Here We Go... Again?  

travelingintexas 41M
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11/17/2005 5:24 am
Here We Go... Again?

Well... I pick em well don't I?

I think I will be heading down to Austin today. Why? Well, in preparation for a job interview as well as to be closer to my kids. I want to take them to the movies this weekend. I am preparing in my heart for my first Thanksgiving without them.

Wondering if I should take them out for a big dinner or something. How do you guys that have done this handle it? Any ideas?

Dang weather has my head feeling the size of a Semi-truck and it is driving me insane. Cold, hot, cold, hot, cold hot. Gotta love Texas weather. It can never make up its mind.

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rm_RxSUGAR 60M
102 posts
11/17/2005 6:23 am

What ever you do,try to do it in a way that will make it an enjoyable time for them, even if it may be difficult for you.Think of them,make them enjoy the day.Try not to show that it is a difficult day for you. Hope this helps a little. Brought back 'double' memories for me. Both as a child and as a father.


rm_FUQANDUS2 42M/43F

11/17/2005 6:27 am

Awww...that is so sad...I say take them out for a big dinner...you don't need to have a "special assigned holiday" to have a big dinner and be thankful for them....have it anyway...it will be just as special!
Good Luck!


redlipsprincess
(Princess Lips)
51F

11/17/2005 9:00 am

A divorced friend of mine- mixes it up- for fun...when doing the alternate holiday thingy-

let them have dessert first
breakfast for supper
etc

just make it fun T...they will enjoy it!

hate the running around on holidays....

TTFN


sexymermaid6956 63F
26393 posts
11/17/2005 10:12 am

well enjoy time spent...hugs laughter and what better way over a good meal....good company and memory builder....just enjoy.have fun...and laughter lots of it...

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rm_corezon 53F
3376 posts
11/17/2005 10:42 am

A big dinner or at least their favorite restaurant even if it's Pizza Hut. As my kids started getting older I started letting them have their friends join us. The more the merrier, always...

I've come to realize that when all is said and done a holiday is only a date on a calendar. The real holiday is an elusive spirit whenever and wherever it is shared.

Corezon


barbiebunny 36F
5597 posts
11/17/2005 11:27 am

yup big dinner.. i like reverse isea by red..and i havent changed my name.. Im still cruella..I got banned unjustly (woof)

Take care
Cruella

Its good to be...ME


angelofmercy5 59F
17881 posts
11/17/2005 12:23 pm

Do whatever they want and just make it fun. I'm sure that what they enjoy most is time spent with you...so just show them that you are happy when you are with them....that will be the best gift of all.


TTigerAtty 62M

11/17/2005 12:25 pm

TiT....

Went thru what you're going through about 12 years ago! I remember being all distraught during the holidays. Just take all the good advice given above, trust that the main thing is to spend time with and love your kids when you do get to see them. Bite you lip and don't say anything negative about their mother when the kids are around you! Your kids are resilient! If you show them you love them by spending as much time with them as you can, they will grow up fine! My only daughter was 9 when I was divorced. I worried about what might become of her growing up in a split family. Her mom and I just tried to do the best we could for my daughter.

How'd it turn out? My daughter was an honors student in high school, stayed away from teenage pregnancy, stayed away from the drugs, etc. She's now a college senior with a 3.9 GPA in psychology and headed toward grad school to work toward a PhD. She's a sweet young lady, daddy's little girl. Unfortunately, her mother (my ex) passed away in May after a 10 month battle with liver cancer. Fortunately, my daughter was able to spend that entire time helping and supporting her mother.

We never know what the future holds, Trav. Just do the best you can today, pray to God and trust that things will work out well for your kids! Be kind to and respectful of their mother.

Hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your kids!

TTigerAtty


kokpelli_999 61M

11/17/2005 12:38 pm

I found it was a combination of what they enjoyed versus minimal distraction. It's nice to be able to share each others attention.
Just spend every moment you can with them.Tell them how much you love them and how proud you are of them.
Based on my expereince Daryl, they need to hear these words. Frequently.
You'll do good, I can already tell.
Happy Holidays.


digdug41 49M

11/17/2005 3:14 pm

hey trav dig the pic nice to finally see ya and as far as your kids just enjoy your time with them and listen to them soak up what they say like a sponge no matter how trivial it may be and just show them your love like I know you can have a happy holiday season

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slidein2meplz 62F
1994 posts
11/17/2005 3:44 pm

Here's my thoughts Trav. (course this all depends on how they are...I don't know their ages)..but anyway... first and foremost...don't let them see you have emotional difficulty and don't say anything negative about mom... okay...whew...once you get past that...let the day develop ...take them to see a movie of their choice...then take 'em and have a really nice big dinner somewhere and at some point with each child individually (how many have you got anyway?) ...REALLY, REALLY let 'em know you LOVE 'EM...which by the way...doesn't mean spendin big $$$$ bucks...like mzhuny said...you can't buy it.

Now..for yourself...take a deep breath...relax...they love you and you know it...and just enjoy your day and time with them. It'll all be fine. Then come back here and let us all know how it went... ok..sweet pea! Have fun with your youngin's.....Slide.. {=}


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tillerbabe 56F

11/17/2005 10:14 pm

Baby.. I have to work on Thanksgiving...so my family has Thanksgiving the next day..you TOO can "have" a special Thanksgivng for you and your babies! Do it! They will remember it and LOVE it! (Daddy is always remembered....) {=}

It's not the "Day" its the experience with YOU!


dangerouslyfunu4 53F

11/18/2005 1:18 am

Hey your not getting any closer LOL.. I usuall work Thanksgiving so I have it the next day too. You need to do a little something and make it a tradition you know bake cookies, go out and get something for the tree and do it every year. Its the littles things I did with my family that I remember most. Just be there and enjoy the time you have with them. And hang in there it does get better.


carebearluv2 42F

11/18/2005 8:03 pm

Trav, my ex and I worked it out in a way that allowed both of us to have him for each holiday, although he had him the day before the holiday. For example, he had him for Christmas Eve and I got him on Christmas. This allowed both of us to have him near the holiday (I use past tense only because we have moved out of his state). Perhaps, you can have them the day before and she can have them on the holiday itself.

It doesnt matter what you do, the time they have with you is the true value, but why not have a big dinner and dessert!


_Safira 53F
11260 posts
11/19/2005 11:27 am

Dear Travis ~

First time for me without my sons, too ... for ANY holiday. Of course, mine are 19 and nearly-15. So, somewhat strange ... yes a bit sad ... etc., etc., etc. I'll send good vibes your way. *gentle hugs*

Depending upon your children's ages, ask them what THEY want. Make it Y'ALL'S weekend. I'm sure it will be fun, especially in Austin (one of my favorite cities in the United States).

And remember the candy ... It's a cure-all.

Regards,
Safira

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