How long does it take to meet your....................  

wetnwildaquarius 44F
574 posts
7/27/2005 3:38 pm

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How long does it take to meet your....................

I wondered since I am still young; how long does it actually take to meet your soul mate. How would you know if that person is the person you have thought of for so long? You meet people all the time and it's hard to tell whether they are genuine. So what do you do to test whether a person is really what you are looking for. We can have our own ideas in our mind about what the idea mate should be like, but what happens when you meet someone and they are not at all what you expected. What if the person was the opposite of what you dreamed of? And then there's the saying of opposites attrack, but is that always the case.

I have met many men in my life and I think I idealize them to the point where I only saw what I wanted to see. I did not really look into who they were, but more so of how they made me feel for that moment. But when the moment left I was able to see that I was not happy there either. I am starting to wonder if I know what I really want or have I been fooling myself believing that happiness is out there somewhere for me.

I don't want to give up because I have heard; just when you decide to give up that's when something steps in to show you that life is not over. I know this is not the time to throw in the towel, but I feel as though who I am can not shine anywhere at this time. So what is a young woman to do with herself in the mean time. I wonder.


rm_xratedsugar 34F

7/27/2005 4:49 pm

just have fun! when u meet the one u will know. but then again i thought i had met perfect guys and look at me now, two kids and unhappy! i sometimes dream about guys that i have gotten out of relationships with and think about how much better it was than now and wish i could start over and stay with that one person i gave up. but there are so many "true loves" out there for each person. not just one. and things can change in ten years to where that one isnt for u anymore. thats why i dont ever wanna marry because i am afraid that one will come along again and it will be tougher to get out then if together for several years. luckily the one i am with now doesnt want to get married yet cause past relationship. only thing is, now we have kid which makes things tough. all i can say is keep looking and you will know, but there isnt just one "true love" for everyone. i think there are many that will take or break your heart. but u have to be willing to sacrifice to find what u want. good luck and hope you are happy with whatever comes your way!


fishn4funwithu 47M

7/27/2005 7:06 pm

I don't think there is any easy answer to this question. I think once you figure out what type of person would be the ideal match for you (I have not been able to figure this out yet), you need to search how ever long it takes. Don't settle for less than the best. I can tell you from personal experiance, it will only be a matter of time before you are looking again. The best things in life are always the hardest to obtain. Keep your head up and think positive.


browolf4sismoon 44M

7/27/2005 7:55 pm

Don't give up! It's just a question of mind over matter. Believe that it will happen but don't look for it. Be relaxed. Happiness is out there somewhere. There's no hurry. True happiness is worth all the time it took to find it, no matter how long. Be at ease with yourself. You are who you are and in that you are perfection. You shine.

I am of the opinion that knowing one's soul mate is a realization you have one day out of the blue. It might be long into a relationship. I also believe you can't imagine your soulmate. Even tho we all hold preconceived ideas on who our ideal partners are we have be open to the possibility that our soulmate is someone we could never imagine in a million years.

btw with Blogs the more you can talk about yourself, your life, the more people can see who you really are, the same goes for people on here you are interested in. I got 3 posts and no comments in my blog, i just started it, but I believe in revealing myself there's bound to be a few in all the millions here that find something they like.


phred0069 44M

7/27/2005 7:55 pm

well i just want to say that i think you are very sexy (making me hard just imaging my naked body against yours) and i WISH i could be your soulmate.


wetnwildaquarius 44F

7/27/2005 8:40 pm

Thank you xratedsugar. I really appreciate that. That helps.


Freedom2Luv 39M
5 posts
7/27/2005 9:14 pm

Ditto to what XtratedSugar said about just having fun. I had to check your profile before posting so as not to sound so 'knowing' though you're a couple older than I . I divorced after three years of marriage and many years of being close friends to older and highly enlightened men and women -- It could take a lifetime to find your soulmate. Some people die without having ever found him or her. At least make it so that you did not live in the absence of fun!


SetonRoilsJokes 48
59 posts
7/27/2005 11:25 pm

WET- YOU ARE GOING TO BE JUST FINE-ONE THING ABOUT LIFE IS THATWE ALL WILL GO THRU THOSE BUMPY ROADS AND OSMEHOW WE WIL MEET THAT SOMEONE TO COMPLETE US- LIKE I ALWAYS TELL PEOPLE- DONT SETTLE FOR ANYHTING LESS THAT CANNOT MAKE YOU TRULY HAPPY.

YOUR SUOLMATE HAS TO BE CONSISTENT WITH HIS DEP AFFECTIONS AND LOVE TOWRADS YOU. HE MUST NOT BE SELFISH AND HOPEFULLY HE WILL WORSHIP YOU EACH DAY THAT HE IS ABLE TO BE WITH YOU.

MAYBE THEIR ISNT SUCH THING AS A PERFECT PERSON OR SOULMATE, BUT ANY PERSON THAT CAN MAE YOU FEL LIKEA WOMAN ONA CONSISTENT BASIS AND SHOW YOU GENUINE LOVE AND CARE, HAS THE MAKINGS OF A FUTURE POTENTIAL SOULMATE.
I'M SURE ONE DAY THAT GUY WILL COME. OSMETIMES IF YOU DON'T GO LOOKING, HE WILL COME TO YOU . HANG IN THERE SWEETIE -MUAH


wetnwildaquarius 44F

7/28/2005 7:46 am

Thank you all, but I am never looking for him because I was taught that a woman is sought. I use to be the one looking for love and came up with a dud. I have made so many dumb mistakes and bad judgment of character to where I am afraid of what's next. I am not giving up though because I know what lies underneath all th pain and anxiety within me. No one has been able to bring it out because they don't care too. All they see is woman who has lived her life and has not been able to shake off certain barriers. I have barriers that I am slowly but surely starting to let down. But I still find it hard to let them down because no one cares to know who I am anyway. So why bother. Why reveal who I am when it won't make any difference in my life? Thank you all for your words of encouragment. You are all very kind.


rm_talldarkavg1 105M
10172 posts
7/28/2005 10:10 am

Well said. Patience is the key love. You know what you want and will not settle for less. That always spells success.

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wetnwildaquarius 44F

7/28/2005 2:59 pm

Thank you talldarkavg1. Your words of wisdom are always needed at a time like this. I wish my dad were more like you to a degree. You are like a God-Father to me. Thank you! I will keep that in mind.


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