Being slippery  

waggypolly 71F
7449 posts
1/14/2006 4:18 pm

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Being slippery

Do you dump or do the dumping? I used to dump. That way I got to protect myself from being hurt. It hurts less to do the hurting to someone else: Not nice. It was really a way of protecting myself from learning the complexities of winding down, wrapping up and saying goodbye gracefully. That is a real art.

Are you slippery, or do you know how to end an affair with elegance?

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interested13563 53M
2557 posts
1/14/2006 5:24 pm

Have never ended an affair, never dumped anybody - so far.
It seems that in life one often adds on rather than move away.
It has been written that in personal relations there are
only two problems: the first is how to hold on to somebody
who wants to leave and the second is how to get rid of
somebody who wants to stay. Certainly I have never had to
solve the second problem.


angelofmercy5 58F
17881 posts
1/14/2006 5:46 pm

I have never had an affair, so my only experience is from dating when I was younger. I was usually the one who did the dumping. But I never wanted to hurt anyone, so I always tried hard to make them think it was my fault, not theirs. Once, I even had a girlfriend who had a crush on the guy in the wings waiting....that was the easiest breakup ever.....almost made me wish I hadn't broken up with him because he treated my girlfriend like a queen. Oh well, live and learn!


WellhungTrigger 42M
282 posts
1/14/2006 11:34 pm

I've been both. but it seems that in my "adult years" (whatever the hell that means) It's always a mutual thing...
For one reason or another we just agree to disagree...
And another thing, all my ex-girlfriends love me to death!!
Seems kind of weird, but few of my exes hate me.
I don't know, I like it!


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
1/15/2006 11:12 am

hmph! i don't generally do the dumping; i am never that decisive. but, ... things are looking messy around here....



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LadySunrise 33F  
2432 posts
1/15/2006 7:54 pm

i have done my fair share of walking away, but as far as being dumped....finding out some very vital information...well it was DUMPED on me so i guess i have been that too!!!

now i have always been one to know when i had a good thing...or when a good thing was over...I HAVE NEVER been the bitter, cold, heartless kind that just ended on bad terms...thats never a good sticky or slippery situation!!!

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redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
1/16/2006 9:44 am

Hmmmmm.....since I have never had an affair I can't speak to experience there. I would have to go back to my youth for dating experiences. But, alas, even that is too long ago to remember.
Am I being slippery or what....?


arabicboy1973 43M
2 posts
1/16/2006 10:14 am

    Quoting waggypolly:
    Wellhung and Sexy: You are both well-rounded people!

    FreeLove: I was wondering if something is up.
salut cava tu est sexi


VATraveler1948 68M

1/16/2006 10:59 am

Like I said in the comment on the blog entry you made tomorrow <grin, I'm reading backwards>. I have almost always been the one who was dumped, never (with maybe one exception) the dumper. My experiences with (and memories of) getting out of relationships are quite distant and somewhat dim. I suppose that I moped around for quite a while every time I got dismissed. Like several who have posted here, I have only really had one serious relationship and it has lasted a long time. I can't imagine ever letting go of my true love.


horny4770 60M
8158 posts
1/17/2006 5:08 am

I've had a couple of short term 'flings' that just sort of died for lack of enthusiasm and then I was dumped once; hurt like hell and it's not something I would do to anyone else. I just recently, for lack of better words, terminated the sexual aspect of a companionship but as friends we will remain I hope forever. As with Wellhung, most of woman I've been with still like me and would be willing to be with me again. I guess I don't burn many bridges.


interested13563 53M
2557 posts
1/17/2006 4:13 pm

Waggy: I am not a collector at all!!!!!
I just have been left by others a
lot but they are always part of me!
(I am still kind of nice)


digallwomen 52M
21 posts
1/21/2006 6:24 pm

Been on both ends of that spectrum. Getting dumped REALLY sucks.
On the other hand dumping someone ,though less sucky and ultimately
relieving, is not a pleasant thing to do(I ended 2 relationships/flings this year-I dreaded THE TALK).


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