Why do we do what we do? Why do we blog?  

waggypolly 72F
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6/16/2005 5:41 pm

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Why do we do what we do? Why do we blog?

Romancer67 wrote
Polly, allow me this comment:
Why do u want thigns to be thought first before happening?
Why plan everything...you keep holding back on things that you wonder later on what if and what if not!
Dear, You have to learn to let go. I have to agree tho the anticipation is exciting but nothing like the real thing.
I am not gay (I had to clarify that) but I guess gay shows to women are like lesbian shows to guys.

And Redswallow777 wrote
Polly....this was very interesting....you were comfortable having strangers touch you in such an intimate way. I ran away from them in Bucharest...perhaps I am not such a free spirit after all.

They got me thinking about boundaries. It's good to widen our boundaries. But first it's good to explore and know where our boundaries are. Planning keeps spontaneity within bounds.

Redswallow found where his were at that moment in time; so did I. I'd say I did respond spontaneously going as far as I did.
I agree I have a lot to learn about letting go and that's one of the reasons I'm on this site. But I reckon that it's not a good idea to jump into things I might regret. I would really need to work out out whether I wanted to pay for sex.

Do you feel you know your boundaries? What are they? How far do you think they will they shift?

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Romancer67 49M

6/16/2005 7:11 pm

Polly, thanks for taking my comment as intended (in a positive way).
To answer your question about bounderies and i qoute you :"not a good idea to jump into things I might regret. I would really need to work out whether I wanted to pay for sex." We learn by trial and error. You can know if you would like it or not only if you try it. Only then you would know your limitations and boundaries. Else it would stay an idea to toy with and not really knowing the truth. What did really keep you from paying for sex? Was it the idea of paying for sex by itself? are you basing ur judgement on preconceived Ideas of what people think about money for sex? Was it the notion of getting into bed with strangers? OR was it that you were not prepared for it (and here comes again the idea of not letting go and the need to know what is going to happen before hand)
How would you know you would regret it or not? There are no limits to boundaries. There is only you to stop where you want to. May that be out of fear or lack of interest or lack of sense of adventure.
I am an open minded person and i too have my boundaries. I wont try gay adventures because of lack of interest. I am more interest in women. They peek my curiosity. And they are cute and sexy and lovely.
Every woman is a unique world that deserves to be explored. I dont compare one woman to another for the same reason. The woman body is a unique musical instrument. THe more skilled i am in playing it the more beautiful the music comes out.

expatbrit49 62M

6/17/2005 8:32 am

I think that with maybe a few exceptions, most people have movable boundaries. Each act completed will push them a little further out. Many new ideas are first met by a “that’s not for me” or a that wont work etc, but they usually invoke a thought process that may start a series of small steps that will eventually lead you to a place well outside the original point that you would not consider going to.

Thank You for Your Time and Attention

Romancer67 49M

6/17/2005 7:08 pm

LOL...you know the best way to learn how to swim? It is to throw yourself in the water...same applies here Polly...just plung...dont think about it and enjoy..you will have time enough later to think if you enjoyed it as much as you thought you would if not..no harm is done..you had fun..if you did...THEN...make way, Polly is here to stay..LOL

redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
6/17/2005 7:41 pm

Back on May 21 I posted about the only time I had ever done anything close to paying for sex....a massage I knew would be sexual in nature. That was pushing a boundry I had clearly set for myself....not to pay for sex.

I remember how big of a step it had been years earlier just to approach a prostitute. I think we were traveling in Canada. My mate was feeling sick and had gone to bed early. I had seen a woman in a doorway a couple hours earlier and the idea of talking to a prostitute had intrigued me. It was pushing my boundries wildly just to approach this person. I am somewhat introverted. Well, it was quite the adventure just to talk with her. I felt I had jumped a huge hurdle of some kind. It sounds silly now. I went home with all my money in my pocket just knowing I had been able to approach this woman. It didn't matter I hadn't gone beyond that.

Perhaps expat is right in that we move in small steps sometimes towards something that ingrigues us.

As far as having sex with two sex "professionals" in Thailand....folks who make it a business to pleasure people....well that would be pushing a boundry of safety as well as the boundry of paying for sex for me. I would rather do it with a couple I knew a bit better.

AmberSolaire 42M

6/18/2005 4:11 pm

Boundaries are like borders.They can be moved.

rm_unlistedone 65M
2718 posts
6/19/2005 10:30 pm

I used to think I had a good idea of where my boundaries were. But I've learned that through circumstances not under your strict control, boundaries can change or alter. Almost like the ebb and flow of the sea... they can also return to where they once were. Just because you allow something once, doesn't mean you always have to allow it.

XIITheHangedMan 62M

6/26/2005 7:05 pm

You can think and think, but do you really know where your boundaries are until you actually get there?


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