Why Won  

travelingintexas 41M
9/13/2005 9:00 pm
Why Won

Background Music:
Wouldn’t it Be Nice, Beach Boys

Is there any greater innate need in us as humans than to feel love? Outside of the three basic human needs: Food, Air and Shelter, is there anything that pricks the hearts of humans the way our need for true defining love does?

War’s have started because of it. It is why we sing. It is why we cry and lay in bed for days without caring for the world. We will sacrifice everything for it. The need so great we forget even the need for those aforementioned basic needs. Why is it that we cry out to be valued and loved, not just by lovers but by parents and friends? Why is it that the words and heart love of a father to a child can direct that path for eternity, set the legacy and lay the groundwork for the future? Why is it that a lover spurned will grade every relationship thereafter by that first lovers words?

Why is it, that something so emotional is accounted a living, breathing piece of our anatomy? That words spoken to the effect of “torn heart”, “heart sick” and “broken hearted” define our very need. Life’s blood pours through that vessel. Not just as physical matter but emotional and spiritual. Individuals desire and will give everything for a piece of recognition from another, desiring to be loved so greatly they can function barely at all if they believe they are not loved.

Why have we this need to reach out to others, to be accepted and loved, told we are worthy and why do we sacrifice this heart over and over again in the slim chance of greater healing and total awareness of another’s love? Why do we sacrifice all for so little? Why is it a demanding need that overwhelms us? Why is it that our bodies react to it in such a way we believe we are nothing without it?

Why won’t you love me?

bella_ 47F
4030 posts
9/13/2005 11:48 pm

We do all this in hopes of finding our better half. It is a lonely life without our soul mate...and I love you...you are so sweet!

DefiniteTrouble 50F

9/14/2005 3:51 am

Bella pretty much summed up what I was going to say.

Great post T.

And you kow I luv you, too...

five_speed 41M

9/14/2005 5:19 am

I don't love you. You're a heterosapien comment whore.

AAWWW dammit, I can't lie! Not to you! Of course I love ya, man! Now... would you pass me a Bud Light?

In all seriousness and candor, I like the post, and I identify with it. It is something I could have written myself a few years ago, but I don't agree with it, not anymore. I think a person can give enough of themselves; they can try and fail enough times that they just go numb. Then it doesn't matter anymore.

five_speed 41M

9/14/2005 5:20 am

and jez, in case you miss my comment in the other thread, I'm sorry for what I said. I didn't mean for anyone to take it personally.


9/14/2005 5:36 am

I not usually a follower , but I have to go along with my Sistas here. Luv ya ,,,, have you decied yet about convention , ,ohhhhhhhhhhhh the jokes we could play.

Big Huggs And Kisses


Synn74 42F
1206 posts
9/14/2005 5:41 am

you know I loves you..
believe me when I say I'm going through the entire realm of feeling unloved and wanted these past few days..it sucks to feel this way...

I welcome you to the House of Syn...

pussinboots4u 50M/47F

9/14/2005 9:32 am

Oh, great - now you're going to be a love whore!!

Love ya, babe!

LustGoddess2469 50F  
2453 posts
9/14/2005 9:40 am

Well, I love your writing - does that count?


Barbiebunny69 43F

9/14/2005 10:22 am

Because innately we know... that there is someone that will not let you down as they themselves have weathered the ame scars and dares to do it right. It isnt a matter if u are loved..look at the posters here..but can you accept it and believe it and smile and know you are no matter what?


frbnkslady 48F
6183 posts
9/14/2005 10:35 am

I fell in love with you in your blogs. Between you and bella, mzhuny.. you have all covered the range of emotions 99% of us feel. MOst just cannot express them is all, or as well if we tried. I know I cannot. I am better then I used to be about myself though, but I still have my 'pity me parties' where I cry all night and ask 'why not me?' 'whats so wrong with me?' NOTHING is wrong, just have not found 'him' is all. I will though. That is what keeps me going even through the bumps.
Love ya, T


ThumbChickStool 33F

9/14/2005 11:45 am

Drats, all these prettier women stole my thoughts right out of my head! Maybe I should start wearing those tin foil helmets to keep people out of my brain, lol. In all honesty, Trav, we love you for you.

dano6332 56M

9/14/2005 12:35 pm

I hate to be a downer but I think we need "love" and acceptance because deep inside we are all scared. Were all scared of different things but being alone and unloved is at the top of my list. Probably goes back to the caveman days when if you were alone you were easy prey. Heck there was no verbal communication then but we still bonded together in couples and groups for warmth, protection and procreation. I am glad we have changed enough to be able to figure out that yes, we all need someone for whatever the reason and instead of picking nits from each other we can have a nice glass of Cabernet but I still think were all just scared at some level.

anchcpl4fun 40M/44F

9/14/2005 2:30 pm

I find it amazing how different types of love can actually have a physical feeling attached. when a lover "breaks your heart" that actual feeling that accompanies the emotional pain and is centered in the chest area. the reason the heart became associated with love. Then the actual physical feeling you get when you look at your child. The reason we strive for love and acceptance, the feeling of euphoria that accompanies it. Its worse then a drug, and so much more healthy. why do you think married ppl live longer statisticly (sp), and people have been known to die of a "broken heart".

rm_1hotwahine 63F
21091 posts
9/14/2005 3:59 pm

I agree with Lilith - Honni's quote is the gatekeeper. Undoubtedly. Work on it.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

impish_pixie 54F
6867 posts
9/14/2005 6:57 pm

came over from sizzle's...I'm beginning to think I live in the wrong state. You guys blow me away with your honest emotions...and where can I get one of you??? Nuff of that though....here's one of my fav quotes...

"We crave love and affection not because we are weak and needy, but because we know innately what is important. We were made to love and to be loved."

so then my question is...Why do we fight it so hard??

I make mistakes, I am out of control & at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. ~Marilyn

rm_CookieLips2 61M

9/15/2005 8:25 am

Trav, Love is what we desire because it validates our existence and our sense of self worth. With out love we are nothing, so to speak. I am not a religious person by any means but go check out 1st Corinthians in the Bible. Seems to say it all right there.

jim5131 55M
1296 posts
9/15/2005 2:51 pm

Couldn't add any more to the comments here....great people, adding to a great post.

redmartinigirl 43F

9/15/2005 6:07 pm

your words are written straight from my own heart. you are a wise soul. and darn cute too, even with a blue dot over your face!

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/16/2005 3:12 am

The overwhelming desire for Love is inbred before birth...Take a look at a newborn and see how they cry when someone other than the mother and/or sometimes the father pick them up. When you find the right person it completes who you are as a person. Not only do you have your individuality, but you also have a partner. Everyone in between that is just practice and a learning experience.

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