Frustrated on AFF  

vaninow 48
193 posts
12/4/2005 6:04 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Frustrated on AFF

I am feeling as if I am wasting my time here. I have a loving partner and I am so happy but my drive for the sensual experience runs high and my lover can't always keep up. That is the reason I am here, but the men who want to be friends are so far away, aren't there any interesting men in SF who aren't dandies or metrosexuals who are just ordinary loving men who are not hung up their looks, body, size who are respectful and who can communicate that they need to fuck? We are complex as human beings with so much mental chatter going on, we are often living life in fear. I thought being poly would be easy you know, find another love and be happy. We are so hung up status, possessions, entitlements it prevents up from true happiness. I am fortunate to have this open relationship with my partner and the freedom to live life to the fullest and find it to be a beautiful gift but I never thought it be so difficult. Maybe it's me that is too hung up, maybe it is me who has these enormous expectations....but do I?


norprin5 55M

12/4/2005 7:40 pm

nothing wrong with wanting more. wish i could help. good luck with your search!

King Nor XVIII


rm_boycody16 57M

12/5/2005 5:29 pm

it's not you ...it's our fast paced,instant gratification,me first,I'm the center of the universe lifestyle that every one wants to emulate...it happens when you trade your soul for that which is pandered to you on a daily scale....cheer up...not all are lost...


Agapanthisrex 48M

12/8/2005 8:23 pm

We live in a world of fear. Can we overcome to include new ideas and move on into new things? Many people are protective motivated and cannot free themselves from the restraints of thier own minds to live free and fulfill thier own dreams. Afraid of failure, afraid of success, afraid to look foolish so therfore you don't give it your all so that you have an out when you lose. Once we get past the fear of intimacy we can open ourselves up as a free minded individual. But how can we do that when many are afraid of even simpler things. It should be easy to fill a need but are we afraid of actually putting ourselves out there to be seen?
Or are we afraid that we can now and for once get what makes is tick and the responsibility that comes with joy?
The person that finds you and fits with your need must first be truly self aware.


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