so much for honesty  

wildwetnwaiting 51F
35 posts
12/27/2005 9:33 am

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8/12/2007 6:36 pm

so much for honesty

ok. . .I'm totally amused. . pissed off. . etc. I met this guy on AdultFriendFinder and we seemed to really have a connection . . . ok, ok. . a connection online but a connection none the less. We had VERY hot phone sex that left us both wanting to meet each other immediately. Met for coffee the next morning and continued to enjoy each other. Several weeks of cyber, phone calls, etc and then we finally met in real life at my place. This is a man who is extremely charming, intelligent, conservative (a definite strike against him in my book, but someone who really listened to my views and respected them. He has a somewhat complicated family situation so insisted we met during the day. Loved his kisses and his touch.. . .but let's say the sex was less than satisfying for me. . . but he was definitely satisfied. We met a couple of other times and chatted on and off and then he dissappeared completely only to resurface about 2 weeks ago. Chatting on the phone to catch up, he was lamenting about life etc. and then told me he was confused because he and his "girlfriend" broke up. GIRLFRIEND?! I am totally not interested in getting involved with a man who is attached and he knew that. He also shared my bewilderment about attached men looking for playmates online. So. . .. how was he different? Ok.. . so today. . . we chat online (the first time since I heard about his girlfriend - who wants to have a baby with him, but he insists "girlfriend" is just a label! Interesting perspective!)and starts being sexually suggestive and then I ask about his girlfriend. He becomes somewhat defensive and asks if I think he was dishonest. . . HMMMMM, let me think YES!!!!!!!!!!! So after I told him that I think he is an intelligent and good man, who gets in his own way regarding being happy. . he tells me to have a good life! Ok, I know it's pretty naive to imagine anyone is telling the truth online. . but .. .

rm_goddess1946 106F
13518 posts
12/27/2005 9:49 am

the word is...........

[size3] NEXT

it is ..that simple.

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

sassybelle21 32F
13313 posts
12/27/2005 10:04 am

Quoting you "He has a somewhat complicated family situation so insisted we met during the day." Didn't that ring a bell and make you suspect that he could be attached or married? Well sucks for him to being dishonest to you but you're better off without him. You can choose a different man because we have more men than women on AdultFriendFinder. Good luck.

rm_hardtarget00 55M
128 posts
12/27/2005 10:11 am

Touche' goddess. Wild, honesty is the easiest and toughest of all traits. If you are honest, it is easy to tell the truth! Of course that can cause all sorts or problems (Do these pants make me look fat?). But it should be primary in a relationship. If your friend had said upfront that he had a "sig-other" then you would not have wasted your time. Head games are what we all do! Honesty would stop them (games) quickly. But it has been my experience that EVERYONE lies. Yes everyone; me, you, etc. Why and when we do it is our own decision but we all do it or have done it. See, the truth is easy to get out but it is not always pretty. Just protect yourself!

MATCstudent2006 58M

6/23/2007 7:36 pm

Just move on, don't be so uptight about whether or not someone has a girlfriend or wife. Your obviously on here looking for sex, if not then this is the wrong place for you, and you should move to eHarmony or some other fluffy site. As far as I'm concerned and probably 8 out of 10 others here on AdultFriendFinder that this site is designed for allowing people to hook up for Uninhibited Mind Blowing SEX., I'm OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!

fireboy6900 56M

7/27/2007 12:34 pm

That's too bad... it sucks to feel like you've been taken advantage of.... I admit I'm on here for the sex and fun, but I would never do it at another's expense. I hope things are turning around for you!

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