What is Foreplay?  

travelingintexas 41M
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12/9/2005 11:35 pm
What is Foreplay?

Good Evening Ladies and Gentleman,

The following has been a post I have wanted to write about for a while. I however, haven’t had the time to write it, felt I shouldn’t or had some other excuse. Please come into my study, Bard and Bulge close and lock the doors please. Make yourselves comfortable sweet ladies and gentleman. Tonight, the Knuckledraggers are locked out. As always, pass the liquid refreshment, may the smiles be genuine, and smoke ‘em if ya got ‘em!

I want to talk a little about foreplay. The concept of foreplay. What comes to mind when you think of foreplay? I know, I know this is a sex site. Oral sex, touching, kissing, and other physical “things” are generally considered foreplay. However, I want to make a suggestion to you tonight, that if not new, will maybe remind you of the excitement of true foreplay in a sexual relationship. Some of you may think "well duh!" (Ladies) and possibly some of you will think "Ok, I can try that."

Some of you are involved or searching for long term relationships, friends with benefits, or some of you one night stands. The one night stands are much more difficult to handle under my theories but hopefully you can glean something here tonight.

There is no secret. This site is dominated by men in numbers but the reality is, the women hold the cards. So, men, I will be speaking to you tonight in regards to foreplay and ladies listen up. 25 to 1? I do not know the men/women ratio, however it is enough that to have a fighting chance men, you must set yourself apart. How you ask? I have sent my picture, profile and e-mail carefully crafted of course to her profile. Right guys? Lets take it farther.

Gentleman, foreplay starts with your first e-mail. Let me take a shot at that again because the mumbles were loud. Foreplay, starts with your first e-mail.

fore·play (fôrpl, fr-)
n.
Sexual stimulation preceding intercourse.


It may be a bold statement, but I believe foreplay starts in the mind. On this site, it is the art and game of seduction launched through the medium of the written word. Gentleman, we are visually stimulated. We see a pretty face, turn HomoErectus immediately and our natural tendency is to let our Knuckles drag. This is the complete opposite of women. Capturing the imagination of a woman is imperative to successful and seductive foreplay. The moment either side of the equation is interested, foreplay has begun. Did you catch this ladies? This is for you as well! Once your imagination is triggered, foreplay has begun. You are now in the act of Sexual stimulation preceding intercourse. Even if sexual intercourse is not for another month.

Does this have to be sexual in connotation? No. There is a sexiness to the mind, in the playful banter of words and teasing that represents the physical act. Gentleman, on this site, it includes you doing some homework, finding pressure points to her mind that trigger an emotional response, much like you seek those points of pleasure during the actual physical act of sex. However, at this point, it is mind based. Can you have sex without this step? Of course, but we are discussing ways to increase sexual pleasure in a relationship. Capturing the mind is the first step.

Next, it is my fervent belief that as the relationship progresses, foreplay starts in the morning. I see a bunch of scratching heads so let me explain. I don’t know your situation but let’s assume you both work and have 1.5 children. You come home from a hard day, deal with the kids, watch some TV, pay some bills, crawl into bed look at her or him and say “wanna screw?” OK, this is where you scratch your heads some more.

Everyday life is enough of a drag without the expectation of “turn it on instantly” sex in the evening. Can it be done? Sure it can, but it is another chore, not necessarily a pleasure. Sorry, everyone, but its true. Here is what I believe. Gentleman, it takes some mental preparation on your part but it can be done. Foreplay begins in the morning. Before you leave for work, write a love note on the bathroom mirror, write her a hand written note of how sexy you find her and place it in her purse, send her a text message during the day that teases her mind, call her voice mail and tell her how amazing a mom/wife/profession she is, drop by her job at lunch and ask how her day is going, or the easiest thing of all, send flowers just because. Don’t worry about cost all the time. A single rose can say as much as that huge bouquet.

