Yoni Yearnings  

whineyblonde0r 53F
287 posts
7/5/2006 9:40 pm
Yoni Yearnings


Yoni (pronounced YO-NEE) is a Sanskrit word for the vagina that is loosely translated as "Sacred Space" or "Sacred Temple." Its meaning and use is an alternate perspective from the Western view of the female genitals. In Tantra, the Yoni is seen from a perspective of love and respect. This is especially helpful for men to learn.

I have been taking the time to read up on various techniques and sexual things..may as well..Im not "doing it" right now anyway. I find I do not know crap about some things.I know my own body, but hot damn there are sooo many things out there to discover that I hadnt thought about in my zest to just do things as they came up within a relationship, and I have tried ALOT of things that way, but I am finding some men just dont get a few basic facts. (um..any of my previous partners that may read this you were FANFUCKINGTASTIC! it wasnt about the sex)...(smiles)I wonder why I feel the need for disclaimers here????

A few tips for the guys out there that have no clue.....

G-spot......
With your palm facing up, and the middle finger inside the vagina move the middle finger in a "come here" gesture or crook back towards the palm. You will contact a spongy area of tissue just under the pubic bone, behind the clitoris. This is the G-spot. Vary the pressure, speed and pattern of movement. You can move side to side, back and forth, or in circles with your middle finger. You can also insert the finger that's between your middle finger and pinky. Take your time and be very gentle. You may use the thumb of the right hand to stimulate the clitoris as well.

Nerve endings...The major nerve endings are within the first 2 to 3 inches inside the vagina. Teasing that area with slow thrusts is the best..then the sudden "all the way in" feels awesome. This kinda helps you guys who are smaller. It doesnt matter really in the long run cause there arent nerve endings way up inside anyway. Though I must admit myself personally. A larger one does feel better ultimately than a smaller one.

Wettnesssss...yess yess...take the time to turn a woman on with teasing and it all comes naturally ooozing down. For me, it does take a bit more to make it flow after I have cum many times. That is no reflection on talents, but more towards it only gets produced so fast. Dont rub a clit or pussy that is dry, it makes it sore. Time for ORAL!

Periods....Women are insanely turned on during periods. If they are comfortable with it and so are you..do it..you can make a woman cum with finger stimulation or toys on the clit. It is know to releive cramping, shortens the period by days and keeps the woman in a better "mental" state. Do it in the shower if you are thinking..icky! Your more likely to get that dreamed of bj when she is happy too.

Anal sex, play...Make sure it is WELL lubed and once you have played in there with a finger..cock..toy..do not place the same object into the womans pussy. There is um..stuff remaining that is not good to have put in there. Any woman who has had a UTI will agree. With that said..gawd having ones ass licked is um..nice. Save it for shower play if your uneasy at first about it.

Emotions....If you feel the urge to ask..."Is something wrong" and she says no...she is lying.

Attentions...Even if just in a sexual relatation..attention is good. If in a one on one relation..attention is key. Women like to talk. Know your listening and quizzes do follow!

Past relationships...I always ask. I want to know break up reasons..what was good about it..bad...etc..I share my ex stories..I dont have to, but think it does give some insight to why I might dump you unexpectedly if you do something that elicites a bad memory. I dont think I want to train a guy to walk on eggshells around me. But let it be known. Ive had a ex who screamed instead of talked...screaming gets you no where with me.I dislike fighting ALOT! I had an alcoholic ex. Drinking within reason is ok. Drinking alot...not. Another ex, worked too much..even if tired...take care of my sexual needs and we be fine..There has to be a very good reason I wouldnt want sex,even if tired. Probably something to do with the past two things... Attention and Emotion.

Children...they always come first. It is more important now that I have reached the age most men I date have kids too. Though the last few guys I dated didnt have any at home currently..I do. I will have to work around my child. If you come to the womans home..Dont expect "mommy" to be the same as the woman you have when alone with her. Moms have to set an example for their kids..specially daughters. There will be limits in which she has to act when around "home" and it is very much different (for me) than I act when "not mommy"

As I am nearing the end of the alphabetical blogs. My mind is about out of "stuff" relating to sex and relationships.(not really, but all I can share without giving away all my secrets) I have bared alot of my personal likes, needs and wants here. It should be printed and put in a manual for any prospective dating partners maybe? Or ..maybe it is best to sit and talk to the person? Take the time to get to know your "partner" then there cant be any unexpected surprises when she or he hits that deal breaker time in the relationship. There are "rules" despite trying to not make rules in life for myself.......

Final thought on this blog...Anything I say can and will be held against me. If I happened to date a person who had read all of my blogs..what wonderful insight they might have into the workings of my mind. That wasnt the purpose of them, and it might rule out some who I could possibly "scare" with such open discussions of myself. But ..that is what you will get in real life from me too...I dont know how to keep my mouth shut sometimes..

rm_reif69 47M

7/6/2006 6:28 pm

Hey you gave away some secrets about the G-spot that I did research on and I agree that all men should know. I have surprised a my last ex with that new found information that I know she will regret leaving someday but that is her loss. There is a lot of information on the web and I see that you do a lot of research yourself. Never to old to learn new things and be adventurous. I admire your knowledge and would love to have you as my go to girl for any incite on how to keep things working once I can get something started again. Talk to you later sweety, Have a wonderful night.


whineyblonde0r 53F
140 posts
7/6/2006 9:28 pm

Reif...wahhh...are you calling me OLD!..ya meanie!!!!.lol..


rm_reif69 47M

7/7/2006 1:25 pm

And you can me too young lol


SirMounts 102M

7/8/2006 1:30 am

My, what a wealth of good information here.
A Man should learn how to please a woman, if only for the selfish reason that it makes the sex way better for Him, too.
Thank you for that, whineyblonde. *smiling warmly*


whineyblonde0r 53F
140 posts
7/8/2006 2:51 am

Reif..did I ever mention..My new humanitarian hobby is schooling wayward youths? !!


whineyblonde0r 53F
140 posts
7/8/2006 2:57 am

Sir Mounts..nothing better for sex than a woman who knows the partner she is with..TOTALLY lust and wants her...in the bedroom, out of the bedroom and inside her head....bigger warmer smiles back


SirMounts 102M

7/14/2006 1:37 pm

whineyblonde0r...
Why yes. It sort of speaks to something... primal, inside of her. *dreamy*


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