How many women have trouble having orgasms?  

tribent 48M/42F
22 posts
10/26/2005 10:17 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

How many women have trouble having orgasms?

I know that there are some women out there who have sex but never actually expect to have an orgasm. They usually say that they had an orgasm to shelter the ego of the man they are with but they don't ever actually have one. Mrs X is such a woman. She did not have her first orgasm until over a year after getting married. Even then it was only with a significant amount of communication and foreplay (not to mention more than an hour of intercourse) before she was finally able to climax. But, after more than 10 years together, they finally reached a point where she can have orgasms quite regularly.
Mr & Mrs X thought they were normal sexually until they started swinging. It was then that they discovered most women climax pretty quickly (usually less than 5 minutes) and poor Mrs X is left high and dry everytime. She said she was close with one quite talented gentleman whom she was very atracted to but even after 4 hours of very intense sex she just wasn't able to reach climax. So, to this day she has never had an orgasm with anyone but Mr X.
Although I am sure there are lots of men out there who will claim they can help Mrs X out, I doubt many could (unless they have experience with someone just like her). What I am intersted in is how many women are out there who have this same problem.

demonicsexkitten 41F
10671 posts
10/27/2005 9:10 pm


Not that it's anything to be happy about? but i'm just such a one. i've NEVER orgasmed. by myself... i can force tiny mini ones... though i'm not sure they really count. i haven't the patience to spend time with it. with men? most just can't. i've been close a couple times... but it's like i get *almost* there, then it stops. i almost had a g-spot orgasm on 2 occassions, unfortunately i was still a virgin at that time and had no idea what was happening, so panicked and made him stop. i only just found out a few months ago that that was what it was (i read about it on a website).

there are tons of men who claim they can help me. "you're just not with the right guy!" and "they just don't know what they're doing" or "but i know how to touch all the right places"... they seem to think the reason i haven't is bcuz my partners have been insensitive and uncaring to my needs, and just in it for themselves. NOT so. I've actually never been with an insenstive guy. Also... i've never lied about not orgasming. But I don't expect one anymore, so it's OK. ish. lol.

I was reading on a website about... a thing called "Pre-orgasm"... which is apparently what i suffer from. i have to find that site again, but basically it's as i just said: get almost there, then just stops. I still dream and hope for orgasm though.

roseroom 49M

1/16/2006 5:57 pm

Great question. I think that Ms. X needs to compare herself to a more "common" fraction of the female population. My wife and I argue (on friendly terms of course, usually while naked) that maybe women that swing have a propensity for achieving orgasm more easily than non-swingers. If they didn't, then why swing?
Let me explain by posing this in another way: If you enjoy travelling, you probably travel more than people who do not. If you enjoy eating at Taco Bell, you probably go to Taco Bell more than people who would rather eat at Taco Cabana. Etc. So, by deduction, is the same true for sex? Do people who enjoy sex have sex more often? I think yes.
Of course, this all hinges on orgasms being the reason for sexual contact... and this, I'm not sure is the case. I certainly don't have sex with my wife to achieve an orgasm; it happens, but why we get out of it is much more than that. --Roseroom

txtineal 38M/38F

2/12/2006 1:35 pm

or perhaps women that have a harder time orgasming crave more daring sex in order to turn them on more? a woman's orgasm is very much in her head, so the more stimulating her surroundings, the harder/easier she comes?

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