Single parents on this site and their kids  

vengeur 41M
565 posts
7/18/2005 10:05 pm

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Single parents on this site and their kids


I do not have any children myself. On this site, it seems to me to be quite common to find myself chatting to women with at least one child from a past marriage, boyfriend, or whatever.

While I do not have any problem with that, I still do not feel all that comfortable with going to a single mother's house for play purposes while she has her adolescent children at home. I would hate to think that later on, after I leave, some kid is going to say, "Mom, who was that guy leaving the house this morning?"

I did not have to grow up with divorced parents or a single mother, but I know that is the reality for many other children these days. I will also concede to the notion that single parents also like to date, and that they have their "needs" too.

So, all of you single mothers out there - is it too much to ask that you send your kids to stay with somebody else if you expect to invite a guy like me over to your house?

i6u9we69allnight 39F

7/19/2005 5:30 pm

and good parent would send their kids to a sitters or grandma's if they are going to have a guy over. I guess I just dont think your kids should meet every Tom Dick or Harry out there, its not good for them. I think single parents should wait till they find Mr or Mrs right before they introduce them to the kids.

Plus do you really want your kids growing up knowing how many guys/girls you have fucked around with ( thats not setting a very good example )


wenchatheart 40F
644 posts
7/20/2005 5:32 am

well - at least that's one thing I don't have to worry about. I don't have any kids. However, on more than one occassion I've had to lock up my cat due to my "friends" being allergic ....


TB49er 40F

7/29/2005 12:12 am

Not many men would feel this way. It's nice to see that some REAL men still exist. My husband and I always send our kids to grandma's when we invite others over. Kids don't need to learn about this lifestyle yet.


vengeur 41M
836 posts
7/29/2005 11:26 am

TB49er,

I'm glad that you appreciate how I feel, but what sucks for me is that a single mother from this site, local to me here in NJ, called me "paranoid" for my stance on this issue. The bitch also rudely hung up the phone on me during our one and only phone conversation, too.


rm_autumngirl61 55F
741 posts
8/4/2005 1:33 pm

vengeur,

I'm a single mom of a teenage son. I never let him to know what I have already involved. I'm always precautious, so I don't let any guy to sleep over my place w/ him being around. It's best to have fun w/ a guy at my home only when my son is out for the night or 2 nights. I don't want him to learn like that too early. I have to set a good parent example to him.

I also hope that most of other single parents would be like that, too.


vengeur 41M
836 posts
8/4/2005 7:05 pm

autumngirl61,

I totally agree with your approach to parenting in this regard.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
9/11/2005 2:30 pm

First of all, I have lived in my house for nearly six years and have never ever had sex in it because I have children here. When I meet up with a man, if he has children at home too, we get a hotel room. Else, I'll go to his house, if he has not children at home.

I heard my mother fucking her boyfriends when I was growing up, I'll be damned if I do that to my children.

It's good to see that there are men concerned with the children being in the house issue. In the 18 years I have been a mother, I have had sex in my house in Ohio with two different guys. One, I married, and the other I was engaged to. Never here in Arizona have I had sex in my house. My son has!

DustStormDiva


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