honor, or you are not. There is no middle ground, and there are no "mitigating circumstances". You either stand by your word, or you don't. Deep in their hearts, people know this to be true, which is why they get so indignant when someone names their faithlessness for what it is.
There is not enough justifying, posturing and lying in the world to save them from their own deceit. The resultant erosion of their own moral fiber will hurt them, as sure as the sun rises in the East. It will hurt even more those innocents that their lives touch.
If you're hiding what you're doing from your spouse because it would hurt him or her, then you know it is wrong. And if loving that person ever meant something to you, that should be all you need to know.
And what about your children? Don't you care at all about how they'd feel if they found out? Remember that your kids need you to be steady, and to live honorably in front of them. Talk won't get it; actions are what will stay in their minds forever. Shouldn't family be more important than orgasms?
If you're helping a married person cheat, what about the feelings of that person's spouse and children? How would they feel if they knew? How would that tear a family apart if it became known? Saying, "oh, well, if not me it would be someone else" doesn't change the fact that it isn't someone else. And if the person you're seeing is sneaking around behind their spouse's back, how much honesty can you really expect from them? Probably not very much. If you're trying to build a lasting relationship with someone cheating on their spouse, it probably won't be very long until they cheat on you, too.
For that matter, how would you feel if the shoe were on the other foot? How would your children feel?
People complain that nothing lasts anymore, that they cant trust anybody anymore. But If they themselves are not trustworthy, why should they expect others to be? And, where is it written that just because someone cheated on them, they have the right to cheat on someone else? See how convoluted today's "moral relativity" can get?
Too many people confuse the heat of passion with true love. They used to say, "when the going gets tough, the tough get going". Nowadays, once the passion cools, many just walk out the door and don't look back, because they never really knew what love is all about in the first place.
Honor is honor. You either have it, or you have a thousand excuses why you don't.