If nothing changes, nothing changes.  

wanderlust1176 41F
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4/23/2005 3:22 pm

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If nothing changes, nothing changes.


My sojourn at AdultFriendFinder has sparked some revelations in me, and that is so like me too, to take the basest of experiences and add meaning to them. Since my exhusband and I split, I have wandered from the pure to the depraved, not entirely sure what I liked best, not certain what I was looking for.
At moments I have thought that I was trying to accustom myself to the idea of being alone for the next several years. I can at times get bogged down in bitterness, and think, there could not possibly be a man that could live up to all that I would need him to. Doesn't help that my past romantic experience supports this theory.
And yet, the lessons of life keep throwing its shots my way, what will I do this time?
A lesson that is finally sinking home for me, right now, this very moment, is if you keep doing what you are doing, you will keep getting what you have always got.
They often say in therapy, and in life, that the problem is not wanting to be in a relationship, but the people we are attracted to. And I find, that perhaps Who I am attracted to is starting to change, which takes me totally out of my sphere of experience. My values are changing, where once I was most comfortable in a box, I now prefer wide open spaces. I begin to make my choices based on which choice will afford me more choices. And now I'm getting over even my own head.

nightstogether 56M

4/24/2005 4:46 am

We all evolve and grow, gain more experience and maturity, learn from our errors (hopefully) and from what we have done that has succeeded. We may well be attracted to the same sort of people time and time again, but our attitude towards them and what we demand from them changes with time until, eventually, we find that person who has the vision we have sought, and the knowledge to perform we require.

nightstogether
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