Small things add up during the day. When you get home Gentleman, perform the chore she has to do that night for her without prompting. Spend some extra time in the kitchen helping. Miss 15 minutes of that football game or Tivo it to fold clothes for her. Put the trash can out. Take some of the load and stress off of her. Heres one: sit down with her for 10 minutes and just ask her how her day was. Or, pull out you organizers and go through your schedules together for the next day. Small touches throughout the evening can make a world of difference. Each touch a promise of what is to come later. Whisper in her ear how lovely she is when she is stressed and yelling at kids. Catch her off balance at strange moments with compliments or something you want to do to her when you are alone. (Ladies, taking notes? This goes two ways, give what you want to receive.)

Just a stray thought here. Guys, take a shower before getting into bed. I know, I know, its just a suggestion. You know best... sometimes.

The aforementioned ideas are for everyday use or for the day building up to that special night out or date.

Foreplay on date nights can be just as much fun and it starts from the moment you get ready to go out. Foreplay can include your “getting ready” time for yourself. Take the time to feel good about you. Taking care of you says to the world I care about me. I like me , I am sexy and you should think so to. Plus, for both ladies and gentleman, pride, when you walk in the door of a restaurant, theatre or public place, in your companion gives and offers you a sexy feeling. He/She is mine. You can’t have them. Or in some case they can (for some of you) but pride is a major issue and shouldn’t be taken lightly.

Guys, I know, I know, I’m the southern goofball, but old fashioned my-momma-taught-me-my manners is an amazing turn on. Even if your terrible about opening car doors and doors for women normally go the extra mile when you go out and just do it. Being treated like a princess is most little girls and most adult women’s dream. Do that for them. Don’t make me tell you again!

For heavens, sake, tease each other. Touches, nips at the back of the neck in a public place, seductive running of hands across erogenous areas when no one is looking promises things to come later. Dark movie theatre? Guys, make your touch a touch of promise later in another dark place. Walking down that hallway together, suddenly finding herself pressed against the wall, gentle yet strong hands holding hers and your mouth seeking hers and then just as quickly stopping and walking on suggest powerful seduction and promise of even more later in the evening. (It would be impossible to touch on every possibility for this.) Gentleman, tease with your mind first and then your body. Learn to tease with words and double entendres. Not crass but subtle. Mixing them up with pointed words of promise.

Learn the art of self control and learn to tease. Find ways to make her mind and pulse race without touching her. Or if you do touch, break contact with a smile. Remember, you are building up to something. You have been building up to this from the first e-mail.

Ladies, men are visual. Seduction, as you know, works both ways, ever here on this site. A Knuckledragger Woman on this site, is one that doesn’t seduce back. That takes with out giving, that makes selections based on shallow reasoning and uses rather than offers the same in return to the male. Remember, just because the ratio is off between men and women, men respond to respect. (No ladies, don’t go there. . That’s not what I meant.) Treat the man you are with as if he is number one for you. Offer him glimpses of what he may or may not touch later in the evening. Seductive looks, movements and words are powerful tools and begin the moment you walk out the door as well.

Tease, tease, tease. OK. Maybe this is a personal thing but I am going to throw it in here. Ladies, tease your man. While visual, a promise of things to come will stimulate him both mentally and physically and encourage him to respond to you in a positive way.

Guys, really want to drive her insane? Tease her seductively and gently all day, walk her to the door seducing all the way through words and looks, kiss her longingly and then wish her a good night.

***Groans****

I know, I know. Just a thought, but keep this in mind, foreplay starts again the next morning. You could always return early that next morning with a picnic basket for breakfast in bed.

Essence of a Woman! What Your Momma Shoulda Taught You But Didn


tillerbabe 56F

12/10/2005 12:47 am

chocolate.


bardicman 50M

12/10/2005 12:59 am

I really wanted to Request Review on this one....
Looks like someone is trying to get laid .. ROFL

Ok seriously folk.. Men are pigs.. At least the knuckle dragging variety. I have to agree here with Manky Boy. Men and Women alike seem to forget that there is so much more to fore play than kissing and sucking and licking... No its deeper than that. You have to show respect and stimulate the mind of your partner. That, IMHO, creates better sex and longer lasting relationships.



