That Was Difficult for Me  

waggypolly 72F
7449 posts
8/7/2006 4:56 pm

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That Was Difficult for Me

My previous post was a difficult one to put up. It used to be a challenge to refer even indirectly to Mr Hewhomiusedtocarefordeeply, let alone to fully expose myself. To be honest, if I hadn't needed to distract myself from the painful parts of that situation I would probably never have come onto this site; and to think about how much I gain from being here! So many friends; so many new understandings.

There are a few blogs where the writers are just been amazingly honest. I want to thank [blog freelove999], LoveHandles686, ella1966 for telling things the way they really are.

The comments I've received on yesterday's post were just so affirming and broadening. If you haven't yet, do please leave something there for me.

Thank you,
your friend


This is Polly, still Wagging
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papyrina 51F
21133 posts
8/7/2006 5:21 pm

they are all lovly women and bloggers

I'm a

i'm here to stay

waggypolly replies on 8/8/2006 3:27 am:
They are all lovely, aren't they? Like you are.

angelofmercy5 59F
17881 posts
8/7/2006 5:50 pm is true that there is alot to be gained on this site...but the most valuable is friendship. I just read yesterday's post.....and I'm sorry that this one didn't work out. But you are a wise woman to still value the friendship. Thanks my friend.

waggypolly replies on 8/8/2006 3:29 am:
One of my friends says loudly, "It's the friendships that last longest." I'd still like to prove her wrong, but maybe I never shall. Thanks for your friendship, Angel.

VATraveler1948 68M

8/7/2006 5:57 pm

Honesty is a whole lot easier than dishonesty. It's more painful to write down but you don't have to worry that someone will catch you in a lie.

Lovehandles686, now there's a guy I haven't heard from in a long time. I suppose that he was honest but I don't think he was very happy.

waggypolly replies on 8/8/2006 3:31 am:
I certainly agree about honesty being easier than lying. But in blogging we can avoid difficult topics (like I've not blogged about this relationship as it unfolded). I haven't lied, but I've not been able to reap the advantages of having shared the truth. I'm going to work on changing that in my blog.

waggypolly replies on 8/8/2006 3:33 am:
Mmm Lovehandles, whatever happened with him, I wonder. That's the downside of this site, people disappearing without trace. How I'd love to ravish that guy.

rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
8/8/2006 12:26 am

the reason i write like that is i am trying to be honest with myself and writing helps me put it in perspective, and also go back read and think about it later and see what i missed out (i have recently read over quite a few of my early blogs about gaeb and realised a lot of things were going on that i didn't acknowledge at the time ... things hidden from myself, but exposed in my words!) i am glad my own musing provide a public service , and most glad that it is of help to you. i really appreciate the friendship you have shown me in the time we've blogged together.

[blog freelove999]

waggypolly replies on 8/8/2006 3:37 am:
What has moved me is you sharing that degree of honesty with all of us. I tend to keep that sort of writing more private and just do it in my journal, reread it there, and then write posts after time for reflection. It's my loss I know, not sharing more while the emotions are fresh. Blog ON Friend.

horny4770 60M
8158 posts
8/8/2006 3:56 am

I think allowing yourself to be completely exposed opens you up to complete vulnerability. I’m glad you're finding the courage along with the insight.

There has been much gained from this site . . . for me . . . knowing you as my friend.


waggypolly replies on 8/8/2006 3:37 pm:
Horny yes. I remember when you arrived. I feel we have gained from each other. Total self-exposure isn't always a wise policy, but I don't need to be guarded here, least of all with you.

warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
8/10/2006 2:56 am

In your openness you have engaged hearts.

warm xx

waggypolly replies on 8/10/2006 3:13 am:
Oooogh thanks. (blushes)


8/10/2006 3:39 am

Your post gives others strength to open their hearts and share.. and yes get the validation that we need.. this is why I started to blog..But I chooses to keep stuff back in the closet.. sigh...
but blog on.. your a wonderful spirit

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat

waggypolly replies on 8/10/2006 6:41 am:
What wonderful encouragement. Thank you. We could try stepping out of the closet hand in hand.

ilsgicemru 72M
2822 posts
8/10/2006 9:44 pm

..................... Polly

The more I write about myself . the more I learn about myself !! .. The more I EXPOSE myself . the more I learn about myself !!

I am so much more healthy than I was when I first started blogging in Oct 05 !!

Your blog has been an inspiration to me from the beginning !! .. I will spend more time with you !! .. Didn't I once ask you to be my "Blogging Mentor" ??

Thankyou for the comments on my 8 new posts .. I have responded to them for you and sent you an Email !!

...................... G.

waggypolly replies on 8/11/2006 2:48 am:
Can't stop - off to mail box. [pants ]

ilsgicemru 72M
2822 posts
8/11/2006 11:40 am

    Quoting rm_sexyfitwoman:
    What I don't get is that he isn't bang my head against the head board every night... I just see very little of him.
This is for Polly

If it were me that 'sexyfitwoman' is talking about . you can bet that I would be home earlier and be banging her head against the head board twice a night at least !!


waggypolly replies on 8/19/2006 10:37 am:
I bet you would too. So it must be LoveHandles686 she's pining for. We'd better let him know how much he's missed.

ella1966 50F
1528 posts
8/13/2006 5:48 am

Hon, I appreciate your comment on my honesty, but I think in my case, my honesty appears to have alienated readers, and yet I have tried to portray my husband in the best, most honest and unbiased way I could, without bashing him as some married women love to do regarding their husbands on here... I haven't find the magic formula and only time with tell whether my strategy has been a successful one for me..after all we are all after the same thing, that 'ellusive' quest for happiness..

waggypolly replies on 8/13/2006 6:02 am:

I've just come from reading your conversation with that woman in ?Florida. You were very fair to your husband, you didn't "bash" him there.

I spose there is a risk that honesty will alienate those it threatens, and tact and fairness must always be there. But I hide too much stuff that wouldn't hurt other people. Sometimes just because I'm shy but often because I'm scared of really acknowledging and dealing with my own feelings. That's what I want to start working on.

Thank you for your friendship. (My husband was a virgin too and incredibly naive; it didn't help.)

redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
8/18/2006 7:45 am

I appreciate your honesty because it gives me the push I need to deal with my stuff. Thank you for hanging in there!

waggypolly replies on 8/18/2006 3:57 pm:

Tell me more! And let's keep hanging in together.

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