The Swinger Lifestyle Explained, Somewhat at Least  

vengeur 41M
565 posts
9/12/2005 10:10 am

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The Swinger Lifestyle Explained, Somewhat at Least

This site is supposed to be for people in the swinger lifestyle, (Read the tagline banner.) but I will concede that many people on this site would beg to differ with this notion nowadays, and will have their own ideas on this. I will have to insist that this site at least started as one for those in this swinger lifestyle, however, because I can still recall how it was back in its infancy of the late 1990's.

So what is the swinger lifestyle, anyway? I won't go completely into all of its philosophy, but I would like to mention that I was told by every swinger lifestyle person that I ever spoke with, back in the days before this site even existed, that single males cannot expect to have much luck within the swinger lifestyle unless they are well hung and are willing to prove it with pics. This is due to the swinger lifestyle being predominantly couples-oriented, and swinger couples who sought an extra man or men would usually want men who are well hung. Furthermore, the swinger lifestyle is one that is closely meshed with the naturist/nudist lifestyle, in which nobody casts disdain upon any part of the naked body, regardless of gender.

Before this site existed, lifestyle swingers commonly used personal contact ad magazines to find one another. If you were to go out and purchase such a magazine, which were sold usually at adult bookstores back in the day as well as now, you will see plenty of dick pics and male nudes in the personal contact ads for almost all of the single men, and even in some of the ones for the couples, too. This was all for the purpose of showing what you had to offer, much like the way that many people on this site do today. You will also very likely notice that nobody ever complains in their ad about seeing or receiving dick pics or male nudes in these swinger lifestyle contact ad magazines. In fact, most ads seeking men request dick pics or full frontal nudes, in addition to other types of pics perhaps, prior to meeting, for proof of the male endowment's dimensions.

My profile has three face pics and two cock pics. For discretionary reasons, I prefer to not have my face pic as my main profile pic. My face pics can be viewed by those whom are paid members on this site. I also always send a face pic when I contact anybody initially.

This site is overtly and graphically sexual. Just look at a few dozen various profiles if you do not agree with me. Thusly, you will see cock pics, since cocks are sexual; at least they were the last time that I checked.

My cock is something that many women and couples take interest in apparently, because I get multiple profile views every single day from site members all over this country and even the world. I would say that is a great thing.

While I sometimes get unwanted messages, from men who don't read what my profile says apparently, I get plenty of messages from women and couples seeking men, which is exactly what I state that I am seeking on my profile. I guess this is why you will never see me writing about how much this site "sucks", like I have seen some other bitter men doing in the recent past.


MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
9/18/2005 7:23 pm

Vengeur, when I joined the site in the late 90s, sex and swinging were listed as just two options. It also listed dating, romance, all of that stuff. It was listed as the over 21 sister site of Friend Finder.

Now, you know there have always been people looking for a wide variety of things on here, from one nighters to marriage. I'm sure you remember the war zone of the old East Coast chat room, where if anyone hit on most of those women, they all went ballistic and any woman who spoke to a guy who hit on her was branded slut. There was a reason other than the room was getting too big that the site broke it up. The regional rooms were added in 2000, IIRC.

Now, my objection to dick pics is, I want to see a person's face, especially their eyes. Granted, a person can have a great face and a dick so ugly that seeing a pic of it ruins any chance they have with you. I have seen some that are scary looking around here. On the other hand, there are people with great bodies and dicks, but when you see their face, you realize that the only way you'd do them is with a bag over their heads.

Yeah, in swingers magazines, dick pics are an asset. On a site like this, where you have so many people looking for a variety of things, it can be a double edged sword. Some women like them, some hate them, some are indifferent. I view them as an early warning system at this point.

Now, that said, you're missing the main point you're not going to be found sitting around talking about how much this site sucks. You understand the difference between being sexually liberated and acting like a horny 6th grader. That latter category seems to be joining the site in droves, has no respect for limits, thinks if you're on a site like this, you should be willing to be a personal fuck doll who will do anything they saw in a porn video and all the women should look like porn stars. They're trying to find the perfect porn fantasy and not the reality. Not to mention the married men who don't know the difference between swinging and cheating. They tend to scream the loudest.


vengeur 41M
836 posts
9/19/2005 3:29 am

MissAnnThrope,

Another good example of the proverbial "double edged sword" would be the swinger's personal contact ad magazines themselves. They had plenty of bona fide "lifestyle" people using them, but at the same time, they never offered the convenience in making contact with other interested and like-minded people that this site does. Of course, the greater convenience of this site has its drawbacks too, namely, that category of people whom you described, ones who seem "to be joining the site in droves".

When it comes to women complaining about dick pics, the women I don't get the most are the ones who themselves post pics of their own genitalia on their profiles, yet no face.


CantonOhCouple 60M/60F
553 posts
9/24/2005 7:03 pm

Vengeur,

We'd have to say that we're perfectly happy with the site, dick pics and all. Actually, we've enjoyed all the cock shots. Although the variety was quite the eye opener. And the topic of another blog some day.


vengeur 41M
836 posts
9/25/2005 7:44 am

CantonOhCouple,

Thanks you so much for your comment. To me, you seem to be one of the couples on this site who grasp the overall concept of the lifestyle, as well as being on this site for what I think are the right reasons, too.


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