I am not dead yet


DeepRiverDreamin 47F
46 posts
12/10/2005 1:45 am

Foreplay is a mating dance and the mental part the choreography.


frangipanigal 45F
10406 posts
12/10/2005 2:40 am

Worth the wait...

My mind HAS to be stimulated before my body can follow. On this site it's all about first impressions....that first message received is make of break time for sure. A phone number and a picture of a dick is just not going to do it!

Yes, we do all want to be treated like a Princess (deep down) and in return, Princesses can be naughty too!

Frangi x


TTigerAtty 62M

12/10/2005 4:44 am

Trav...Thought "fore play" had something to do with golf?


DTduzDallas 50F

12/10/2005 5:00 am

I wish you'd quit copying shit out of my private journal. Oh, c'mon...like you actually have sex!


DTduzDallas 50F

12/10/2005 5:08 am

Seriously, this a good post. If you stimulate my mind properly, I become putty in your hands. But, that's just me.

An articulate email will get a much better response than a "let me show you what I can do with my tongue." Stimulate her mind and she'll most likely show you what she can do with hers.


MISS_KINK 38F

12/10/2005 7:35 am

It has been a while since I have visit and wow you always deliver Trav, never a dull entry with you.
Have a beautiful weekend


dangerouslyfunu4 53F

12/10/2005 8:09 am

You hit the nail on the head !!!!! I love foreplay ... I told someone I needed it all day.. He just didnt get it .. So I guess I will send him to blogland so he learn a thing or two... Kisses Di


EyeCandy33333 44F
761 posts
12/10/2005 9:44 am

Trav-darling-emmmm I am emailing myself to you rite away foreplay has begun-(ok where r you getting this all from because you know it is wat we love-lol-but seriously I also like that-whether there is sex or not-that look at me before we sleep and first thing in the morning as he kisses my nipples and my sleepy eyes open up-"God you are beautiful"-works bigtime)Terrie


Sister_Act_4_You 38F/38F

12/10/2005 10:01 am

cool!


slidein2meplz 62F
1994 posts
12/10/2005 10:44 am

The men (and women)here in/on this ~~ friendly place ~~ should be addressing you from here on out as....

~~ SENSEI ~~

IE: teacher

Very well written and informitive post Trav!

~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~


rm_goddess1946 106F
13518 posts
12/10/2005 5:12 pm

4 play is a 24-7 thing and it all begins in the mind...

as the Tantric Sting Man would sing...
every breath U take...every move U make...I'll be
watchin' you...


yes, with every breath you take, if U are paying attention...

sounds like U are paying attention, Trav and it
reads like U've learned a lesson or 2 along the way...

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
{=}


barbiebunny 36F
5597 posts
12/10/2005 5:13 pm

WHat did u do to bulgie? Huh *tapps paw*

Its good to be...ME


LIBlonde97 40F
1028 posts
12/10/2005 5:30 pm

Show 'em how it's done Trav!

Guys/Livein BFs/Husbands....It's all true... Those of you who know me, know I have a rather healthy sexual appetite. However, like most women... you can't just ignore and/or annoy me all day then expect me to turn it on like a switch at 10:50pm when I get into bed with you. This was a big missing concept in both my ex-husband's and ex-liveinBF's minds... which is why they've both earned the moniker "ex".

It doesn't have to be every day... we all know that life interferes. But it should be more often than not...

And girls, dont just figuratively (and god, not literally) lie there. Make him remember everyday how lucky he is to have you. Make an effort... guys like to be seduced too. They are not above flowers and love notes. A single sentence on a little card with your perfume on it is enough to melt the toughest man...

Take it from me. I'm no supermodel, not a rocket scientist, not a kamasutra maven... but I know how to treat the man I love- like gold. (In fact better than gold, because I certainly lose earrings more often than boyfriends.) I've not lost one yet that I didn't want to be rid of.

Be his friend, his support, his confidante, his cheerleader, be his lover... In life, in love, in bed. He'll never let you go.

Great post (again), Trav.


demonicsexkitten 41F
10671 posts
12/10/2005 5:51 pm

ohhhhhhhh!!! i love this post

"Guys, really want to drive her insane? Tease her seductively and gently all day, walk her to the door seducing all the way through words and looks, kiss her longingly and then wish her a good night."

