Kinda Weird  

vrec_dawn 39M
854 posts
2/19/2006 6:03 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Kinda Weird

Okay, so the wife wants a divorce because she's met another guy and this has made her realize how unhappy she is being married to me. One could even look at it as if she were leaving me for this other guy. And she knew she was going to leave me for weeks, but decided to ruin my birthday by not telling me and then acting all weird until I blew up at her, because "she didn't want to hurt me".

(As a side note, at first I was broken up about it. But I've realized it's the best thing for both of us. So I'm okay with it because I want it for me too.)

Now though the jerk she loved instead of me broke up with her. He's actually known for weeks because he met someone else. He only just told her though because "he didn't want to hurt her".

I mean it's totally a karmic reversal.

So I should be cheering from the rooftops, right?

But actually, I feel bad for her. I mean I know pretty first-hand how much it hurts.

So it's kind of weird. Shouldn't I be happy that she got what she deserved? Or is it normal to empathize?

blueeyedboy1964 52M

2/19/2006 7:56 pm

It's called being a decent guy. Congratulations, this is all you're going to get for it, aside from that warm "I'm a sap" feeling. If you really care about someone, even if she fucked you over, you still don't kick 'er when she's down. Nice guys do finish last, but most of the time that's a plus. Hang in there pal.

gussax 51M

2/19/2006 8:22 pm

It's normal to empathize. She didn't break up with you because she wanted to hurt you. So why should you want her to me.

Submsvmisskitty 47F
14 posts
2/19/2006 9:14 pm

I guess you could say I was in her shoes when I broke up with my boys' dad BUT it all worked out that Im happier now took another guy to give me attention that I wanted to open my eyes that I wasnt happy. I would like to go back and change a few things but ....I still wouldnt be with my ex today.........Kitty

singleagain53578 46F

2/22/2006 6:56 am

How ironic is that? I was going to say at first-good she deserved it. But as I have gotten to know you- I realise that she had really done you a favor. You did not need her in your life and possibly she will learn from her mistakes and can be happy for herself as I am sure you will too.

Pffft How was that for bull??? We can have a drink on that one in a couple of weeks. Of course- you get to buy!!! Lap Dance?

Ok now seriously- this is the same thing that happened to me. I would have done the Snoopy Happy Dance if my ex husbands little girly friend would have dumped him as well but she didn't and I actually really like her. I have really grown up the last few years and realise that people just can not help who they fall in love with.

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