Three Date Minimum With Me  

volcanoinu23 52M
272 posts
5/5/2006 3:35 am

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5/7/2006 8:03 am

Three Date Minimum With Me

Let me make this clear! I would like sex on the first date. If it doesn't happen, it is not a deal breaker.

Having said that, I am an advocate of a three date minimum! Before I go on to the specific benefits therein, let me talk briefly about “The One Night Stand”. The single night affair certainly has its attraction; Imagine, a near stranger, hot sex, and mental pictures of two bodies coming together for the first time. I still revel in sex with a new person, but that is a whole other blog post. Whew, take a breath dude.

Personally, I have never intended to have a one night stand. It has certainly worked out that way on an occasion or five. In fact, I am currently pissed at a woman who used me as a "one night stand". Everything was great. She certainly left me with the idea of a second date, but has yet to get back to me! (It has been two months…that writing has been WASHED OFF the wall.) I don’t chase. I have several relationships; you might want to call them that, waiting for a second date. If it ever happens, that is open to question, but there was never any intention on my part to obtain sexual ecstasy and never see the woman again!

Pulling off a one night stand takes talent and the balls the size Michael Jordan played with on the hardwood. If a man is that good and he can satisfy a woman in true unselfish form, gods bless him! He should consider it a profession. (Maybe that is why the aforementioned woman has not called me again…ya, we’ll go with that!) The most common word that you hear in association with one-night stands is “emptiness”; empty on sexual gratification, respect and affection!

On with my campaign promise! The three date minimum. The first date is for play. Personally, I want to be assured that if everything goes well, like they usually do in my case, I want to have at least three dates. The second date is used to solve all of the problems that arose during the first date; a missed signal, an angle that wasn’t just right or a piece of lingerie that was kept in the closet. The third date is the “rubber” match. It is a grand attempt to bring all the lessons learned in dates one and two to the “big show”, the culmination.

On the less sexual side of this equation, the first three dates are the testing ground for a potential longer relationship. Who is to say that any sexual relationship can’t last longer than three dates? I know a number of people that have had sexual partners for years, yet they don’t act like a couple. I have also read where AdultFriendFinder relationships have turned into long-term relationships that actually led to a happy marriage. Why would anyone hide their head in a pillow only to find out the person right in front of them is more than just a sexual toy? Nothing Ventured, nothing gained. How can you call one date, anything ventured when only a few of your senses have the time to get involved? Let your mind catch up to your body (ok, your sexual organs) and help you make the important choices that should never be taken lightly. Being an adult has its advantages, one night stands are an option, but I still am a supporter “the three date minimum”.



free2chose2 66F

5/5/2006 5:07 am

I agree, hands up lol

Don't worry, be Happy


volcanoinu23 replies on 5/7/2006 8:05 am:
Thanks for dropping by stranger. I appreciate the visit and company!

niceguy0865 66M

5/5/2006 6:38 am

volcano: You've described the "Four-date" rule.... which has never failed, for most men.....


volcanoinu23 replies on 5/7/2006 7:57 am:
Thanks and I would agree. Always keep an open mind and communicate with your partner. It fyou are mentally in tune with them, creativity will flurish!

Thanks for visiting.

themisskrissy 56F
2302 posts
5/5/2006 2:42 pm

"why don't we just skip the formalities and get down to what we're here for.." the refreshments

i said that to a man once.. we had the "initial" meet and later tha evening we did just that.. i would give him a 4-4.5 out of 10 (just fot the eye candy)..
i really just wanted to see him naked..6'6, 54" chest and 34" waist and very handsome face.. i would have liked to have kept a replica of him on the shelf.. he really was a rare specimen..
they typical "hot" guy that (thinks he) doesn't have to try tho..

he was allergic to my cats.. a perfect no hard feelings departure..

give me an average joe with a passion for passion...

i don't know if i would let you get thru your first coffee Lavaman...
meow purr purr


Virtue Alone Ennobles


volcanoinu23 replies on 5/7/2006 7:59 am:
Man Krissy, I am not sure where to go here. Complicated men can be so much fun if they don't make things too complicated!

themisskrissy 56F
2302 posts
5/5/2006 2:45 pm

toss in that (true) niceguy and i would be on a whole new orgasmic plane...
niceguy0865, i hardly ever get to flirt with you these days!!


Virtue Alone Ennobles


themisskrissy 56F
2302 posts
5/5/2006 6:50 pm

hmm. i think that a one night stand (better yet, long weekend)could never be atypical with some of sweeties i interact with here.. while it might well be a one time meeting, i would see it as an adventure with a friend.. (like with you)
LTR is not an option unless you want to pledge your allegiance to the maple leaf.. and live on a island.. and chain yourself to a bitch..lol

the usual don't know someone at all really, quick bang and bye bye.. it is empty for sure.. i have given them up.. no thanks...

my new motto is: i like substance with my sex!


Virtue Alone Ennobles


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