This is Not a Whorehouse  

unchainedphila 51M/42F
74 posts
1/2/2006 11:19 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

This is Not a Whorehouse

Some guys come into the chat room and get very aggressive with women and couples. The standard line seems to be, "Hey, I live close to you, let's meet." This approach never works, of course. The woman/couple says no - more or less politely - and informs the guy that his approach is a turn-off. Often, the guy then gets all indignant and says, "Well, I thought this was a sex site." Like he partially filled out the profile on that damn free standard account, and now he deserves pussy, damnit.

Seriously, guys, chill. You can get laid on here if you work at it. If you come in and act like merely showing off your cock and figuring travel times to the woman's house entitles you to action, you will never win. Instead, come in, chat, get to know people, be nice, show some wit, intelligence and class, and maybe you'll have some fun.

rm_rd2ruin 46M

1/3/2006 12:52 am

Yeah, what they said...

Sex site, sure... brothel, no. I'm only a part-time girl and have plenty of guys hitting me up, which is fine if their opening line wasn't "I can be there in twenty minutes". 'Scuse me, but do I know you?

And my target audience is fairly small, I can only imagine what it's like for the women and couples on this site.

imBambi 58M/50F

1/3/2006 1:08 am

Amen to that! Very well stated.


sweethoneysouth 37F
280 posts
1/3/2006 2:31 am

Bravo!!! I cant tell you how many times I have heard just that. "Well this is a sex site you know" Like if they bully you enough you will say. Well, ok... Come over and fuck me.


Great post !!


Brainy42 53M

1/3/2006 4:02 am

I'm going to disagree completely. There are 250 guys here for every women. Those are terrbile "odds". That means I have to build and nurutre through coorespondance roughly 250 "friendly" relationships before I can find a women who even wants to chat back! I don't have time to do that let alone date or dare I think it... screw.

Yes I can see why women don't like the "Hi, let's screw approach" but writing a personalized email for each and everyone before you know if she's even remotely interested is completely unrealistic. It takes a good 30 - 60 minutes to write a decent, thoughtful email.

Now if the women here who want to meet men would get of ftheir collective arses, pay some money so they can read profiles and see pictures and initiate contact on their own (let's face it, it's their market) then maybe this whole web would work a little more efficiently.

In spite of what you might think, on the whole the total amount of effort being made by the males vastly exceeds that of the females.

To put it in more concrete terms, of the 19 million profiles supposedly here, 18924000 are male and 76000. Ignoring for the possibilities of threesomes, and assuming all wmoen here are hetero (and they're not, I swear about half the women here are gay) that means at anyone time, 18848000 or 99.6% of the males here aren't being laid at least not by wommen. And that dosen't consider all the women here that are here just to chat and meet friends.

I agree that the practical way to get laid here is to do exactly what you say, but don't think for a moment that just doing that is going to be the answer for all guys. The truth is that over 18 million guys here are going to get squat regardless of how much effort they make.

Take me for example, I've just spent th better part of 20 minutes writing this response. Go look at my profile, read my blog and tell meif you'd fuck me or not. I'm a good man, nothing really wrong with me in a practical sense, but in about 7 weeks of effort spending on average probably 3 hours a day on this stupid web site, the only actual offer I've received was from a dude wanting to blow me.

I've written close to 180 emails and I've only had I three responses.

So next time some guy sends you an email saying "Hi, let's fuck" at least ave he decency to take a quick look at his profile and send polite "No" or a "maybe" back to him. And don't complain that don't have enough time to answer the flood of email you've got in your inbox to me either. Just hink of the aount of time all those guys took collectively to send it. Might only be 30 seconds each one, but if you get 250 a day, that means your benefiting from 5 hours of effort fromt he male population.

So bite me (please).

unchainedphila 51M/42F

1/5/2006 12:49 pm

"I've written close to 180 emails and I've only had I three responses."

So your method doesn't work, but you want us to listen to you. Why?

I have a better suggestion: YOU read the profiles, and approach the women or couples who you may actually have something in common with, rather than spamming 180 people with "wanna fuck?". In other words, get off your lazy ass.

__Huntress__ 55M/57F

1/7/2006 5:09 am

Unchained ...

Tell it like it is, "get off your lazy ass" ... I love that!


CheepEavedTreed 45M

1/7/2006 8:15 am

While we can go back and forth on the ancillary aspects, let's face the music, shall we? Everyone grab a partner! (Brainy42, you might get stuck with a guy, don't worry though, you don't have to kiss him, he'll still blow ya anyway!) On the guy side, we are severly outnumbered. In fact, I have been searching the dictionary to describe the gap between the number of men and the number of women and I am thinking the distance between here and the sun is accurate. What this means is if you are a scientist and you are going to build a ship that is going to take us to the sun, a beer can with a Dorito for a sail ain't gonna get us there. Just as if you are trying to get a woman to talk to you on AdultFriendFinder, you have to come with more that a beer can and a Dorito. The chat room is like a bar, you don't get very far walking in and saying to every girl, " Hey, I'm hard, wanna help?"
I haven't meet to many women of fher either but I did realize I had to
be a bit more tactful. Ya know? Step ya game up, playa!
Huntress, when we gonna lock niple rings? just kidding...

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