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What Kind of Lover are You?
What Kind of Lover are You?
“What makes a good lover?” I have asked this question to nearly every potential lover over the past several years. Just for fun, I have thrown this question at a few friends as well. A majority of the answers people gave me were specific to an event, mood, and/or time, but rarely answered the question. Over time, I began to realize that how a person answered this question became a lot more important than the answer he or she provided. From this, I figured out that I could tell what kind of lover a person will be not by what the person answered, but from what perspective he or she answered the question. This lead me to categorize a person into one of four types of lovers: (1) The Selfish Lover, (2) The Co-Dependant Lover, (3) The Clueless Lover, and (4) The Universal Lover.
1) The Selfish Lover (o
The Selfish Lover, when asked, “What makes a good lover?” will describe what someone else can do for him or her without regard to the other person. For example, a man may reply, “Someone that gives good head”, or a woman may reply, “Someone that can last all night”. In other words, the Selfish Lover will almost exclusively answer the question in regards to what will the other person do for me. The Selfish Lover will generally pair well with the Universal Lover, the Co-Dependant Lover (although not long term), and the Selfish Lover (depending on personality). The Clueless Lover and the Selfish Lover do not go well together at all.
2) The Co-Dependant Lover (o)
The Co-Dependant Lover, when asked, “What makes a good lover?” will describe what he or she can do for someone else without regard for him or herself. For example, a man may reply, “Making her scream all night”, or a woman may reply, “Knowing what he wants”. In other words, the Co-Dependant Lover will almost exclusively answer the question in regards to what he/she can do for the other person. The Co-Dependant Lover, no matter which lover he or she is paired with, may grow resentful of the other person after awhile (ever heard the line, “All I do is give, give, give and get nothing in return!”. The Co-Dependant Lover pairs well with the Universal Lover, the Co-Dependant Lover, the Selfish Lover (although not long term), and sometimes (maybe, possibly) the Clueless Lover.
3) The Clueless Lover (o)
The Clueless Lover, when asked, “What makes a good lover?” will not be able to give an answer one way or the other. We’ve all met at least one potential lover like this. Generally, the Clueless Lover has little or no imagination and very little sex drive. The Clueless Lover needs a guide, like the Universal Lover. In time, with a bit of luck, the Clueless Lover may become not so clueless anymore.
4) The Universal Lover (o
The Universal Lover, when asked, “What makes a good lover?” will describe things that work for both people and will understand the need of giving as well as receiving. The Universal Lover is the ideal lover because he or she will pair with just about anyone and make it good.
This is a fun test to see what kind of lover you or your partner may be. Who knows, it may help you find someone you may be compatible with.
What do I think makes a good lover?
Endurance: It’s gotta last. Soccer players, runners, and swimmers have great endurance.
Empathy: It helps to know what the other person needs or is feeling without uttering a single word.
Lack of Inhibition: Must have no fear.
Extensive Knowledge of Anatomy: Self-explanatory.