Monogamy OR Playing the Field?  

virtualgirl81008 46F
228 posts
4/13/2006 7:13 pm

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4/23/2006 12:58 pm

Monogamy OR Playing the Field?

At this point of my life, I choose not to participate in monogamous relationships, but I was curious what others in Blogville look for to meet the needs of their single lives.

For the purposes of this poll, let's consider dating as face-to-face interaction that involves more 1 on 1 activity than sex.

Thanks for stopping by, I can't wait to hear your thoughts!
I prefer monogamous dating relationships.
I don't care if my partner dates more, but I date one at a time.
What my partner does not know won't hurt them.
I openly date 2-3 people at one time.
I openly date 4+ people at at time.
I am just out for sex so I don't date.
I can't get a date.

concreteguy73 43M
17 posts
4/14/2006 10:36 pm

I get like that at wal-mart too

rm_7196266 50M
5 posts
4/15/2006 10:21 pm

Is there perhaps a category missing? I'd say I fall between "open dating" and "What my partner does not know...". I don't believe in hiding a relationship, but I don't think it is right to talk about other relationships - basically, don't ask, don't tell.

I've dated two ladies lately - one who was pretty clear about not wanting to see others and if I felt she was not the one, then she wanted to know (she was the first one following my divorce). Once I knew I was not interested in dating only her and I wanted to enjoy more single life before getting into another relationship, I told her and broke it off. I loved being with her and did not want it to end, but felt it was not right to mislead her either.

The other one has been more understanding. We are both free to date others - practice safe sex if we are going to do that; however, we also do not ask about it. We just enjoy each other when we are together.

It may sound cold, but how do you know the one you are with is the best you can have unless you see others? In theory, if you are only dating 1 person, are you dating that person until someone better comes along?

Finally, with my children with me 50% of the time, work, and trying to date anyone, it is quite difficult to date more than 1 at at time even if it is not the intent. I also do not want to parade women through their lives - it's going to be confusing enough with the divorce to introduce new people they like and then loose when it does not work out.

SirluvsStorms 46M
684 posts
4/23/2006 12:19 pm

I like people.. dating I dont like.. so going out and spending time with friends that I do like. but then again going out with friends could be considered dating.. so ummmm i think that I like going out with friends and non friends cuz I like people.

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