Are we meant to have more than one true love?  

rm_wigggly 40F
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1/4/2006 11:21 am

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Are we meant to have more than one true love?


They say if you love something to let it go, and if it comes back it was meant to be. What if it never loved you back? Or better yet, what if it was too afraid too?

I ponder this because in all the love stories in all the world, no one ever asks that question out loud.

What you have is a one sided love that was never meant to be under the rules of the sentimental stories that we so love to hear. What you have is an empty soul for a moment in time, longing for their love to return. To be single and longing for love, how far does one go to get there? What steps are considered “acceptable” and what steps are not? At what point do you walk away and let love fly? At what moment does one realize that what they cared so deeply for is not meant to be theirs? At what point does it nor longer be considered love, if it flew away so graciously, then was it really love to begin with? Moreover, does love only come once in a lifetime, or are we meant to have more than one true love?

Being single there is somewhat of an empty piece of you, even though you are still a whole person, there is that part that longs for intimacy, passion, and trust with another. Those who have experienced such a profound affection for someone, know what I am talking about. Passion, that is another topic altogether…. But if you’ve never felt it, I suggest opening your eyes, it is AMAZING.

I have personally been in multiple relationships; I cannot tell you how many times I have pondered whether or not I am meant to be alone when it comes to the end. I am quite difficult at times, strong, sometimes weak, but always passionate. But why do I not deserve to have that special love? When is it my time to be loved forever? And is there a man strong enough to love me back? However honest & sentimental that sounds, I am not the only women who has ever asked that question.

I do not think it is either one person or another’s fault in why relationships fail. I believe that personalities either match, or they don’t. I don’t believe one person is bad for not matching with another. I believe, that we all have to keep moving in order to find the one who matches us best. However painful the journey may be, due to bumps in the road or changes of direction; I believe the end will show itself, when the time is right. And the journey is not always painful, but when we hear “ending” we think pain. As there always is some….

We are all here with a purpose and with a plan, although we don’t know what that is, we have to trust that there is one. And just because love has failed us in the past, does not mean that it will fail us in the future. Keep hope alive, and I think if we are just ourselves, we will have moments of “love” whether they last or not, at least we felt them. And that in itself, is quite an amazing feeling!

VINDD 52M

1/4/2006 6:17 pm

Quite an amazing blog,wish i could have had the chance to get to know you better,maybe we were the one's for each other,but were just not given the chance to see.


WestMichiganBud 41M
11 posts
1/5/2006 9:09 pm

Wow, that was pretty deep. I have been there with love. It has always seemed to find me in odd places. Kind of like having someone come out of left field with a question or remark. You find yourself doing the infamous beagle head tilt. Love is relative to everyone and it is a constant to everyone. It is a mystery and common knowledge. I say be patient and keep a keen eye and open heart.


rm_Monutain1 61M

1/8/2006 12:55 pm

I have wondered the same thing, you have said it so well maybe someday we will all know.


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