Who's Coming With Me? If so! Saddle Up!  

travelingintexas 41M
9/6/2005 11:08 pm
Who's Coming With Me? If so! Saddle Up!

Background Music:
Theme to Braveheart

There are two kinds of men in this world and you must decide which category you fall into. There can be no grayness in your choice. There is absolutely no in between. These are my beliefs and in the world of Traveling that makes them right and law.

There are two types of men. The Trailblazer or the Follower. You are one or the other and there is no choice except for these two.

The Trailblazer founded this country. Strong men of vision, willing to stand against the currents and prove modern day theory wrong, came in search of this land. They found it, fought for it, bought it and took it. Strong men. Never full of cowardice or laziness. They dreamed big dreams and imagined the possibilities, never the negatives. The Trailblazers established this country on the east coast but kept their eyes to the west.

The second type of man, the Follower, waited for the Trailblazer to do his work. Waited for him to secure the area and make it safe. For the Follower prefers not to stand against the elements set against him. He prefers a life of ease and luxury while preferring to let others fight his battles for him. The Trailblazer naturally cannot abide the Follower. It is partly for adventure and partly because of the Followers despicable ways that a Trailblazer leaves the comfort of his surroundings and seeks out the new. It is for this reason he seeks out with boldness that which others do not understand.

It was the Trailblazer that built this country from the ground up. It was brave and true men that came to Texas, that explored the Louisiana Purchase, that dared to dream big and explore the hidden wilds of this country that created the space we have today to live and play in. It was the Trailblazer that packed up his family and possessions and wagon trained across this vast country seeking riches or a home or a newness in their life. It was the rough and tumble Trailblazer that sought California gold and dreamed a colossal dream of linking the two coasts together by rail. It was the Trailblazer that roughed the wilds, dealt with the natives and sought out a better place for those that would follow. Trailblazers fought for independence from Britain. Trailblazers stood in a small mission in San Antonio, Texas against the military might of the Mexican army.

Trailblazers fall down and make mistakes. However a Trailblazer always gets up and tries again. Tries a new direction, a new path or a new river current. Trailblazers have songs written about them. Stories told about them, legends created around their antics and history. America loves a Trailblazer. It is in our spirit. Movies glorify them, songs magnify them and books sing their praises.

A Follower always comes behind. Never one to be in the lead, a follower is satisfied to remain in security, to never test new waters, to grow fat on good food and wine provided by others. A Follower loves to whine about his current place rather than change his position. A Follower loves intrigue and duplicity as he knows no discipline from the trail. A Follower surrounds himself with those who will sing his praises for imagined gains, not out of loyalty. A Follower is always portrayed in America as the the Evil one, the trouble maker who hires others to do his dirty work and must be defeated. No one roots for a whiner or complainer here. How easy it is to sit behind the walls of security and question those outside the walls!

With these two definitions in place, men, which one are you? Are you a Trailblazer or a Follower? Are you following up on that new idea, going outside your comfort zone or are you a Follower? Are you content to sit behind the walls of your man made palace and feed off the gains of others?

I submit to you that a woman, in her minds eye, fantasizes over the image of a Trailblazer. A Man’s man! A man that will fight the wilds, gather the knowledge and explore the unknown to create for her a Utopia. My belief is that a woman dreams of a Trailblazer and secretly despises the Follower.

Ladies, I speak to you now. Why do you settle? Why do you seek a Trailblazer but settle for a Follower? Is it because so few men are Trailblazers anymore? Or did he convince you he was a Trailblazer but really was a Follower. Do not settle for less than your dream for to do so is to cheat yourself of your place of worth. The price you will pay long term is not worth it!

Men… Be Men. Not in word but in deeds. Act in the best interest of those around you, not yourself. Trailblazers sought new lands and better places for their people. They left there homes because of the selfishness of the Followers. Take up that dream! Take that high road! Be a Trailblazer in the eyes of not just yourself but in those you surround yourself with. It is my belief that Trailblazers draw others to them.

I heard this quote 5 Years ago. I try and live by it.

"It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who at best, knows the triumph of high achievement; and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat."

