Keeping Comments Rich  

waggypolly 72F
7449 posts
7/31/2005 6:07 pm

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Keeping Comments Rich

So there’s lots of agreement that comments are the lifeblood of blogging.The quality of the comments is important. I started my blog in April at a time when there were about 700 comments posted a day. I was curious to see what other people wrote and if they were interested in my comments. At that time comments didn’t stick well and people would go back to see if their comments had taken, as well as to see how the blogger had responded to their comments. There was often a richness of interaction, innuendo and banter in the threads - not just between the blogger and individual commenters themselves but also among commenters - that made them worth revisiting.

After a while this sort of checking became less important as posts began to take better. Then there was discussion about people posting comments on their own blog with (dare it be said!) the intention of increasing their popularity status and maybe this put some people off developing conversations within the thread of their own blogs.

Other people make a virtue of proclaiming “I respond to every comment”. If the original comment is brief and perfunctory then the likelihood is the response will be too. Some comments are so brief that they defy any meaningful response. This does not produce richness in the interaction, especially on very popular blogs where a list of responses to comments becomes a tall column of disconnected oneliners.

Now there are about 2000 comments posted a day, in line with the increase in the number of blogs and bloggers and the number of comments. When I go to read some favourite blogs they have collected over 30 comments. It is difficult to read them all and it is tiresome to wait for the second page to load. It is tempting to type out my comment without reading the other comments at all.

The people who receive most comments really have it tough if they try to respond to everyone. Someone has suggested that another time saving device being used is to maintain a bank of all-service comments that can be quickly pasted (see one of the comments and my response to it in my previous post ‒ look for the whip).

I have two thoughts. One is to wonder if there is a point at which our Friendly Site will become so large that huge group around the most popular blogs will simply explode and the site settle down into a number of smaller semi-autonomous groups of blogging friends. The other has been implied throughout this entry and it is about keeping comments genuinely meaningful and richly interactive.

This is Polly, still Wagging
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LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
7/31/2005 6:38 pm

Comments range based off the thoroughness of the original post. If the poster makes solid points in the initial post then comments are often few. Normally the less information within a post recieves the highest amount of comments.

Women receive about 40% to 60% more views then men because there are far more men on this site then there are women. Naturally a lot of men will turn to a female's post before another man's.

There were a lot of issues in the begining because there are no list for female bloggers. However seeing that women receive so much attention as is I think AdultFriendFinder decided not to give them their own list since they make up the majority of the blogs that are read anyway.

redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
8/1/2005 11:48 am

Polly, I like your clarity. You did a good job of summarizing the history of blog commentary here and problems that have occured over time in our blog community.

I for one like comments that are interactive. I like to share ideas, feelings, and humor here in the blogs. If my blog was only me writing a public journal I probably would have quit a long time ago.

I respond to people who comment on my blog because I think it is respectful to respond in kind. I do that differently now than I did months ago. I now wait a few days to respond and then I try to respond to all comments in one comment of my own. By doing it this way I am able to see the range of responses to my post and I hopefully will not be seen as padding my comment count. I also see, however, how this can stifle some of the give and take in a post.

I can imagine how people who post often and then get 20 or 30 comments on a post must feel.....overwhelmed. In the end I guess it makes me appreciative of my "quieter" status around blogland.

Finally, I like your ending thought...."it is about keeping comments genuinely meaningful and richly interactive." I see it as a goal that is worthwhile pursuing. Thank you for sharing your insights here.

On a side note....I believe nightstogether noted a while back that the comment system was being revised. In the future comments would only be totaled for the past month. If in fact this does happen it perhaps would change things a bit. Only time will tell.

redmustang91 57M  
8604 posts
8/1/2005 12:44 pm

The commenting interaction is one of the fun things about AdultFriendFinder. And for guys you often get more interaction in blogland than in actualizing those sex fantasies in the 3D world.

expatbrit49 62M

8/1/2005 12:47 pm

Some very good points there and I agree that the comments on other comments doesn’t seem to happen much anymore which is a shame some of those were great and would take things in a whole different direction. However, that practice came under fire a while back because people were not staying on subject (I don’t know who decides what the rules are lol).

There is also the debate on the answers, I normally answer key comments in groups, ie, 3 or 4 at a time but I don’t answer all comments anymore its just too time consuming.

