red in the face  

wantitnow309 58F
37 posts
6/3/2006 8:11 pm

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6/4/2006 12:42 pm

red in the face


Ok guys. I understand that I may have made the poor guy frustrated and perhaps, a little angry. I was willing to remedy the situation at another time, but I guess he doesn't want to.It's ok. Trouble is,now I feel like a heel. I jumped too quickly and it left me high and dry. Guess Ihave to learn to take it slower and stop once in a while and think. I could've put myself in a dangerous situation for not thinking with my brain instead of with my emotions.
So, I've learned a lesson and will take it a little slower, which is what I planned in the first place.
At least it's fun surfing and talking to others. But, now, I'm just a little more cautious and lots more shy.It makes me think a little harder that maybe I wasn't what he wanted after all for a sly relationship and I am making improvements in my looks as well. Now I wonder if I should take any more steps to go forward. If he had just given me a hint of what went wrong, I could use that for making me better. Guess I need to relax and go with the flow. If a person likes you, they will irregardless. I'm not ugly in the least, but I could do with some improvement. Maybe I'm thinking too hard and not relaxing. Help!!!

goboi_go 55M

6/3/2006 8:36 pm

good for you that you even set up a meeting. You sound pretty intense do you think you come off too strong? I mean, there is nothing wrong with that, you just have to find someone compatible. It is really a numbers game, much to the woman's advantage @ what, 65:1? Just move on, there are 64 others waiting to meet you.

I thought I was going to meet up with someone local.
She and I could barely communicate via email we were so incompatible. It is better to find that out before you meet. Good luck to you.


tjinsoutheastpa1 53M
499 posts
6/3/2006 8:59 pm

I totally understand and had a very similar experience - a walk, chat, make out in the woods! It was me who didn't want to go further at the moment, and never got another chance. I too have made self improvements since that day. It really helps, but I still need to find someone who I am attracted to, is attracted to me, able to have a "no strings" relationship, and can visit on a somewhat regular basis.

I've lost 40 lbs, mainly because it was time; but I want to be attractive and able to perform when it's time! I was working out 3 or 4 times a week, but that's down to 1 or 2 lately due to my scheudle.

Good luck!


RockPebble 69M
2476 posts
6/4/2006 9:37 am

I think you are trying a little too hard, you want to relax and let something happen not make something happen. I don't know what went wrong with the previous meet but it's in the past now. If you find a reasonable match and just let things flow then you will be open to whatever happens.


wishin4fun562 60M

6/4/2006 9:55 am

Sweetie, it is ok to go slow. Never rush anything until you are completely sure. I am also cautious and have to take it slow. As for your looks, I can imagine that you are a very pretty woman and a caring heart to match.


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