-Theodore Roosevelt, speech titled "Citizen in a Republic" delivered at the Sorbonne, Paris, April 23, 1910

It is your choice today. Be a Trailblazer or a Follower. Be a high achiever or a cold and timid soul. But For those coming with me… Saddle up!

A wink and a Thank you to womenlooking4fun womenlooking4fun

rm_1hotwahine 63F
21091 posts
9/7/2005 1:01 am

But don't you think that the ones you refer to as followers are also the ones who pick up the pieces of broken trailblazers and help put them back together?

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

dano6332 56M

9/7/2005 6:07 am

I was picturing the music from the good, the bad and the ugly Nice job big guy. I personally have been both in life as I am the first in at the scene of an accident, I will still perform CPR on a stranger and will always stand up for the underdog or a woman and child. I also agree and think trailblazers are great, hell as you so eloquently pointed out they made this fine country but without followers everything would grind to a halt. They are the ones who make the laws and hold society together. They may not get books written about them or have schools named after them but they are the publishers and principals that make it possible for everyone to read the story.

rm_sj365 55F
2414 posts
9/7/2005 6:16 am

OMG! Trav! You lil sexist thang you! "Why do you seek a Trailblazer but settle for a Follower?"

Not your point (and I hope not your intent), but perpetuating the notion that men GET to trailblaze & all us lil wimmin folk get to do is dream of one day standing by the side of (or behind) one?

Maybe I want to trailblaze damn it! Maybe I am! Grrrrrrrrr

*whisper* ok, all you follower-type guys saddle up behind me, cuz he's a big guy...I might need some help here.

SJ ~ causing havoc & disention for your reading (dis)pleasure

rm_Network_Minx 47F
542 posts
9/7/2005 7:21 am

My father is a trailblazer. The one problem with trailblazers is that they tend to step on lots of toes. I adore my father but it wasn't easy being his daughter, nor has my son found it easy being his grandson while living with my father.
My father is a City Manager. He has been fired several times. He has had death threats. Their house and cars have been vandalized. We have been harassed. He has had people investigate his private life and finances and then put them in the local papers. He is constantly being sued. He has always said that if he wasn't pissing someone off then he wasn't doing his job.

Trailblazers are not easy people to live with, but they are never boring.

rm_Network_Minx 47F
542 posts
9/7/2005 7:28 am

My mother is the follower to my dad's trailblazers. She has always set the tone of the family. You need both types to make anything work. They have been married for 43 years.

DefiniteTrouble 50F

9/7/2005 7:29 am


I AM a trailblazer, damn it, with a bevy of male employees who follow me.

I REFUSE to settle for anything less than equality in a relationship. Oh...there is one exception. I will gladly follow my man into the bedroom...anytime.

lmao...as SJ mentioned, I know this wasn't your point when writing this truly fabulous post, but you knew there would be a couple of "us" outspoken women who'd bypass the point completely. Sorry.

(hangs head in shame and scurries to the kitchen to fetch T a beer and some Cheetos...)

DefiniteTrouble 50F

9/7/2005 7:33 am

And in response to the post in general, yes men, BE MEN. Makes us wet...

DefiniteTrouble 50F

9/7/2005 7:39 am

(Add's "saddle" to 5's ever growing shopping list of Texan items. Just doing my job as his official stalker.)

pussinboots4u 50M/47F

9/7/2005 10:23 am

15 years of trailblazing together, side by side - and it is great - up until one wants to go one direction and the other wants to go another direction - then I will follow my trailblazer as he makes the turn and be at his side again.

Very well written, and it goes for women as well as men. I guess I have a question for you - what do you want for yourself - a trailblazer or a follower? I'm curious.

Theflinkychick 105F

9/7/2005 11:49 am

Trav, excellent, excellent, well written post. As with any strong statement, this has prompted some great comments. When you make a strong statement like this, you have to make black and white statements and for the purpose of general comparison this is the only way to make a strong statement also a clear one.

Like 1HotWahine said, Trailblazers get hurt. Someone has to be there to patch them up (and sometimes fight them down to the ground to get them to stay still long enough to get the bandages on) so they can go back to blazing those trails. TxCelt is right, it takes a strong woman to stand up to the man who just blazed that trail and tell him to sit down and so she can patch him up. Lots of women don't have that nerve or want to expose themselves to that great of a chance of seeing the man they love broken and bleeding and too damn proud to ask for the bandage himself. Maybe putting herself in that position makes that woman a trailblazer too.

