mysteries of the meeting  

vegashotleggs 41M/40F
18 posts
2/19/2006 12:04 am

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mysteries of the meeting

In the one year that we have been on AdultFriendFinder, we have chatted with allot of people, couples and singles. In that time, we have met a total of one, yes one member from this site, and it was a single male. Every time, its the same old routine, they message us showing interest, or we message them. We exchange some messages, then when we decide that meeting one another would be good, nothing happens, all the messages stop. Even when we send another message, we usually don't get a reply. Is it us? are we not attractive enough? Or are allot of the people on here scared to meet others from a swinger site. Hell, we have even been stood up by single guys, waiting at a bar, or a coffee place for an hour, with no explanation why they didn't show. Now don't get us wrong, we are not the type of couple to complain about much, but it is getting frustrating.

rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
2/19/2006 6:13 am

I keep hearing this and wonder why!!!!

Welcome to the blogs

Purry {=}


rm_PACPL4FUN416 47M/43F

2/19/2006 7:20 am

It is the same up here in the north east as well. I think it is all over the place. We have been on AdultFriendFinder off and on for a few years now. Same scene, a lot of talk and emails but no meetings. We are still zero for whatever the count is now. Who knows why we keep spending money with never meeting anyone. Maybe just that newer people are on here and something may develop.

rm_SprkyCplLv69 57M/50F
32 posts
2/19/2006 8:28 am

well its the same everywhere lots of talk . As to are you unattractive hell no M you are a very pretty lady . I personally think we are all just glutton,s for punishment .lol the M&G,s do seem to help but gettin one scheduled at a place and time acceptable to all is a chore . again back to the looks part i think most are looking with unrealistic expectations or saying if i cant do a supermodel i aint intrested lol .

rm_SprkyCplLv69 57M/50F
32 posts
2/19/2006 8:57 am

ok im back to ammend the last post i made .My wife called bullshit on me so here,s my revised thought i dont see myself as a sercher of super models but i know what in a woman does attract me , am i shallow ,could be but i think no . i have my tastes and i stand by them i apoligize to no 1 for them they are mine take it or leave it ..i enjoy all women ,short,tal,small and or large , but as far as a excuse the terminoligy a fuck buddy i know what i want and generally wont change my mind if thats shallow ok im guilty as charged . i use you Melissa as a prime example i think your beautiful and would crawl in bed in a moments notice ty. but i dont see most Large ladies in the same light ,Again thats my personal taste sorry if i offend anbyone . as to others i cant say all i can do is state a opinion and hope all accept it as such .Thank you for this place to state my opinion. Sprky

4 posts
2/24/2006 7:19 am

Hey Paul and Melissa,
You are completely correct on the flake factor on this site. I know as a single guy I'm the bottom of the barrel as far as credibility on the site, but I find it very suspicious that when my membership starts to run out I get lots of mail from couples who are going to be in town the week after my membership expires. I ask them to write me at Yahoo or hotmail to no avail. I re up my membership to stay in contact and the all seem to dissapere the second my credit card goes through. I think the genuine people on the site are really searching for fun and keep getting sucked in by a site that is less than credible...just a thought

rm_ladeux3 45M/44F
16 posts
2/25/2006 3:37 pm

don't take it personally. the site just caters more to voyeurs than exhibitionists. we have had better success meeting other couples at local clubs (live music, not necessarily dance clubs). it is harder to hide behind a computer screen or an alias when you are actually interacting with people. we have met two female bloggers from scottsdale and atlanta (no couples, yet) through the site. they seem to be more "real". maybe we can get to vegas in the next few months and find a locals hangout (any recommendations welcome) to restore your self-confidence

want2playlots 61M
3 posts
2/27/2006 9:34 pm


I could never understand why people have to play such games. Life is too short for that. Life should be fun and full of adventure...

lilleft2desire 48M/36F

6/26/2006 2:40 am

txs 4 joining in. i will show up when we sut up a daTE. u have my word. wanna spend some great time w/ u. love ur albums. I,m long lasting, eager to please, like DP also.)
email, when u get a chance.

69todaytonight 48M

7/22/2006 4:10 pm

Hi paul and melissa I have been having the same experience i guess we have to keep our hopes up and things will happen.

BeetsAdmitGents 45M
2 posts
8/5/2006 6:12 pm

Well folks I just have to say that I to have been on AdultFriendFinder of & on for about 1 1/2 years and I'm 2 for 2 on the meetings. I e-mailed 2 wonderful ladies and we met and had a great time on both encounters. I'm a single 35yr male with a little extra in the middle, I have to say I'm no spring chicken, but the 2X I have interacted with others from the site have been great. Happy hunting & keep trying there are real people out there & they are fun.

rm_vegasclp4fun 43M/41F

8/7/2006 6:42 pm

we understand so much what you mean


8/8/2006 7:49 am

I understand your frustration. It's the same everywhere. I have been on this site for many years and I have met five credible people. Too many people with too much time on their hands playing games. Get a life! What I hate is the ladies who get your attention, then want you to subscribe to an adult verification web site to contact them. They say it's free but it's not. YOU CAN'T FOOL ME WITH THAT ONE! They get paid everytime someone uses it.

There are some genuine people on this site, but they are a needle in a haystack. It's a numbers game. You have to go through 100 people to find one good one.

I still sift through many people weekly, but have learned not to let it bother me. I delete their e-mails and move on.

Love, Light, Laughter, Leave a Legacy,


DiscretionsMphs 52F

8/18/2006 8:36 am

Hi everyone,We own the Discretions Swingers Club in Memphis and we have been through the same as ya'll.This is why we try to get people to come to the club and meet people at the club,It is byfar the best way to meet couples and single guys and girls.This way if someone don't show up your time isn't wasted.I'll bet you will meet someone on your first trip or at least make some friends.

LV_Latin_VL 30M
1 post
8/28/2006 8:01 pm

Well I say that you two are better off if those people chickened off?
Maybe you need to try a younger crowd?
email me if interested

rm_Yknotme_69 52M
206 posts
9/2/2006 1:40 pm

Unbelieveable how I have heard about the unreliability of single men..I can honestly say I have never stood up anyone I agreed to meet.On the contrary, I have been stood up..

rm_supermexxx6 44M

9/28/2006 1:12 pm

Hey there sexy cpl,
yep ur rite most people on here r fake i keep running into the same problemsthis sucks and it just waste's my time!

rm_vpman 42M
2 posts
9/29/2006 12:38 am

hi, i get the same thing, i was gold but no one ever followed through, if you want me or my wife for fun then let me know my private email is %%%%contact info removed by reviewer%%% hope to hear from you and ignore the people who do not follow through with their meetings

funnygordon 44M

10/2/2008 4:05 pm

well, i get lots of attention from "local pros" thus the new headline... to date, two people have met with me. one when i lived in pittsburgh, one here in vegas. don't have much luck, though, i think as a single guy there isn't much interest

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