What I want -day4  

wantonwill 60M
140 posts
2/13/2006 6:22 pm

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What I want -day4

what I want to know------how or where does education fit into romance, passion, relationships?.....is it important or necessary to have equal or less education than your partner? Is it a help or a hindrance to a relationship?
Does it mattter at All?

Food for thought...perhaps if you read this...you'll care to post a comment, opinion...or advice.

southrnpeach333 50F

2/14/2006 7:29 pm

I think education does play a big part, after all you have to talk sometime. But I think equal intelligence plays a bigger part. My husband and I are equally educated. He is math and computer oriented I am literature and phylosophy oriented. He has no idea when I make a reference to a certain author. And I am clueless when some binary joke. So sometimes it is hard to relate to each other.

rm_LFinPF 51F

2/16/2006 11:11 am

I think education can play a big role in relationships but it doesn't have to.
One of my very dear friends has a degree. She is constantly going on and on about how you need a college degree to get anywhere in this world. I do not have one. I met her because we held parrallel jobs. We were both Senior Program Managers for two associated programs within one organization. One job mirrored the other. She had a four year degree from Washington State. I have plenty of BS...just not the degree kind! We received the same pay and benefits. We constantly debate the need for continued education.

I have another friend who already has two masters and is working on her third. She is a newspaper reporter in Tennessse, a college Journalism Professor and is writing a novel, as we speak (in which, a character is based on me...so you know I am anticipating the release of this book. I can't wait to read it!) She and I talk about everything and our education differences never come into play. It is never even discussed.

As far as husband's go...there are enough problems to think about in a marriage. Money, family, work, SEX.....Education has never been an issue in mine.

I may not be book smart but I am street smart. There are lots of things I learned in high school that I don't really use on a daily basis but everything I learned through my everyday life experiences, I use constantly.

So, I guess....IN MY OPINION (and we all know what they say about opinions...)....education only matters if you want it to. I've met some highly book educated people that I wouldn't waste two minutes with trying to muster up a decent conversation. PERSONALITY is really what you need to get along with someone and to be interesting and fun and to make people enjoy being around you. Not a degree.

actlikeanimals 60F

2/16/2006 5:48 pm

LF has the right idea. I especially like the comment:

"PERSONALITY is really what you need to get along with someone and to be interesting and fun and to make people enjoy being around you. Not a degree."

There is a problem that is more evident when it comes to education between people and that is self worth.

When one is more educated, the other feels inferior and that is a major stumbling block in communication. If you cannot communciate even on a small scale, then there is no chemistry.

End of story.

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
2/20/2006 10:57 pm

Education can come from places other than the traditional educational system. I want someone who is close to or more intelligent than I am. I don't want to have to explain my jokes, and I want someone who can understand what I'm talking about. They don't have to have an education in the same areas as me, but they must be intelligent enough to understand something when it's explained to them. I have a good friend with only a GED. She is probably smarter than I am, reads voraciously in a variety of subjects. What she doesn't have is a concentrated academic knowledge in a particular subject that would allow her to gain a high paying job in a "valued" area of knowledge.

And I'm intimidated enough to double check my spelling for you.

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