Fairy Tales? Yer Darn Tooting...  

travelingintexas 41M
7/3/2006 11:36 pm
Fairy Tales? Yer Darn Tooting...

So the Princess, trapped atop the tall cliff watches as her prince strikes the dragon through with his sword. The dragon falls over the edge and plummets to its death miles below. In walks the dashing prince, throwing open the large metal tower keep doors to continue her rescue. She runs to meet him there in the doorway, to throw her arms around him and be swept away by her dashing prince. Instead, she trips over her 9 inch heels and knocks Prince Jack down the hill and Princess Jill goes tumbling after. Prince Jack falls down and breaks his crown; thereby his parents blame Princess Jill. Prince Jack becomes angry and drinks too much causing Princess Jill to become embittered and a pain to live with.

Silk sheets become flannel night gowns, become separate beds, become conversations full of grunts and yea sure whatever you say I have to hang up now and the fairy tale beginning is forgotten in the events after that momentous day of salvation high atop that cliff and so much for "they all lived happily ever after!"

Life goes on. The dreams of little girls and little boys get swept away in the tide of life and our cynicism says to us in the dark of night there is no such thing as a fairy tale ending.

Right boys and girls?

May I be frank?


There IS a fairy tale. It just depends on which fairy tale you believe and decide to live. It all boils down to a choice. Do I believe the lies and cynicism from my past or do I live in hope and wonder, anticipating something amazing and live the dream when it appears before me. Ya see, your past, regardless of your particular story is a history of memories, memories that affect you very little or greatly depending upon their import. The only difference between believing in your past and believing in the future is one is hindsight, often painted with colors of wariness and cynicism, and the other is painted for most of us with colors of wariness and cynicism.

Oops... They sound a lot alike huh?

See, our attitude towards the impossible is what decides the possible in our lives.

I like that line so much I am going to write it again. Why? Because I can!

Our attitude towards the impossible is what decides the possible in our lives.

We tend to run from change, run from something new, get scared and paint a perfectly amazing set of opportunities with the same colors of our memories, often blurring the vision or possibilities that lie before us with a dried up, crusty old paintbrush. What is it that you truly want or truly seek? Ever think that perhaps your fear of what haunts you from a past you cannot change keeps you from seeing the true Prince or Princess that lies beneath the layers and before your very eyes?

True adventure, either base jumping from a water tower or jumping in faith towards someone in matters of the heart, takes the same type of faith and guts as the other. Standing on that ledge before the jump, somewhere in our hearts we must say "Yes". Until we do, we are saying "no" through our actions.


I like that one so much I am going to repeat it as well.

Until we say "Yes" we are saying "no" through our actions.

Funny how that works.

The bottom line is, either way, good or bad, you believe in a fairy tale. You either believe in a story line that says the good guy or gal never wins or you believe that they all live happily ever after! Either way, action or inaction show which fairy tale you choose to live.

That three letter word "Yes" is a mighty hard word to say sometimes. We often say it at the most inopportune times and miss our most important chances to actually use it well.


Out of fear!

If we chose to believe the sucky ass fairy tale then guess what? We pretty much know how that sucky ass story goes. We are very comfortable in the known quantity. Boy meets girl, boy falls for girl, girl gets pregnant, shotgun wedding, everyone is miserable, life sucks, division of assets etc. We know that storyline and know we can always use the old fallback "I told ya it would be like this!"

However, choosing to believe the other storyline, the one the very core of our heart cries out and yearns for, yet our in-mind story teller lies to us about constantly, that says boy meets girl, boy falls for girl (and vice versa), pretty much leaves me nothing to say after that point because the story has yet to be written. The story is up to each of you. The story is unknown and if you are like the other human beings on this planet, the unknown scares you to death. That is where the hard "yes" comes in.

Which story line will you chose to live?

Either way, for good or bad, life IS a fairy tale... yours!

willing2tryit42 40M
1141 posts
7/4/2006 2:16 am

I've always believed some people were so afraid of dying, that they forget to LIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

rm_jackie40503 69T
1323 posts
7/4/2006 3:35 am

I wrote Further Ramblings about hiding behind the barriers people errect to protect themselves from being hurt. And I think what you've written is another way of saying the same thing. Very good post btw.



7/4/2006 6:02 am

You either believe in a story line that says the good guy or gal never wins or you believe that they all live happily ever after

I'm not cynical enough to believe in the good guy/gal never winning, but I'm also not delusional enough to believe we all live happily ever after. Happiness with a partner takes effort. Much of that happiness is lost when we stop treating each other with respect and start taking each other for granted. Having had a horrible marriage, I'm better prepared to handle my fairytale. I'm ready for happily ever after now.

want2play926 45F

7/4/2006 7:02 am

Still waiting for my prince.....

Another great post

rm_1hotwahine 62F
21091 posts
7/4/2006 7:29 am

I absolutely agree with all of it

HOWEVER... (wouldn't be me if there wasn't a 'however, I know)

The problems happen when that fairy tale is supposed to be picture perfect. Real people don't look or act like Disney characters. Real life generally has a lot more twists and turns that don't magically resolve themselves within a two hour story arc.

It's like the word "compromise." Sometimes it strkes me as a bad thing, when it refers to what feels like selling out. But other times, I like it - when it is in reference to looking at the big picture, re-assessing what's really important and regrouping a bit.