Not all who wander are lost.

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
9/7/2005 2:27 pm

Trailblazers here we come!!

My grandparents were trailblazers in this great State... Heck, I am related to Daniel Boone, as well as others of the American Revolution and the Battle of Texas!!!

My great grandfather's saddle was on display in the Institute of Texan Cultures.....


Guess, that is why I am naturally a trailblazer kind of gal; as well as, I gravitate to the trailblazer kind of guys....


rm_CookieLips2 61M

9/7/2005 2:38 pm

Nope, the days of trailblazers are gone. The only ones blazing these days are the ones with the money. So, that must make a lot of us followers. But, I can ride a horse and all I need to know is where are we heading for? Saddle up the Palomino like Neal Young once said......................

five_speed 41M

9/7/2005 5:45 pm

Hey man. I agree with you 500%, but since I agree so whole heartedly and believe it so completely, I cannot go with you, because that would make me a follower. So I'll blaze my own trail, just like I always have.

God willing and if the creek don't rise, our trails will cross one of these days. Till then, ride on, partner, and don't look back.

rm_mtnravyn 60M
890 posts
9/7/2005 5:47 pm

"One doesn't discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time." Andre Gide

Loved it. Flinky was right "When you make a strong statement like this, you have to make black and white statements"

The aspect I loved most and encourage in my friends (male and female) is "make mistakes." If you are not out there trying then you are missing a lot. Playing safe (followers) will ensure a degree of comfort, but it will also ensure a high degree of boredom. But two or more trailblazers have to work out systetms in whihc the blazing is shared, becasue it does usually take more than one to accomplish great things. I certainly have made my share of mistakes and hopefully learned from them. But the pain of those mistakes has not kept me from risking and moving forward (or maybe that's at a tannget, or) or at least moving. An old friend used to say "If you want to know whats right for you, move in a straight line til you hit a wall. Then turn right."

Barbiebunny69 43F

9/7/2005 5:59 pm

<--go gets a big belgian horse for trav... Must always tell the truth, ride a fast strong horse...

onelittlesecret 33M
1579 posts
9/7/2005 8:00 pm

I think there are two different types of trailblazers, the ones who have the followers supporting them, and the ones who are by themselves. History only glorifies the winners.

There's another saying...The view never changes unless you're the lead dog...so I think it can be worth while to keep at it, even if being a trailblazer makes you an outcast, instead of a hero.

As far as coming with you T, wouldn't that make me a follower?

I also got to thinking about what exactly makes a trailblazer. Is it that they are doing what they feel is right, rather than trying to fit in with everyone else? You know that can be a little self-centered at times. For a lot of people, it make take greater courage to be subserviant.

rm_1hotwahine 63F
21091 posts
9/7/2005 8:19 pm

It's impossible for everyone to be a trailblazer. But this is the quote that this thread reminds me of what some people are saying, and one where we might find consensus:

"Good Leaders are hard to find. So I've decided to follow myself."

Peace Out from the Pacific...

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

DefiniteTrouble 50F

9/8/2005 5:22 am

LMFAO T...just the response I expected. (makes another beer and cheeto run)

bbsxktn2005 44F
3 posts
9/8/2005 6:27 am

damn straight, traveling. oh my god, i wish more people felt the way you do. guess thats the problem, not enough traiblazers to give a damn about this country or anything else for that matter. and any woman that decides she will be the trailblazer in anything she does, well more power to her and if someone doesnt like women like that, fuck em all! i am a trailblazer. i do what i want, when i want and how i want and if someone gets in my way, they better be ready for a fight. because all hell is gonna break loose. if i want something bad enough, i take it and noone is going to stop me. i know what i want and i usually get it. hope you find everything you are looking for.

rm_sj365 55F
2414 posts
9/8/2005 2:36 pm

Trav - Sorry, I couldnt hear you over the crunch of these delicious cheetos DT brought me. Did you say you arent speaking to me?

SJ *mussing up Travs hair with her orange fingers* Yer so cute when you're pouting!

(Princess Lips)

9/9/2005 11:06 am

where have all the cowboys gone?


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