What he wants!  

tule33 52M
102 posts
2/25/2006 3:15 am

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What he wants!

Men do you share your fantasies and secrets with your significant other and at what point do you? I've always believed in being direct, in a nice way, and when appropriate, meaning not at the first introduction (sometimes however that is a necessity).
Women at what point do you share your deepest secrets and fantasies? I'm sure there are a million answers for that too.

I guess I'm wondering about meeting new people, especially in an environment like this. I'm always gauging, thinking, "Is this the real person".

I know a site like this allows a lot of people to be something they are not.For some that's a release, a good thing, for others it's an abuse I'm sure.
Still for me, the friendships, are what's important. The emails, the chat, the occassional plutonic or non-plutonic () get togethers.You form a web of regulars and the excitement of a new email or letter is always appreciated.
I've been called a sucker more than my share of times for being so trusting, which is odd for a New Englander.
I'd prefer to think that we're all here for different reasons and as long as it doesn't harm me or anyone else who am I to judge.

I see a lot of references to phonies and other descriptions.I also see the good side of people, the friends I've made. Yeah the bad guys are out there, but I like to think the good ones outnumber them.

Be well all and enjoy your day ...and night!

pragmaticCTcpl 61M/50F

2/25/2006 11:25 am

Him: Yes. I do share my secrets and fantasies with her. We have one of those very rare relationships that grew and developed from a friendship. The "deep, dark secrets," that were disclosed, began when we had become best friends...which, continues to this day. There is NOTHING that I cannot, have not, and will not, share with her.

Her: When I knew that I could bare my soul to him, and, even without asking, knew that those secrets and fantasies would forever remain confidential, and not be judged or denegrated.

Fortunately, we have gained positive relationships from those we have met (and had sex with) from this site...more so than the negative, or "phony" ones. Friendships gained, are always rewarding, whether we've had sex with them or not.

We'll agree with you that there are those that are "flying under false colors," but that's usually evident during communications. If we're not all on the same page, then we don't meet.

tule33 52M

2/25/2006 12:25 pm

I read your last blog right after I wrote this...excellent piece (the blog..that is..lol ) Thanks guys.

Take Care

rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
2/25/2006 1:49 pm

i think we all have a different comfort zone. after 11 years i am finally comfortable telling Sail my fantasies.

Purry {=}


tule33 52M

2/25/2006 2:10 pm

Purry...I think everyone is comfortable telling You their fantasies. Be well.

aLovelyBrunette 41F

2/26/2006 6:55 am

11 yrs sounds like a good time to wait (no, just kidding)I think each persons comfort level is different. I can appreciate if someone feels comfortable enough to share some of their fantasies with me, but its hard for me to do the same too soon in a realtionship. I have a hard time opening up and pouring my soul sometimes, for different reasons. I agree, a site like this allows ppl to be a little different than what they would be on a "normal" environment. For me, it allows me to be a little more expressive. Not because I'm normally not that way, but I have many different sides to me (must be the gemini in me) and a lot of different things interest me, but my biggest trait is shyness and because of this I dont normally open up. I worry that my interets and likes may not be shared by the other person, or might seem boring or something and so I "bottle it in." Then when I say or do something, once I reach that comfort level, ppl appear surprised because they didnt expect me to be like that. It really depends on each person and I dont think because they are one way in one setting and a different way somewhere else they are being phony. I think people have various personality traits and in the right setting they'll be comfortable enough to show all their colors.

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