Over the years I've tried to avoid the first kind of compromise (cause selling out or accepting less than one deserves feels awful) but have come to grasp what the second kind really means. And I like it. There is a real no bullshit practical reality to it.

I am thinking of the thing [blog LIBlond97] wrote a couple of weeks ago about real life. I loved that.

What's my point? Hell if I know. Just making conversation.

Good post, babycakes. Bring back your balls, it's worth the $12 or so a month.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

rm_1hotwahine 62F
21091 posts
7/4/2006 7:37 am

oh, almost forgot to answer the question -
I choose the HAPPY story line. Just still figuring out how to get there! (wahine gingerly points one toe towards the water's edge...) Oh yeah, and of course, the 'where' I'm getting to will have to make itself known someday. But that sort of stuff tends to fall into place when all internal stuff is aligned, I think.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

barbiebunny 36F
5597 posts
7/4/2006 9:59 am

yes..come rescue me! Oh a and il return your call promise

Its good to be...ME

Steel_Legs 58M/F

7/4/2006 3:34 pm

I agree with most of the message in this post, but it feels a little bit like you are trying to convince yourself, (are you?).

I am either bored by or wary of people who will not allow for the fact that "fairness" is a concept that does not exist anywhere outside man's imagination.

It is what it is, and our acceptance is the only differentiating factor.


PS - Like the "fact" that sounding like a know it all is only one of the reasons many people find me annoying and arrogant. BTW, accepting this part of me is no reason not to make the effort to change and grow.

absolutelynormal 56F
6563 posts
7/4/2006 6:35 pm

You remember Schoolhouse Rock on Saturday mornings, are you old enough? Remember the one about verbs? Verbs are action words. Change is a verb.

SO what would happen if I pulled out the Baretta, pumped some rounds into the dragon and saved myself? Besides, any guy that looks as good as Prince Charming, you know he's gay anyway.

Sorry, I'm NOT having a good night. I need Prince Charming.

earthShiva 59M

7/4/2006 8:55 pm

D and I are living the dream right now. Life changed in a HUGE way a few years ago. We knew we were on the wrong track, and we simply came to believe that we could have it all. Now we do.

The trick is to decide whether your life is going to be a tragedy or a comedy and not sweat the details of the day-to-day story. The more we set up expectations that our life is supposed to follow a pre-set script, the more room there is for disappointment. Throw away that expectation and what once were setbacks become opportunities!

rm_corezon 53F
3376 posts
7/4/2006 9:51 pm

Cool Jack and Jill story. (I give myself these peptalks, too) What happens to you is not nearly as important as how you react to it.
Makes me wonder how many potential fairy tales we all miss living because we're too busy materializing our negative expectations instead...or trying to force a particular fairy tale version on another specific person...force has nothing to do with it, will destroy it...

Our own potential fairy tales don't necessarily come packaged like we expect them to or where or when, maybe why we so easily miss them...re; what earthShiva said about expecting our lives to follow pre-set scripts can cause us to miss the creative potential in our own individual lives. Every motivational speaker I've ever read or heard says over and over and over again...all of us, constantly, stumble across opportunities virtually every day of our lives in all areas...the trick is to recognize them and then ACT...

(of course they also say be prepared...I guess that explains us doing time on a ff, huh?)

Notfunanymore 105F
10289 posts
7/4/2006 10:39 pm

Shit, I live real life..... "Keeping It Real"....

I take it as it comes. With all that I have. That doesn't mean, it's going to be all bad. Not all good either. I have to take whatever life hits me with! I live life!

I will be on top of the world one day. Even if it's not like anything anyone else desires.......... My happiness, doesn't depend on what anyone else has in mind.

Here goes the smartass............!!.... WARNING!!!

I'm gonna be a, "hippie biker chick"..... didn't you hear? (My plan for now!!! )

I've gotta go for it! The plan, is....... pretty much feasible, if I just let loose!
My daughter, she's the only one that knows of my plan to maybe go with dreadlocks! You're the first I've let in on it on here........... Don't tell! I'm counting on you man!

......... The end will all sum up!

One day!

See!!!! It's all good!

Take care man.

rm_DaphneR 58F
7938 posts
7/5/2006 7:54 am

Wahine, it's [blog LIBlonde97]. The "e" makes a hell of a difference.

And don't ya just love the whole fairy-tale thing until one part slams the book because they either can't face life as they've imagined it or they just don't have the balls to go through with it?

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

rm_DaphneR 58F
7938 posts
7/5/2006 7:55 am

Ew, did she take her blog down?

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

rm_DaphneR 58F
7938 posts
7/5/2006 7:58 am

No, she's just sneaky. LilBlondeNZ

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
7/5/2006 1:28 pm

I found my prince. We are going to live happily ever after.


rm_corezon 53F
3376 posts
7/5/2006 5:44 pm

    Quoting travelingintexas:
    Yea I was gonna say, she jumped the pond and went newbie on us...

    Trav... Still ball unhaving...
lol frustrating, isn't it? I feel for ya!

btw what is that thingee on your arm that looks like a tattoo??

(Princess Lips)

7/6/2006 2:02 am

life IS a fairy tale

Grimm's or Disney version??


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