That's actually one of my..umm... fantasies? dreams? Well: i always imagine that "The One" will do that. But that's just an oddity of me. lol.

Thanks


TravelinsAuntPat 50F

12/11/2005 1:21 am

DUTZ THAT IS ABSOLUTELY HILARIOUS THAT YOU SAY LIKE THIS GUY HAS SEX. FOR REAL HE IS GETTING THIS CRAP OUT OF SOME FABIO NOVEL. LIKE HE IS THE POSTER CHILD FOR FOREPLAY IN THE MORNING MUHAAA I HEARD TRAV HAS SOME RANK MORNING BREATH MUHAAAAAAAAA......


TravelinsAuntPat 50F

12/11/2005 1:23 am

SLIDE ROFLAMO SENSI OF SEX IF THAT IS THE CASE I AM GETTING A SEX CHANGE RIGHT AWAY. THE THOUGHT OF MY NEPHEW BEING THE SEXUAL GURU OF THE CENTURY SCARES ME TO DEATH.


TravelinsAuntPat 50F

12/11/2005 2:26 am

OK HERE IS ONE OF THE EMAILS THAT I GOT AFTER MY LAST BLOG. CAN'T PEOPLE TAKE A HINT I STATED VERY CLEARLY I AM NOT LOOKING BUT I WANTED TO SHARE THIS ONE WITH MY BLOGLAND FAMILY CAUSE THIS DUD SOUNDS LIKE HE IS TO ACTIVE FER ME. HE MENTIONS SOMETHING ABOUT HEAVY BREATHING AND AS BAD AS I FEEL RIGHT NOW I GET WINDED JUST STANDING UP OUT OF THE LAZY BOY.... BUT I THOUGHT IT WAS FUNNY CONSIDERING HE TALKS ABOUT FOREPLAY AND THIS WAS TRAVS SUBJECT THIS WEEK.

SEE FORE PLAY FOR STARTS WHEN MY BELOVED WAKES UP AND LEAVES ME A YELLOW STICKY ON THE BATHROOM MIRROR REMINDED ME THAT I DID NOT FLUSH THE TOILET IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT AND THEN HE DRAWS A HEART AND PUTS THE LETTER U UNDERNEATH IT. THAT IS A LOVE NOTE.

SO THEN AS THE DAY CONTINUES AND HE CARRIES ON HIS JOB OF MANAGEMENT IN THE CONTRUCTION FIELD WHICH IS JUST A HUGE BABY SITTING JOB FOR 50 MEN THAT HE HAS BELOW HIM HE CALLS ME UP AND CROUCHES ABOUT ME ABOUT HIS BAD DAY AND BOY THAT REALLY GETS ME ALL HOT AND BOTHERED AND SEX IS THE FIRST THING ON MY MIND.

THEN THAT IS FOLLOWED BY HIM COMING IN THE DOOR KISSING ME HELLO AND THEN SAYING WHERE'S DINNER. AS I STAND THERE ALL LOOKING DOE EYED AND SAY "OH YOU EXPECTED ME TO COOK FOR YOU MUHAAA" MEATS IN THE FREEZER AND THE MACARONI IS IN THE CABINET GO FOR IT BIG BOY IS MY REPLY.

THEN THAT IS FOLLOWED BY ME TRYING TO GET INTO BED IN MY PJ'S WITH MY COMFY GRANNY PANTIES ON AND HIM A PULLING AT MY CLOTHES LIKE HE WAS PICKING LINT FROM BETWEEN HIS TOES GOING DROPPEM AND LETS DO IT. AT WHICH POINT I TURN ON THE LIGHT AND LOOK AT HIM IN HIS LOVELY BROWN EYES AND SAY LOOK SEE THE FINE PRINT ON OUR MARRIAGE LISCENSE IT SAYS
"TO HAVE AND TO HOLD FROM THIS DAY FORWARD WITH A HEADACHE STARTING ON THE FIRST NIGHT OF HONEYMOON AND EVERY NIGHT THERE AFTER SO DON'T ASK"
AT WHICH HE LOOKS ME IN THE EYES AND SAY'S
"DROP EM BABY CAUSE I AM GOING TO GETER DONE"

