My Friends... Help Me Decide...  

travelingintexas 41M
9/14/2005 4:02 am
My Friends... Help Me Decide...

I have been up all night again, talking to friends old and new alike. Sharing joy and pain, fear and excitement. I was up this morning when DT got up. I swore I was taking the day off from blogging. DT called me a liar. Guess she was right. However to prove to her I was still at Starbucks I flipped on the web cam. She saw my face for the first time. I thought she had seen me before but I was wrong.

I was frazzeled with emotion as I talked to her. Something was stirring again in my spirit last night and I know not what. It started with an email that taunted and called to me. It proceeded into a conversation with my heart that terrified me. Many emotions swirled and kept me awake. However, DT made a comment partly in jest to reveal my face. As you know, I Have always revealed my heart openly and honestly and my trek on this site has been one of personal growth. But I realized when I put that original picture up it was because I had something to hide. Now I have nothing worthy of being hidden. So my question to you today is, should I remove the dot and reveal myself as I am today or keep the mystique? This is not a comment whore question but one that has signifigance to me, however petty and small. If I was in joking mode I would at least request payment with your yes vote

SunneyOne 43F

9/14/2005 4:57 am

I vote for remove the dot.

yagottalikit 49F
583 posts
9/14/2005 5:18 am

If you are comfortable with revealing your face.....remove the dot!

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

five_speed 41M

9/14/2005 5:23 am

I vote for leaving it. Otherwise, you'll have to take the dot off of that silly Dr. Phil Caricature as well, and I don't want to see that happen.

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
9/14/2005 5:27 am

to show your face is a personnal choice on this site....many of us have reasons for discretion either we have children which we don't want coming across it or employers

to show or not to show is a question that can best be answered by you alone....



9/14/2005 5:31 am

It is always nice to see who you are talking to, I vote yes if you feel comfy then do it.I at first didn`t show mine, but as you mentioned after your show your heart , emotions etc , why not the face.

sweetest_sin_05 37M/37F

9/14/2005 5:56 am

I think the dot should stay, and the untouched photo should be shared with those you want to connect with on a different level. Already, your picture stands out because it is not the ever-popular crotch shot. That says something about you already. If you want to, take it off. But I don't see anything wrong with it. Keep your full face shots for your private albums.

dano6332 56M

9/14/2005 6:02 am

Trav, Just slow down and think about what rose there a way for this to hurt you if you do? If not, and your ready, go for it.

Synn74 42F
1206 posts
9/14/2005 6:05 am are beautiful inside and out to me ( haven't even seen you) your outside means little when your heart encompasses so much..if people are only looking at the exterior of you and passing judgement..then they haven't looked deep enough..

eventhough it seems we haven't chatted in forever but I'm always remove that dot baby!!

I welcome you to the House of Syn...

rm_sj365 55F
2414 posts
9/14/2005 6:53 am

I'm torn...while I'm all for revealing of self, I'm afraid of how I will will I handle the disappointment if you take off the dot & you don't have the huge, bloodshot, googly doll eyes I've imagined you with all these weeks now....I just don't know if I'm prepared.

SJ *wondering if his google eyes rattle when he shakes his head*

pussinboots4u 50M/47F

9/14/2005 9:38 am

You should do what you are comfortable with.

I black my eyes and face out, don't even have any photos in my network. I share my photo with those that I've gotten to know better, those that I feel safe with and it is usually through IM or email (then I delete the sent message). I had a hacker/stalker problem a couple of months back and it was an ordeal that has made me absolutely paranoid about sharing anymore than I allready have.

rm_talldarkavg1 105M
10172 posts
9/14/2005 10:23 am

I think you should change from an oval to a dot. Then change the color, the blue isn't working. Maybe a nice puisé or something.

[blog talldarkavg1]

frbnkslady 48F
6183 posts
9/14/2005 10:30 am

I think you should keep the dot in place. But I have seen you on cam... It keeps the 'trav' in your blogs... We all have gotten to know you with the dot on... post your facial pics in your network albums...thats where all mine are. T


(Princess Lips)

9/14/2005 10:39 am

the dot is lovely of course,
but would rather look into your eyes...


digdug41 49M

9/14/2005 10:41 am

I dont know traveling? I showed my mug from day one cuz I dont care who see's it but ya know its a personal choice, I would do it increase the babetivity around lol

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

ThumbChickStool 33F

9/14/2005 11:50 am

I agree with sweetest_sin_05. Keep the dot on for the public pictures, but share the untouched pictures with those that you want to share it with to connect on a deeper level. I would do that, if I had the pictures worth posting on here. But since the pic I have has my son in it, AdultFriendFinder won't approve of it. Oh well.

Many kisses

bella_ 47F
4030 posts
9/14/2005 12:14 pm

I have fallen in love with the blue defines our dot + fuzzy head = what you must. I will adapt Don Giovanni...Viva la tua vita!

