the insomniac's club  

wickedeasy 66F  
14993 posts
8/27/2006 8:40 am
the insomniac's club

you have to go to the grocery store at 6:30 AM on a SUnday sometimes. it isn't the best time to shop but boy oh boy, it sure is the best time to meet people. every person i saw said hello. some stopped to chat.

there was a woman about 80, who never sleeps past 5 and who comes to the Star Market early so she can walk about without being "stampeded". her name is Grace and she has 11 grandchildren and they are all coming over tonight for dinner.

there was this young man, sort of dazed looking, trying to find the diaper wipes. Grace and i walked him over there. his new son is only 17 days old - they named him David. He is the first child, the only grandchild and they had been trying for over three years. Grace has a David too.

a woman careened by, carrying on a full blown conversation with her invisible friend - they're apparently quite close - and they decided to have fresh strawberries and cream for dessert tonight.

a mom and two kids - harried, not talking, not smiling, just dragging the kids through the aisles.

the man who makes the sushi was coming in when i got to the deli area. i picked up some olives and we chatted about where they get their tuna. he looked around - then said sotto voice - only buy the tuna on Thursday. i nodded and bought some california rolls instead.

only one clerk so the line was long and chatty and we all were happily waiting until the harried mom joined us. she wanted to know why there wasn't another clerk. the line was too long. she had things to do. to a person, we all dropped back, allowing her to go ahead of all of us.

and she burst into tears. Grace handed her a tissue and we all murmured there, there and she said, "you're the first people who have been nice to me in weeks, weeks" David's dad was engaging her kids in some silly talk and i asked if she was a single mom. Her husband is in training, heading to Iraq soon and all of her family live in Texas and she's going back there in a week. Grace asked her and her kids to dinner - "don't be silly - always room for more kids, always". i hope she goes.

as i finished paying, Grace stood waiting - i was giving her a ride home as she'd bought more than she usually does because usually she has to walk and it gets too heavy for her. i told her i almost always shop on Friday, late mornings and i could come and pick her up. she smiled and said no, thank you, i like the walk and i like to come early like this.

when i dropped her to her house, a neighbor was out putting trash into a barrel. He walked on over and picked up the bags to carry them in. Grace said he is out taking trash down every Sunday morning. but i think he is a very good neighbor.

i might go back next week. see who's there. catch up with Grace - the pictures of her grandchildren should be ready by then.

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

rm_shannee2006 52F
3355 posts
8/27/2006 8:57 am

You really are a marvelous woman. I love how you veiw the people around you Maggie. I really do. I wish you lived near me. We'd be the best of friends I bet.

Yup...this juiciness is from me....


wickedeasy replies on 8/27/2006 10:00 am:
me too

but we have time

and we will meet sisterfriend

free2chose2 66F

8/27/2006 9:00 am

I'd like to grocery shop there

Don't worry, be Happy

wickedeasy replies on 8/27/2006 10:01 am:
just don't go Saturday afternoon - shudders

FrankPicasso 52M

8/27/2006 10:25 am

Urban communities do still exist. Thanks for this important and inspirational reminder.

wickedeasy replies on 8/27/2006 11:34 am:
humanity survives - no wait, flourishes - despite the odds

hugs to your wife

SingleWarrior 52M

8/27/2006 11:27 am

Sounds like a great morning

Reminds me of my near daily trips to McD's where they all know me now (I just walk in, someone yells out to the cashiers my usual order, I pay then chat for a bit )

wickedeasy replies on 8/27/2006 1:20 pm:

angelofmercy5 58F
17881 posts
8/27/2006 1:32 pm

WE...this post made me long for my childhood.....when we played in the streets. Walked to the store...and knew our neighbors by name. What a wonderful morning. Thanks for sharing it. And I sure wish you were my neighbor!

wickedeasy replies on 8/28/2006 7:50 am:
awww angel - thanks - i'd like to have you as a neighbor as well - but i wonder if we coudl afford the bail money

SingleWarrior 52M

8/27/2006 3:13 pm

wickedeasy replies on 8/27/2006 1:20 pm:

No no no... Norm is my co-worker who can't hear in one hear and is deaf in the other

(I know what you meant )

AstirRelicLatah 64M
1993 posts
8/27/2006 3:31 pm

This is what most of America is when we get a chance to breath. We want community and we want to be noticed by our neighbors....Luckily we have this in many parts of Vermont....It's one of the reasons I stay here. thanks for both posts to day, they both were inspiring.

wickedeasy replies on 8/28/2006 7:51 am:
you are entirely welcome

i followed your link to the terrorism blog - big brother is here


8/27/2006 6:24 pm

That is a wonderful story on many levels. It is refreshing to see that people really can care for each other, and do it simply because it is the decent and right thing to do. So many people act as if they live in a vacuum and choose not to do the things that came so naturally to previous generations. It just seems like so many people live in fear, and react by withdrawing from their fellow-travelers on this planet. Thanks for reminding me that there are still folks out there like you who still believe that empathy and kindness are not more than just words.

wickedeasy replies on 8/28/2006 7:53 am:
oh they are there, everywhere but in moments suspended from time, they become so much more evident

in the daily hurlyburly - they're harder to spot - still there tho

warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
8/27/2006 7:18 pm

I just love those "ordinary" human moments.

A lovely post written with a warmth and affection for your fellow souls.

warm xx

wickedeasy replies on 8/28/2006 7:54 am:
ta warm

ButteryDelight 58F

8/27/2006 11:24 pm

I used to work at walmart. My favorite time to work was the early shift from 7:00 a.m. to 11:00. The nicest people come in at that time.

Thanks for reminding me of them.

*hugs ya

Buttery Delight

wickedeasy replies on 8/28/2006 7:54 am:
BD - you are one of those people everyday - a pleasure to know you

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