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I was chatting with a nice couple in New Hampshire this morning (they're in NH, I'm in VA). One of the things they asked me was if I AdultFriendFinder was working for me. The answer is "yes", with a "but". So far I have met two women from AdultFriendFinder. One was just.... well let's just say that she didn't turn me on when it came right down to it. Now the other! She was a dream fuck; a horny redhead who loved to suck cock and swallow cum. We had a great time together. She was trying to get her freak on before she married somebody else. It's weird, I no, but it happened and I'm glad it did. Now keep in mind that I've lost track of the number of weeks I spent on AdultFriendFinder before even this much happened.
The problem with meeting people online is that it's something of a numbers game. For starters there are WAY many more men seeking women than there are women period, and then half of the women are looking for women or couples. There are also porn bots out there trying to direct you to stupid websites and girls who just don't know what they're doing. Based on my experiences here are a few things I can share with the world about AdultFriendFinder.
1) Don't waste much time with Standard members. If you think one's worth a holler, by all means holler. But letting Standard members contact you will usually result in porn bot spam more than anything else. Gold and Silver members are definately the most serious about meeting folks. As an aside, I think Gold members should have the option to let Standard members contact without an additional fee. I would like to be able to turn it on and off as I feel like it.
2) Women who look like and say exactly what men want are often, but not always, fakers. This is especially true of Standard members.
3) Be patient. Be prepared to sift through many profiles just to find a few that turn you on. Even then only a fraction of those are going to reply to any message you send. And be prepared to be shot down a few times and don't waste any time on it if you do. Not every woman's who's your type is going to think you're hers. On girl's "ewww" is another girl's "wow". Like I said, it's a numbers game. If you keep making contact, you will eventually get some attention.
4) Steer clear of any woman who's freaking out in her profile about all the things she doesn't like about AdultFriendFinder members. If she can't deal with life online, chances are she'll have trouble dealing with other facts of life as well.
There's another great site for meeting people called Lavalife. I like it better in some ways. You don't have to spend any money until you are ready to make contact. They also protect your photos from being copied off the internet. What I like about AdultFriendFinder is that you get unlimited use of the site for the duration of your membership. So if you're on all the time, AdultFriendFinder might be better. And yes, I've met women on Lavalife too, but that's another blog....
5/27/2005 7:57 am
Ran across your blog cause I was doing a search on "New Hampshire". Thanks for the positive comments about AdultFriendFinder.|
I agree, one has to be cautious about gay guys posing as "Women" and unwanted gay guy "winks". You get what you pay for and Gold is the only way to go. I like the way they set up this site but I am waiting until I get on High Speed Internet in my area then I will go Gold. For one thing the large photos of Nude women will be worth it wont they? I notice that standard members can download these photos but they are very small and you have to open them with Microsoft Photo or something like that.
Beware of Women who dont post a photo. There is usually a good reason. Either they are gay guys posing as women, or 400 pound women with serious emotional and mental issues or undercover cops. I cant believe that a women would not be shy posting on a site like this, but would be shy about posting her photo especially when she sees how hundreds of women are showing everything, and I mean everything, but their faces.
One can develop a sixth sense about whether the poster is a women or not. Most women dont talk like a Marine Sailor in a Whore House in Shanghi, if you know what I mean, even horney girls who love sex.
Thanks for the Lavalife tip. Funny how it doesnt show up in a Google search. I cant wait to try it.