Disrespect & Tolerance  

volcanoinu23 52M
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5/19/2006 5:27 am

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5/19/2006 4:02 pm

Disrespect & Tolerance

The last 24 hours were a very disheartening period for me in my job; Quite possibly the worst day of this magnificent job (clearly even a bad day in my job is a pretty good day for most people, I certainly acknowledge that). I am not going to go into a lot of detail regarding the worst of it, rather than just say, I made some simple mistakes and the “type A” personalities of this world can’t seem to let them go. Nuff said.

Of the three major catastrophes that occurred yesterday, I was most in my own environment and alive with a public safety situation. Unfortunately, it took the management of an incident where one of my female employees was sexually intimidated by five male “biker dudes” and then having them stopped to pursue a criminal investigation. As I listened to the radio traffic from my office nine miles away, it was clear as to the type of personalities we were dealing with; “Do not attempt to contact these guys”, crackled very astute radio chatter by one of my other female rangers involved in the incident.

Ultimately, armed law enforcement stopped these men and shook them down for all possible information. Under the laws of the land, nobody was arrested, but a case will be built and charges will be pursued.

I am torn by the rush of excitement when I react in the interest of public safety and how truly alive I am during an incident like this, yet I almost feel guilty, because the life of one my young employees may have been significantly changed in both thought and mind.

What bothers me even more is the arrogance and disrespect shown by these men towards females in general, and most likely, one that is in uniform in a position of authority. While these men were in their 40s and 50s, I would place odds that their attitudes go back a long time. Really, it is a sad comment on male parenting in this country; in most countries I suspect. When I was teaching, I remember listening, watching the behavior of the boys and thought about the messages, both direct and indirect, they were receiving from their fathers. As hard as single mothers work, and are often forced to live in poverty, there were a lot of boys around in that little town that would have been far better off without a father around. I also suspect that these five guys inherited their disrespect for women at an early age and now carry it as a part of their lifestyle.

My vanilla life has taught me to respect people of all kinds. I have my axes to grind, but I do it with hesitation and careful contemplation; never jumping to a rapid conclusion. In a law enforcement view of safety, we are not to judge the intentions of any one individual but the actions themselves and react quickly, decisively and accordingly. This works against my own personal philosophy about people in general. They are good until they have proven themselves to be otherwise. This includes women, men, people of various skin colors and religious affiliation throughout the world. Anything less than an educated respect of fellow humanity can not be tolerated!

bluegirl39 49F

5/19/2006 6:09 am

It's so sad people feel the need to harass another human but it happens all the time. The best we can do is not to be active in this lifestyle of harassment of anyone. I hope this young girl will be fine after some time. I'm sure now she will be a little afraid of men on bikes, so sad that her view may be jaded now. Best of luck

volcanoinu23 replies on 5/19/2006 4:05 pm:
I thought that was what high school was all about. A chance to get this behavior out of their system

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MysteryDreamer 57F

5/19/2006 6:25 am

No matter how hard women work, try to raise their family, and juggle everything else, I feel women do not get much respect. Some men "expect", not "respect".
Its hard for the older ones to change themselves, they grew up like that and continue down the same path they were raised.
I know, I live it everyday and I have to put my foot down everyday. Long story, but I agree with what you have written.
Good post.


volcanoinu23 replies on 5/19/2006 4:07 pm:
I may be the ertenal optimist, but then again, there are generations of uneducated, poorly socialized men raised in the country. You need only look in your AdultFriendFinder mailbox to observe prime examples!

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rm_1SweetBitch 55F
8575 posts
5/19/2006 7:17 am

I am a "female biker" here and I think anyone that is harassing another should be dealt with but...when reading this I as a biker take offense to the way you are trying to portray bikers. Then you say "My vanilla life has taught me to respect people of all kinds." any biker, male or felmale reading this I feel is being disrespected.

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volcanoinu23 replies on 5/19/2006 1:37 pm:
You are correct...while I am working, I am jaded and have an additional level of concern with regard to bikers. This is not the first "biker" incident I have worked with in recent weeks. In fact the last three major medical incidents were bikers. The behavior of less than 10% of the biking community is a major source of concern to myself and my staff on any sunny day.

I know the stats. Most of these folks are my age and older. Fine, respectful, well behaved people. In my job, I don't see the best. Walk a sunny holiday weekend in my shoes and you see the worst, not the best. Believe me, it is enough to jade you like a quickly cooled piece of silica.

Away from work, it doesn't matter.

volcanoinu23 replies on 5/19/2006 4:03 pm:
You may may not have made the connection. Yes...they were bikers. Four black Harlys and one blue one.

saddletrampsk 54F

5/19/2006 7:17 am

How terrifiying for the female employee involved..glad those assholes were brought to justice

volcanoinu23 replies on 5/19/2006 4:09 pm:
That is my main concern here. In the short term, how will she contact members of the public in an isolated situation. It is something her job requires her to do on a routine basis.

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