SO THAT IS FOREPLAY AROUND MY HOUSE YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER WE ARE INBREED NIEVE COUNTRY FOLK WITH NO MORALS. NOW BACK TO THE GOBERS EMAIL HERE IT IS -------

I currently live in Austin and travel to the Dallas area often and may relocate there around the early part of next year. I'm 48, 5'6", 140lbs, blond, blue eyes, very generous to those I like (& who obey) and I'm a bit of a romantic and I want to be able to laugh and tease with you. Chat/email is OK, but if we click, I will eventually want to meet. An ideal first date would be dinner at a nice restaurant with lots of laughing, teasing and flirting and if everything is right and you strive to please me, we can be each other's dessert (As Mr. Potato Head said in Toy Story, "Even a potato can dream". Sex is an art and I believe that as a reward for good behavior, if I do everything possible to stimulate and satisfy my partner, then she will reciprocate and the sex is fantastic. I'm very oral, well educated, run/bike for exercise and a reasonably normal person. I need to feel some physical attraction and be able to enjoy your company so there's something there between those bouts of heavy breathing. If we ever meet and have chemistry, I'll spoil you in and out of the bedroom and hope to be spoiled in return. I'll be happy to exchange more pictures with you.

FOR REAL GET A LIFE SPOIL ME ROTTEN I LIVE IN THE LAP OF LUXURY WHY WOULD I WANT TO LEAVE IT WHEN SOMEONE ROMANTICALLY TELLS ME TO
"DROP EM SO HE CAN GET ER DONE" LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLL


helga_hansen 49F  
1987 posts
12/11/2005 5:37 am

*Remembers something said about freckles*

You're such a smart boy... why do yah have to live soooooooo dang far away!! *Helga forgets for a brief moment her age limit thing*

Hx

Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥


impish_pixie 54F
6867 posts
12/11/2005 9:15 am

You never cease to amaze me. How does a man with this insight and depth stay single? I'm seduced. You're amazing. Think I'm gonna make it mandatory for every man I meet to read this blog before I agree to see him. Your Moma must have been a hell of woman to have raised a son like you.

I make mistakes, I am out of control & at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. ~Marilyn


rm_EE407 41F
3903 posts
12/11/2005 11:23 am

Trav, I think you've got the right idea there... lol...


Synn74 42F
1206 posts
12/11/2005 12:28 pm

I'm telling ya Trav should teach a class!!!!

I'll sign the hubby up whilist me and my "friend" go play..lmao

well done my friend well done



I welcome you to the House of Syn...


Camille61 50M
15 posts
12/11/2005 12:45 pm

Really excellent post Trav... you DO have the right idea. Thanks for taking the time to write out the details. And I agree, it does work both ways. It all starts in the mind and continues from there. I'm discovering there really are men out there who know these things... it's so encouraging!


EyeCandy33333 44F
761 posts
12/11/2005 1:26 pm

Everyone is rite on this-but you can treat them very well all day and still not be treated the same-but your heart cannot let go-so you make what good you can of it and have a lot of times you wish it could be so different-so you just be sad and wonder whatever to do-guess just get thru each day.[/]
T


rm_cockmerollme 45F
1223 posts
12/11/2005 2:43 pm

You need and editor. Great post, way too long.

LET'S GO METS!!!


bangingmyhead 54M
157 posts
12/11/2005 7:23 pm

Great post, Trav! It's always good to have a refresher course. It always amazes me when men don't so simple things like holding the door open for a woman (and the women who don't know what to do when I do it for them).

Of course, a lot of guys will probably be sending you hate mail


rm_AmishAmy 100F
246 posts
12/11/2005 10:19 pm

ahhhh.......so this explains why bard and bulge are such shmoooooth operators.....thanks for the headsup tex


EyeCandy33333 44F
761 posts
12/12/2005 9:18 am

Hey 36 we're not in Kansas anymore-I guess-lol.


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