Do You Flirt at Work?  

warmandsexy52 64M
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2/26/2006 1:52 pm

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Do You Flirt at Work?

There is quite a lot of controversy in the UK at the moment about flirting at work. On the one hand there is the view that flirtatiousness is a natural part of normal adult behaviour and working teams that are capable of physical contact including hugging and kissing bond closely, are mutually supportive and productive. Human endeavour is not a cold process and emotional closeness simply gets the wheels a turning.

Flirtatious human interactions make people feel good about who they are what they are doing. To flirt is simply interpersonal and emotional intelligence at work.

On the other there is the whole issue of sexual harassment. Flirting can go badly wrong if it’s intermixed with a power relationship and managers can find themselves falling afoul of the law and taken to the cleaners. An italian bank manager recently lost his job and was fined 1500 Euros for kissing an employee on the lips. An in-house lawyer for a London investment firm sued her company for £500,000 for sexual harassment and won. It appears that there is this wafer-thin line between acceptable and unacceptable behaviour.

Then again there is the risk of emotional attachment as a result of being sexually wrapped up in a colleague, clouding managerial and professional judgement and there’s nothing like the vulture’s nest of office politics to hamper how effective you are in how you carry out your contractual tasks ‒ the stuff you are given varying amounts of money for.

Not to mention the attractive and sexually desirable manipulating their way up the career ladder. Or are they simply using their god-given attributes - as natural as intelligence - in securing their own personal survival?

Would you like to work in an environment that the slightest puckering of the lips or a naughty or suggestive gesture was so politically incorrect we’d all have to be sitting prim and proper, backs straight, buttocks tight, and behaving within a stringent limit of propriety. Or do we allow ourselves to be human in the way we relate and trust to unspoken understandings and common sense?

So tell me ….. do you flirt at work?

And what is your take on those who do?

warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
2/28/2006 5:00 pm

Saddle sweetie, you're hired!

warmandsexy52 64M
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2/28/2006 4:57 pm

Feisty I'm also a professional and I agree there are different kinds of flirting. If it offends or makes people uncomfortable then that pretty well negates flirting, but there are some men in particular who seem to have a blind spot in their interpersonal intelligence as regards this - egotistical people in particular seem to exhibit this flaw. I also think there are "rules", such as you don't flirt with your clients, you don't overlay power relationships, compromise your credibility or effectiveness, you do understand boundaries and are sensitive to the micropolitics of your actions.

I enjoyed Phoenix and all the days of sunshine. South Mountain was fun to paraglide, dodging the saguaro cacti on the way down! Up-country Arizona was awesome and I might be tempted to come back, but not in the summer.

Thanks for visiting and commenting.

saddletrampsk 54F

2/28/2006 2:36 pm

I am a flirter by nature and when I was working off the farm I was always flirting with my coworkers, it a respectable way of course..I have never crossed the line at work though..but I have had a butt fondling coworker that used to give me the creeps..but I guess that's what I get for being a flirt..

FeistySyn 51F

2/27/2006 5:16 pm

There are definitely different kinds of flirting at work (I work in a tradionally formal professional career field). I have found the older co-workers (males) are the ones that generally end up coming across as offensive... I think because a lot of them still have some potentially unexplored subconscious feelings on a "woman's place". Usually the younger men either don't flirt because of fear of getting "in trouble" or if they do, it's very harmless and light.

P.S. Was very interesting to read your blog post about your visit to my home city. I am not much of a fan of Phoenix, but having been here for over 6 years now, I try to make the best of it... I miss green, the trees and grass, plants.. rain and humidity.

Apparently the depth of depravity here is bottomless... don't you feel right at home?

warmandsexy52 64M
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2/27/2006 3:45 pm

I think aascrompn it's all those other elements of trust and intention that come in to play. To be charming is infinitely better than to be charmless. A sense of fun can be very engaging. It's just knowing where those boundaries lie and others are comfortable in your presence, I guess.

aascrompn 42M
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2/27/2006 12:52 pm

I flirt at work all of the time! I've never been charged or accused w/ harrasment. I think they know it's all a joke to me. It's all in how you deliver it, I think.

warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
2/27/2006 12:14 pm

Part of your contract, I would have thought Marina.

warmandsexy52 64M
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2/27/2006 12:12 pm

Foxy sweetie, do I detect some latent flirtatious tendencies here?

MarinadelMar 59F

2/27/2006 11:17 am

I'm lucky - I get to flirt with the boss all day

One of the privileges of being married to him ....

warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
2/26/2006 10:59 pm

Interesting comment kat. I've seen how destructive it can be. I've equally seen charismatic leadership that has an element of flirting achieve wonders. There appear to be largely unspoken boundaries that are very real if crossed by the crass or unwary.

warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
2/26/2006 3:43 pm

Digdug, you truly are one of the world's good guys. Politeness and charm turn this world around.

digdug41 49M

2/26/2006 2:45 pm

I drive so i am not in an office thank god so I get to harass all the femals lol just kidding if I see a pretty woman on the street i will say hello but thats about it aint no harrassment in being polite

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