Anyway good post

Thank You for Your Time and Attention

interested13563 53M
2557 posts
8/1/2005 1:30 pm

Very interesting thoughts, waggy. I think there is a real
possibility that the number of blogs will increase dramatically.
Perhaps, then some categorization will be imposed by AdultFriendFinder simply
to handle the volume. But the real issue is, of course, how
the interaction will continue. And, I might add, if it is only
the blogs that are most popular now that will keep attracting the
most attention. Keep wagging!!!!

rm_talldarkavg1 105M
10172 posts
8/1/2005 2:56 pm

Is the Most Popular list truly a popularity contest? I didn't think so. Since I hit the list, I have been blasted by many, because I respond to every comment. I do it as a thank you for someone taking time out of their day to respond to something I have written. No matter if I or anyone else determines that a particular post may not be worthy of a reply, I reply because a fellow human took the time to write it. To my upbringing, that's just courtesy. To someone else...a waste of time. Both are right to some, both incorrect to others. It all depends on what each blogger wants to do, and what their followers have come to enjoy, want, and perhaps expect.

I am the new kid on the block, I've been here less than 2 months. No doubt there are others who have been here longer and comment less that feel slighted. No matter what system is in place, often feelings get hurt.

I would just as soon all comments the originator makes are removed from all counts. If they were, I'm sure no such discussions as this would take place. The bottom line, we all read and comment where we want to read and comment. A monthly system without statistics might be a good idea. So might having the gold & silver members vote for who they read.

Maybe the best idea...have AdultFriendFinder use their tracking software to determine the total number of different viewers VS. the number of different comments left. There is the only real means of genuine popularity evaluation. Assuming we need to be judged.

Then we really need "popular"?

[blog talldarkavg1]

rm_unlistedone 65M
2718 posts
8/1/2005 7:20 pm

I was taught to reply when asked something. That makes the blogs a real part of me. I will try and reply. Sure I would like to see more people visit my blog. But I'm here also to make new friends. My commenting has a lot to do with that, I think.
Thank you, Polly, for all your work on these last couple of posts.

rm_major259 50M
101 posts
8/1/2005 9:31 pm

I agree with KnightoftheHeart on responses vs clarity of a blog.

I LIKE the way talldarkavg answers my comments and the comments of others. The correspondence feel of a blog makes it more than a newspaper article.

One of the best blog posts I have read recently was Keithcancook's topic of beauty. It was the conversation between the commenters that propelled that blog. I wish there were more like it.

I do think you will find larger subsets of popular bloggers as this site grows. Expat's blogger of the week posts are a great idea. Promoting exposure to newer bloggers will help.

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
8/2/2005 1:26 pm

Well done polly,i haven't been commenting on my own blog for a while now so not to upset folk,but sod it ,its mine,so i'm off to comment and write sill one word posts

I'm a

i'm here to stay

pussinboots4u 50M/47F

8/3/2005 8:51 am

I love this blog feature of AdultFriendFinder!! I only discovered it at the end of May, but it has been so much fun. I love the interaction of it, being able to read other people's experiences, gripes - just reading about what they did that day and then being able to say something to them. I don't have much time to blog, especially the last few weeks, but I try to read at least a couple a day and I know I am missing a lot of good stuff. I just peeked back at my own blog and realized that I haven't even added a post since 7/18 - mostly because I haven't finished a series and have promised myself that that will be the next post I post - which I need about an hour to myself with no kids around and the husband home early enough or late enough - otherwise, I'll just want to spend the little time we have together.

I guess the point is - I enjoy all the aspects of it, being able to write on my own blog whatever I feel like, enjoying the comments recieved and I just absolutely love reading other blogs and commenting to them.

I figured the day would come when AdultFriendFinder would find a way to not count responses that one makes to comments on his own blog and I am hoping it will bring about even more interaction. I have always tried to wait long enough for a few comments to respond to a few at the same time, now I won't have to wait, because it just won't matter.

And, btw, waggpolly - love your blog!! Just took a look at the last few posts and have to go back and read them too.

rockwriter58 56M
1389 posts
8/5/2005 8:14 am

polly... Great analysis of the current situation. I think you have drawn out folks nicely here and the discussion is first-rate. Indeed, the discussion here is richer than what you’ll find on this same subject at bloggers of this friendly site, and I’m not sure why except to say you have moderated it with a gentle coaxing hand.


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