Keep Fucking and Stay Living  

warmandsexy52 64M
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3/12/2006 5:34 am

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3/18/2006 9:03 am

Keep Fucking and Stay Living

Sexually active older people live longer and stay healthier than their celibate counterparts

Having sex three times a week can increase your lifespan by as much as ten years, according to Saga, an organisation for the over 50s in the UK. This finding is borne out by other sources, including Professor Ian Philp, senior government advisor about old age.

He said: "Sexually active older people live longer and stay healthier than their celibate counterparts.

And he added: "Sex can help elderly people stay healthy like any exercise, yet it seems that the sexual interest remains particularly strong in elderly women."

But the whole territory of older sex seems almost taboo. Go into a search engine and start looking and you’ll find lots about older women and very young men and older men and very young women, and very little about older men and women of similar age. Now I don’t take much of an issue about age difference, although the discourse of what I’m finding is telling me another story too ‒ one of denial and the quest for youth by proxy ‒ but I am struck by what appears to be a conspicuous absence, and that has to say something about our social attitudes, particularly when such attitudes may be preventing people from having longer and healthier lives.

So I started wondering about certain things. Firstly as men get older their speed of arousal decreases, but so long as they’re fit and healthy they can keep going and going, like the toy in the alkaline battery advert. No prem ejacs here ladies, and if a little more foreplay is needed that just adds to the variety and fun. But for men they reach a stage of having to “look after” their libido and sadly, in a society where sex and sexuality are focused on the young, it’s all too easy to comfortably let that slide into a state of comfortable neglect, with time dedicated to golf courses and sport on TV, followed by a couple of beers and a long snooze on the couch.

Ahhhhhhh bless!

Don’t he look cute?

Snoring away ……

Not!

Use it or lose it guys. And if you’re under 35 and reading this, your time will come, however much in denial you might be my friend.

Secondly, the menopause is an end to fertility, and there are a number of changes that take place, but it’s by no means the end to sexuality and you could argue quite the reverse as increased levels of testosterone (which might sound like an anathema to one’s womanliness, but hey it’s only a hormone!) increase libido, assertiveness and desire for sex. The ability to have orgasms, even multiple orgasms, is unaffected, and if lubrication is an issue there are a number of proprietary water-based gels easily available, some with that extra something to increase the pizzazz. It’s menopausal perceptions rather than the menopause itself ‒ that it is some kind of psychological boundary in time beyond which more than fertility ceases to occur ‒ that is the issue.

Simply because the older you get means the less like Venus or Adonis you become, and that’s something that nowadays you can do a huge amount about, if only through lifestyle, and the less like Venus or Adonis your partner becomes does not negate the pleasure and closeness that sex can bring. The fact that sex in the over 50s is not hugely promoted in a society (probably because we’re conditioned to think it doesn’t look pretty any more!) that understandably promotes youth does not mean to say that the lack of advertising means we are obliged to ignore the product.

As for the benefits ‒ improved circulation, it’s a better workout than a hamster-wheel substitute down the gym (certainly more fun), the sheer feelgood factor that promotes an optimistic and positive self-image, and the psycho-chemical changes that occur between you and your partner.

I would argue strongly that you owe it to yourself to stay as sexually active as long as you possibly can.

Ah well, duty calls ………

drops pants and exits stage right ……

Once you have read this post please read Senior sex by kat aka Frnds4Play. It is an inspiration.


warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
3/18/2006 9:03 am

So I understand too, HB. It makes sex something more than an alternative to watching TV or (dare I say it?) surfing the net.

warm xx


HBowt2 58F

3/18/2006 3:00 am

supposed to be good for the prostate gland too.....so a winner all round


warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
3/14/2006 2:51 pm

Now I just don't know how many times a week that would take, Tabs!


TabithaElectra79 37F

3/14/2006 12:57 am

I want to stay 27 forever....

*sigh*


warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
3/13/2006 11:27 pm

Heavenly, I'm moved by the kindness of your words. And when you wrote...

but more importantly... it shows a person that they are still wanted,needed...and loved

....that shared passion and desire is such a unique, meaningful and wonderful experience it would be wrong to deny it ..... or even imagine it denied ..... to anyone. In it we place such value upon each other and mutually enrich our lives ..... it's good to be loved.

Thank you.


warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
3/13/2006 3:24 pm

Somehow I doubt that, aascrompn. Charm, wit, savoir faire ...... and it's a long road to 80!


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/13/2006 1:12 pm

Sadly, I have to find a partner first... Looks like I'll be the celebate 80 yr. old... *sigh*


warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
3/12/2006 11:00 pm

Very much so, sexy.


warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
3/12/2006 3:57 pm

Foxy darling, with your partner you will always look good enough.

Having exited stage right I see someone following....... better slow down!


warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
3/12/2006 11:29 am

Thank you nikki. No way are you over the hill. Statistics show that we can expect another 30 years out of life ...... hey, let's make it 40! Little by little I've come to the view that sex is a form of communication - in a way that we can't communicate by other means ...... with passion, intimacy and physicality. At the time its prettiness actually doesn't matter much in the midst of the physical and emotional intense experience. What are bodies anyway but our innermost garments within which our true selves are?

Having said that I'm still conscious of wanting to keep myself in good shape!


warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
3/12/2006 11:17 am

I'm so pleased you agree kat. I seriously think it's so important - important enough to work at. The baby boomer generation have made their mark on so many things I'm surprised it hasn't on this territory (.......yet!), but as a baby boomer baby myself I'm working on it, inspired by people such as yourself.


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