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
9/14/2005 1:20 pm

network for face,spot for public,safe secure and only those who need to see it,see it

I'm a

i'm here to stay

Synn74 42F
1206 posts
9/14/2005 1:43 pm

*wonders if she'll ever get to Trav in person in the Medusa room* sighs

I welcome you to the House of Syn...

anchcpl4fun 40M/44F

9/14/2005 2:38 pm

i'm thinking it doesnt really matter, its not the dot OR the pic that makes you, its more what you have written and shared that makes you. wether the dot stays or goes, I think most will still be coming back to help you satisfy your need to be a comment whore....

Wordsmith2004 36M
7233 posts
9/14/2005 2:48 pm

a lil'Mystery is always a marvelous thing....either through personality or personal appearance...make sure you leave SOMETHING to the imagination...if you wear your heart on your sleeve, where a mask over your eyes...if you have your face front and center for all to see, fold down apart of your inner self from view.

It's always best to have an ace in the hole...a lil' secret that nobody knows...mystery keeps people coming back for more...

Glad I could help!

Wordy de Wordtasique

Conserve Water and Prevent Global Warming: Shower With A MILF!

beewulf9 38M

9/14/2005 2:59 pm

I have to agree.. if you orginally put the dot there for a specific reason than you should only share the mystery hidden with those worthy.

If there is no specific reason, than you would have removed the dot long ago.

DefiniteTrouble 50F

9/14/2005 3:48 pm

OK OK OK....damn!!!

Leave the freakin dot!!! I'm thinking my next move will be be adding a purple dot to mine and becoming a heterolesbian...seems to work for you...

Yes, it was the first time I'd seen his face without that freakin blue dot.

I usually spend cam time with him watching weird people I don't know wander around Starbuck's, T screaming "I wish that bitch would get outta my seat!"

I was literally floored when he popped up with my coffee this morning. He's amazingly handsome. And his comment??? "Ughhhh huh you stalked the wrong guy didnt ya?" lol...

lmao...nah (assembles stalking kit # 2) I'll take you both on...

rm_1hotwahine 63F
21091 posts
9/14/2005 4:02 pm

If you remove the dot, will you stop being as open? It isn't a question of whether you should or not. If you want to and you're ready, you will. Also, fyi...go read Cleavis's blog for today.

PS: I'm struggling with the same issue, only for different reasons

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

rm_texasgal1978 45F
225 posts
9/14/2005 5:20 pm

a man of mystery is attractive..I vote to leave the dot.. make us want it more ..

barbiebunny 36F
5597 posts
9/14/2005 6:50 pm

Traveling help
My acts been deleated BB69 --IM NOW UNDER BARBIEBUNNY

Help me spread the word!

Its good to be...ME

redmartinigirl 43F

9/14/2005 7:41 pm

If you are comfortable showing your face now, then you should do it. Especially if the emotional growth has been done behind the dot. It should be freeing and uplifting to you - to see how far you've come from the man you were before, to now. besides, it'd be great to see what the man that writes such wonderful things looks like. keep smiling and writing

KhaosKitty 42F
123 posts
9/14/2005 8:15 pm

*refuses to ask which head is bobbly*

I vote for keeping it on the current picture, but putting up another without the dot. That way, both sides are satisfied.

rm_DaphneR 58F
7938 posts
9/14/2005 9:45 pm

As long as there are two eyes behind the dot it'd be okay to remove it. I really don't want to find out you're a cyclops. Those things scared the crap outta me when I was a kid.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
9/15/2005 12:31 am

travelingintexas, you do what is comfortable for you. I didn't reveal my face shots until I was comfortable in doing so. I am still leary about showing my face in my blogs, but I feel comfortable in doing so with my blogging friends.


playfulwithyou33 56F
961 posts
9/15/2005 4:17 am

da dots all folks...

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/15/2005 7:07 am

Perhaps something a little see thru...Triangular maybe...hexagontal (is that a word?)

rm_CookieLips2 61M

9/15/2005 8:13 am

Okay, Dot Head, do what you think is best for you. If you keep the dot shouldn't it be orange? Orange as in TU? You know, that tattoo you have is a good way for us to recognize you no matter what kind of head you may have! Maybe the dot should have been put on your arm instead.

jim5131 55M
1296 posts
9/15/2005 3:04 pm

The dot is as important or unimportant as you want to make it.. Whatever you feel you need to do... it's not like you have anything to hide, considering the amount that we all know about each other. I don't think you're protecting your face from hideously perverted writings, as you are not prone to do. You have no reason to be ashamed of yourself.

I purposely put my face in my photos..but I also keep posts and comments sane. I would be flattered if someone recognized me and struck up a conversation. If it was a negative comment I doubt they'd say it to my face...I get very few confrontations in a job tha's fraught with them..

With women it's different, I suppose. There needs to be some protection for them...they shouldn't be identified unless they want to be. Besides, it adds to their mystery..

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