common courtesy  

wickedeasy 66F  
14946 posts
5/12/2006 10:35 am
common courtesy

a pal said to me the other day "that's only common courtesy" and it started me thinking. i've been around the block a few times and i have to tell you - things are going downhill fast in the courtesy department.

when was the last time someone offered you their seat on a crowded bus? held the door for you as you juggled 6 coffees on your way out of DD? or even just said "good morning"

men over 40 do all of those things - without thinking - taught well by their mothers

young men and women by and large, act as if you are simply an impediment to their day

are we all becoming so self centered, so self involved that the 10 seconds it would take are just WAY too much effort to expend on a fellow human being?

today i saw a mom and her two kids in the store. an older woman dropped her purse when she tried to reach something on a high shelf. both children rushed over to help, followed by their mom.

to Moms who did and still do make sure their children exist harmoniously in the world - my thanks and acknowledgment of a job well done and one worth doing well

i also saw a mom slap her child for asking to hold a bag of pretzels -

who are you raising?

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

rm_PeanutJackie 35F
1286 posts
5/12/2006 4:52 pm

I guess I was raised right then. I try to help others as much as possible, I'm I try to always use my manners. Even just smiling at a stranger walking down the street can brighten someone's day.

When I was working in childcare, I insisted that my 2 year olds learn manners. You'd be surprised how thankful the parents were when they commented to me that their child had said please and thank you at home.

"I am beautiful no matter what you say, words can't bring me down. So don't you bring me down today."

wickedeasy replies on 5/13/2006 6:50 am:
exactly -

Your mom must be so proud -

hugs PJ tight

rm_gerson42 52M
2419 posts
5/12/2006 6:41 pm

Well, I think it definately starts with the parents. Yet society also plays a role. We now live in a of rewards. Not everything gets a reward. The reward is knowing we've done the right thing. If that is not enough, then the behavior disappears. Tis sad.

wickedeasy replies on 5/13/2006 6:53 am:
we live in a disposable society - and one that puts more value on the dollar than on human dignity

doing the right thing shouldn't be suspect - yet it is

thanks for this - made me think

rm_CuummDrop 48F
2591 posts
5/13/2006 7:07 am

The value's that i was raised with i try to teach my own daughter... Today's society is a bit more lax, and bit more, how can i say.. "Take-Take" not Give and Take, and definetly not "give-give"..

Oh and btw, easy... Good Morning Sunshine...

Now won't last forever, so use it wisely~c

wickedeasy replies on 5/13/2006 9:34 am:
good morning love

MaggiesWishes 59F

5/13/2006 9:08 am

My daughter would address you in "my" southern culture, as Miss Jane or Mr Jack, if you were family friends. Otherwise, it would be the proper greetings by status. I have never heard her verbally cuss or raise her voice. I do know that she can throw one HELL of a right hook, cause her girlfriend really PO'd her and got decked! I treated her black eye. They remain best friends to this day

I tend to half agree that it's the parents responsibility to teach our youth the "good values" in this life. I also hold the child responsible to carry out such teachings. WE all have a choice to break the chain of bad habits or situations in our life.

I made a choice, a change, a difference in my life, and my daughter was spared the ugliness that I endured. It could have been a crutch for both of us had I not broke the chain.

warm huggies 2ya and great post

wickedeasy replies on 5/13/2006 9:37 am:
it takes an inordinate amount of courage to break the chain

bless you for doing so

and Happy Mother's Day - your girl is very lucky to have you

ButteryDelight 58F

5/13/2006 7:49 pm

My daughter was 7 years old when she wanted to be a GirlScout. So, I became a leader. GirlScouts is a great organization. We as leaders were encouraged to teach the girls manners and worked as a troop to complete Manners Badges. I was surprised at how many of the girls in my troop did not know how to sit in a chair with their legs together, back straight nor did they know how set a table properly. It's a sad state of affairs when our society has gotten too busy to teach the basics of manners to our future leaders.

wickedeasy replies on 5/14/2006 6:18 am:
BD - i still remember family dinners and my mom saying in her quiet voice, "elbows, mibby"

and writing thank you notes - how many do that anymore?

sighs -

i was a boyscout den mother - we spent 4 hours together every week and i never once had to remind them of manners - i wrote to each mother thanking them for what they had so clearly taught and taught well.

one by one the mothers called to ask "are you sure that's my Jimmy/Joe/Danny you are talking about" made me so aware that the lessons taught move into the world and while we may not always get the best moments at home, the wprld will see our children in a favorable light -

so, job well done, no?

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