Is Sex Dirty?  

waggypolly 72F
7449 posts
10/4/2005 7:17 pm

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Is Sex Dirty?

A friend of mine says he knows sex is meant to be about appreciating someone else’s body, but he can only experience it as dirty. Luckily he enjoys getting mucky, but I think he feels a little bit guilty.

In my family sex was a dirty word; in fact a dirty deed to be avoided. It was performed for sure twice (I had a stillborn sister), but not more than that I would think. I certainly wasn’t allowed to know anything about it: Your husband will teach you everything you need to know dear.

It took me a long time to work out what I think sex is, in all its complexities. What is it to you? Is it dirty, clean ….. ?

This is Polly, still Wagging
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ProtonicMan 47M

10/4/2005 8:48 pm

Sex is NOT dirty, unless you want it to be that way, like in the photo you posted. It is a natural exploration of our bodies, our emotions, our humanity, and our souls.

Having said that, sex is a very powerful thing, and should not be taken lightly. "With great power comes great responsibility."

Like you, Polly, I struggled with it early on. I think I'm starting to get a handle on it. It helps a lot to dump all the garbage that family and organized religion push on you early on. Regarding sex, like anything else important in life, you are best served by your OWN feelings.

My $0.02.


jim5131 55M
1296 posts
10/4/2005 10:22 pm

I was raised Roman Catholic....need I say more?

I was convinced that my kids weren't going to go thru what I went thru...they needed to understand that sex was not something taken lightly, it wasn't dirty, it was an act of love (or something very close to it) between two people. Thinking about sex was not a sin. Masturbating was not a sin. Blogging at an adult website was not a sin ( I had to throw that in... ).

I made sure that they understood their bodies and women's bodies well in advance of what they were going to learn from the guys on the corner... They understood sexuality and sensuality were two different things and the responsibility that followed it.

__Huntress__ 55M/57F

10/5/2005 4:25 am

I was raised Catholic as well ... though I'm sure the church would be quite upset with me in saying that to me ... at its best, sex is a communion of souls ... and I have to say that I adore the way that Jim has expressed what he's learned here ... it's important for us to teach our children to view sex in healthy terms ... too many of us have grown up with believing it was an unclean act ... bravo to you for posting this ... {=} !

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
10/5/2005 12:49 pm

what is sex?? sctratching ones head in total confusion

I'm a

i'm here to stay

MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
10/5/2005 12:50 pm

im not sure...if saying it was as bad or worse than saying nothing at all....i was curious....i wanted to know...all i got was that you are too young...when you are 21 you will know...

because you will be grown....sooooo wrong...i had to do research...i had to ask someone else...i had to do the exploration...all by myself....

do i regret...nope...each learning experience was something different...was i warped...certainly!!!

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rm_Boldboy6988 54M

10/5/2005 2:19 pm

Sex is just one of the juciest things in Life -

AlbertPrince 57M

10/6/2005 12:20 am

Sex is what you make it - as long as it's fun, who cares?

Romancer67 49M

10/6/2005 2:45 pm


mangomamiCT 42F

10/6/2005 9:00 pm

Sex can be bad , good , dirty , fun , meaningful , life affirming , soul stealing , powerful , weakening , a hobby , a job , an addiction , expression , repression . You can experience all or some of these . With a lot of people or just one . Sex an enigma.

Couple_N_Destin 36M/33F
15 posts
10/7/2005 9:15 am

Sex is what you make of it. We find it as LoVe making and at times it is good to get a little creative. Above ALL, we make sure the other is completely alright with whatever the decision is. After all, sex is with two people, if both people are not enjoying it, its just masterbation with a partner. My opinion? Sex should ALWAYS be emotional. It should be about pleasing your partner, not yourself. When your partner is pleasured, you will get yours, I promise

interested13563 53M
2557 posts
10/7/2005 4:37 pm

Sex is "dirty" only when it is done right!!!
I mean that there nothing really dirty about it.
It is a normal physiological function like
drinking, eating or heart beating. But it
has a great potential of expression, communication,
and knowledge. So even though it starts as
a necessity it can become a real exploration
an extension of what our basic functions
allow us to do. All the statements about
it being "dirty" are typically religious
efforts at controlling people, mostly women,
by means of sexual repression and deprivation.
Sex is a basic need, therefore a basic human right.
It should be included as such in the human rights
chart of the UN (assuming the latter survives)
or a hopefully better and more democratic
organization that may emerge in the future.

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
10/7/2005 11:26 pm

Sex is .... natural.

[size1]Another Catholic checking in...

kida1234 36M
3 posts
10/21/2005 1:29 pm

[who wants to fuck mr?AdultFriendFinder, so we can chat su dirty sex

SweetestBeast00 34M
14 posts
10/23/2005 5:10 pm

sex is dirty when u wanna it dirty but really it's pretty

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